Emotional Intelligence PDF

JESSABEL R. LIMON  Explore your positive and negative 1. emotions and how you should express or hide them. 2.Demonstrate and create ways to manage various emotions  what you feel on the inside when things happen. Emotions are also known as feelings. a....

JESSABEL R. LIMON  Explore your positive and negative 1. emotions and how you should express or hide them. 2.Demonstrate and create ways to manage various emotions  what you feel on the inside when things happen. Emotions are also known as feelings. a. ANGRY b. ASHAMED c. AFRAID feeling mad with feeling bad feeling fear and a person, or after doing worry idea Ashamed wrong d. Confident: feeling able to do something e. Confused: feeling unable to think clearly f. Depressed: feeling sad, blue, discouraged and unhappy g. Embarrassed: feeling worried about what others may think h. Energetic: feeling full of energy i. Excited: feeling happy or aroused j. Glad: feeling joy and pleasure k. Jealous: feeling upset when someone has something you would like to have or they get to do something you wanted l. Lonely: feeling alone and that nobody cares m. Proud: feeling pleased for doing well n. Relaxed: feeling at ease and without worry, calm o. Stressed: feeling tense, tired, uneasy, and overwhelmed.  Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage our emotions. Emotions are a state or feeling that cannot be conjured up at will; or Emotions are attitudes or responses to a situation or an object, like judgments (Zemach, 2001  - are emotions that we typically find pleasurable to experience. - “pleasant or desirable situational responses…distinct from pleasurable sensation and undifferentiated positive affect” - are those that we typically do not find pleasurable to experience. - Pam (2013) defined negative emotions as “an unpleasant or unhappy emotion which is evoked in individuals to express a negative effect towards an event or person.”  A few of the most commonly felt negative emotions are: Fear Rage Anger Loneliness Disgust Melancholy Sadness Annoyance “Do We Need Both?” 1. BEING AWARE OF YOUR EMOTIONS Being aware of our emotions—merely noticing them as we feel them – helps us manage our own emotions. It also a way to understand how other people feel. 2. UNDERSTANDING HOW OTHERS FEEL AND WHY Part of EQ is being able to imagine how other people might feel in certain situations. Try to understand why they feel the way they do. Being able to imagine what emotions a person is likely to be feeling is called empathy. 3. MANAGING EMOTIONAL REACTIONS when you learn to understand your emotions and know how to manage them, you can control yourself to hold a reaction that is not appropriate for a particular time or place. 4. CHOOSING YOUR MOOD Moods are emotional states that last a bit. We have the power to decide what is right for a specific situation. Choosing the right mood can help someone get motivated, concentrate on a task, or try again instead of giving up. People with good EQ know that moods are not just things that happen to us. ü Adolescence in Western culture is characterized as a period of emotional upheaval and confusion according to Arnett (1999), others described youth’s inner lives using the word like “alienated,” “desperate,” and “overwhelmed.” ü Adolescents are dealing with lots of emotional highs and lows. One minute, they may feel great; the next day, they feel sad and tearful.  They are experiencing new levels of emotional variability, moodiness, and emotional outbursts. They often struggle with being dependent on their parents while having a strong desire to be independent. They may also feel overwhelmed by the emotional and physical changes they are going through. They may be facing different pressures from friends to “fit in” plus the added responsibilities at home, and stricter grading policies in school and expectations to do well in other activities like sports or part- time jobs.  They are particularly vulnerable to a roller coaster of emotions. Pickhardt (2010) added further that the loss of childhood is so painful for adolescents that the developmental challenges are so daunting. The vulnerability from insecurity is high; the demands of growth are many; the conflicts over independence are exciting. Ø Exercise Ø Be kind to others Ø Be open and accept what is going on around you Ø It is good to talk. Ø Distract yourself Ø Do not give in to negative thoughts. Ø Spend time outside. Ø Play on your strengths Ø Be aware of the good things in your life. · IQ stands for “Intellectual Quotient.” It can predict how well someone may do academically. · Emotional Intelligence is the ability to understand, use, and manage our emotions. Emotional Intelligence is sometimes called EQ (or EI) for short. · Emotions are a state or feeling that cannot be conjured up at will. · Emotions are attitudes or responses to a situation or an object, like judgments. ·Positive emotions are emotions that we typically find pleasurable to experience. ·Negative emotions are those that we typically do not find pleasurable to experience. ·We both need positive and negative emotions as they both have benefits to improve our lives. ·Emotional Intelligence is a combination of skills: Being Aware of Your Emotions, Understanding How Others Feel and Why, Managing Emotional Reactions, and Choosing your Mood. ·Adolescence can be a highly emotional stage of life. Everyone experiences different emotions in similar situations as well as similar emotions in different situations. ·Adolescents are dealing with different emotional highs and lows. For a minute, they may feel great; the next day, they feel sad and tearful. ·They are experiencing new levels of emotional variability, moodiness, and emotional outbursts. They often struggle with being dependent on their parents while having a strong desire to be independent. ·Adolescents also feel overwhelmed by the emotional and physical changes they are going through. Further, they are facing different pressures from friends to “fit in.” These pressures also come from the responsibilities they have at home, the demanding policies in school, and the expectations to do well in other activities like sports or part- time jobs.