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REVIEWER IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT he says she / he has to work and the trust will be on PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- is a form of dangerous foundations. relationship closely linked to a person, and which 4. Support...

REVIEWER IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT he says she / he has to work and the trust will be on PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- is a form of dangerous foundations. relationship closely linked to a person, and which 4. Support. It is not only in difficult times that you can only be important to that person. should be supported by your partner. Usually, when the whole world is falling Here are some of the attractions you need to apart, we thought that this is the only time we need remember: support from others. Even in your best,  PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS BASED ON you still need support and when time gets tough, INSTINCT your significant other should still be there. For  PHYSICAL ATTRACTION DOES NOT instance, your partner should be there when you NECESSARILY LEAD TO A GOOD find out that your parents are breaking apart and RELATIONSHIP he/she should also rejoice with you when you get a  PLATONIC ATTRACTION IS IMPORTANT great score.  THE UNATTAINABLE IS ATTRACTIVE 5. Fairness/Equality. You need to have a give and a take in your relationship. Do you take turns deciding Robert Sternberg (1G86) states that a healthy what kind of food to eat? Are you going out with your relationship will have all three components of love – friends as a partner as much as you stay out with intimacy, passion, and commitment – which are your friends? If it is not a fair balance, you will know. described as consummate love. When a relationship transforms into a power struggle, with one party trying to get his or her way all What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable the time, changes get really fast. Expression of Attractions? 6. Separate identities. In a stable relationship, 1. Mutual respect. Will he or she get to know how everybody has to make compromises. But that does smart and why you are? Will your partner listen to not mean you should have the feeling that you are you when you say you are not happy doing losing yourself. You both had your own lives when something and then instantly back off? Respect in a you started out (families, friends, interests, hobbies, partnership means that each partner trusts and etc.) and that should not change. You should not respects the weaknesses of each other and will pretend to like something that you do not like, or give never question them. up seeing your mates, or give up something that you 2. Trust. You talk to a classmate, and your partner love. And you should also feel free to build new wanders about. Is he going to lose his cool, or is he abilities or interests, make new friends, and move going to keep walking, because he knows you are forward. never going to cheat on him? Often it's normal to get 7. Good Communication. Are you going to speak to a little jealous; jealousy is a common feeling. But each other and share the feelings that matter to you? how a person reacts when he feels jealous is what Don't keep your emotions locked up because you matters. Though you trust each other, there is no are afraid your partner does not even need to hear guarantee that you will have a healthy relationship. about it. And if you need some time to think about 3. Honesty. This one goes hand-in - hand with something before you are ready to talk about it, you confidence, because when one of you is not honest, will be provided some space by the right person to it is difficult to trust another. Have you ever caught do that. your partner in a total lie? Like when she told you that she / he was occupied with homework, but it turned 10 Things That Are Unacceptable in Any out that she / he was talking to friends? You're going Relationship to have a lot of difficulty believing the next time she / 1. Cheating. If you are in a committed, monogamous relationship, cheating should be out of the question. Many people will say infidelity is a PREPARED BY: MA’AM LOUISE REVIEWER IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT deal-breaker. However, others will decide to stay 8. Forgetting the memorable day. There’s a with their partners after an affair, and, under the right stereotype that men always forget anniversaries and circumstances, it is possible to heal the birthdays. Whether that’s true or not, it’s not okay. relationship. If you do decide to maintain the It’s normal for something to slip our minds, but your relationship, your partner says they will never cheat man (or woman) should remember those little things again, and they do, it’s likely that they will continue that are important to you. to break your trust. G. Self-destruction. Sometimes we fall for people 2. Putting you down. No one has the right to make who are in rough situations. Though it can be you feel bad about yourself. Whether blatant or difficult, it’s important to be there for your loved ones subtle, if your partner criticizes your looks, your hair, during these times and your laugh, your intelligence, or anything, they’re not encourage them to seek help if necessary. However, worth your time. if they are engaging in destructive behavior that is 3. Not supporting your dreams. In a relationship, negatively affecting you, and they refuse to seek you should be each other’s cheerleaders. When you help, you might want to consider leaving. There is feel discouraged, they should tell you all the things only so much you can do, and it is not your fault that you’re doing right. If you feel like running out of they are not willing to help themselves. options, they should ask what he can do to help you 10. Not caring about friends and family. When you reach your goals. want to build a life with someone, you have to accept 4. Controlling. You should have a life outside of your every part of them, including the people they care relationship, away from your partner. It is not their about. Your partner not making an effort to get to place to tell you who you can see, when you can see know your loved ones can cause a major strain on them, what to eat, or how to dress. This controlling your relationship. behavior can be a warning sign of physical abuse and should be taken seriously. ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP - It involves relating 5. Lack of communication. You will never be able to with the element and taste of romance. It is also grow together if you don’t discuss your wants and highlighted as a major development milestone of an needs. You both need to feel comfortable openly adolescent. expressing your feelings, good and bad, otherwise you might begin to resent each other. PEER RELATIONSHIP - It involves the act of relating, 6. Unnecessary sacrifices. Compromise is a must allowing your person to move out and connect with in a relationship, but if you feel like you’re giving up others. everything, while your significant other is sacrificing nothing, something’s not right. Have you heard SOCIAL RELATIONSHIP - It refers to the unseen someone say they got rid of their pet because their force that brings individuals or groups of people fiancé didn’t like cats? Or quit their job, left their together. This is also a strong among friends when family, and moved to other places for someone who they have common interests and desires. wouldn’t do the same for them? These should serve as your red flags or warning signs that there is The dynamics of attraction, love, commitment is a something wrong in how your significant other treats journey that starts from the most basic attraction you. that develops into love and commitment between 7. Unreliability. When your cellphone is not individuals who may either have a strong foundation working, you need advice, or you’ve just had a bad and background in the early years of their lives (e.g. day and need a hug, do they come to your aid? If stable family) or a poor foundation that may results they’re not there for you when you need them the in poor relationship later on in life. most, think twice: why are you with them? PREPARED BY: MA’AM LOUISE REVIEWER IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT CONSIDERATION - The thoughtful concern for other 11. Learn to appreciate- If someone has done great people’s feelings and opinion. with the assigned tasks, be sure to let them feel they are appreciated. Simply saying thanks will do. This A Role defines a set of norms, values, behaviors, will motivate them to work hard. and personality characteristics attached to a status 12. Be patient- Do not get easily annoyed if such as leader, follower, or club president. Every untoward incident happens. hold your temper. This leader assumes role in a society. They are expected might require constant practice. to behave a pattern usually determined by individuals in the society. Leadership qualities are not exclusive to leaders. Some of these may found in the followership. A Roles of an Efficient Leader that can influence great leader encourages teamwork. Followership people: plays an essential part of the leadership 1. Set example - a good leader sets the best equation. Followers are team that can contribute example. It is the first rule. Walk the talk. Do not success in your leadership. compromise anybody in the organization or team Followership means when people express words, integrity. Never take shortcuts. actions, respect, and support to a leader. 2. Assume and do responsibility - you should be guided by your own duties and responsibilities. Be Role of an Effective Follower that Leaders Need proactive in guiding, teaching, and developing 1. Courage to do responsibility- Effective follower excellence in everyone. feels a sense of personal responsibility and 3. Show Initiative- find out what needs to be done. ownership for his or her own behavior in the do not wait for anyone to tell you what to do. organization. 4. Life-long learner- capacitate yourself. Learn 2. Courage to challenge- If the leader’s actions everything you need to know about the current job. contradict the best interest of the organization, 5. Show enthusiasm- if you come to work happy effective follower takes a stand. Do not sacrifice and cheerful, it provides motivation. Enthusiasm is your own integrity or the good of the organization just contagious. Never let personal issues affect your to maintain harmony. performance. 3. Courage to participate in transformation- 6. Willing to serve- this quality is known of a servant Effective followers view the struggle of change and leader. Showing this kind of characteristics can transformation as a mutual experience shared by all inspire thought and action of your own constituents. members, support the leader and does not afraid to 7. Active listener- to become an active listener, you confront the changes. must maintain an eye contact. Pay attention to facial 4. A can-do attitude- A leader’s job becomes expressions and body language and start a sentence smoother when he or she has followers who are with “I” instead of “You. This will enhance a good positive and self-motivated, can get things done, communication and understanding. accept responsibility, excels in required tasks, and 8. Show empathy- Try to understand where people willingly accept difficult assignment. are coming from and their point of view. Put yourself 5. A collaborative approach- Each follower is a part in the other people’s shoes. of the leader’s larger system and should realize that G. Be sensitive to the need of others- as a good his or her action affect the whole. Work effectively as leader, you must be the one who should know and a team member. feel the needs of your constituents. 6. Courage to serve and subservient- Effective 10. Delegate work- sharing work among members follower understands the needs of the organizations at the organization should be divided into a and seek to serve those who need. manageable task. Explain completely what you are 7. The passion to drive personal growth- Leaders asking the person to do. want followers who seek to enhance their own PREPARED BY: MA’AM LOUISE REVIEWER IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT growth and development rather than depending on Mini-surveys are carefully focused on a specific the leader to do it. topic. It contains only fifteen to thirty questions. It is given to a small sample of twenty-five to Conformity is changing your behavior to be the seventy people. It usually uses more closed than same with the others in the group. For example, open-ended questions; that is, they use when you visit your friend’s home. To show questions that force the respondent to choose respect, you both ask for the grandmother’s from a small set of alternative answers, rather blessing because you were told that it is courtesy. than inviting a freely expanded comment. Use This situation engages you to deal with it by adapting short, simple sentences of less than sixteen to the shared norms and values to gain social words. approval rather than rejection. You were able to conform to the group standards. Steps in conducting a mini-survey Step 1: Clarify Your Objectives Compliance is granting a request or demand asked Step 2: Find Out What Else Has Been Done by another individual in exchange of either a reward Step 3: Choose the Respondents or a punishment. For example, during examination Step 4: Develop the Questions day, you are required to take the test to finish completing the grading period and failure to do so Some uses of the mini-survey are: may result in a failing grade.  To get a picture that will help you to design the next stages of your research Obedience means changing your behavior to follow  To assess the feasibility of a project the demand given by an authority or an adult you  To get reactions from beneficiaries have high regards with. For instance, as a maturing  To evaluate projects. adolescent, you want to contribute to Home-school partnership occurs through the development through inviting other friends to processes of cooperation, coordination, and exercise proper waste disposal. Whether you do it collaboration to enhance learning opportunities, purposely as you try to give the leader your respect educational progress, and school success for or purposefully as it empowers you to participate students in the academic, social, emotional, and actively as a follower. Whatever your reason is for behavioral domains. obeying; it leads to social facilitation. This happens when you are given a sense of responsibility that School-community partnerships can intertwine allows you to perform better if you are with other many resources and strategies to enhance individuals. communities that support all youth and their families. They could make schools better, Friendship and attachment - influence more in the strengthen neighborhoods, and lead to a noticeable development of teenagers as they transcend to depletion in young people's problems. Building such young adulthood partnerships requires visioning, strategic planning, creative leadership, and new adoptable roles for Acquaintance - a familiar person, you slightly know, professionals who work in schools and but who is not close to you. communities. Home – school partnership - Rodrigo, a farmer in Partnerships should be considered as connections Barangay Tapia, asked the performance of his child between schools and community resources. to his teacher. PREPARED BY: MA’AM LOUISE REVIEWER IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT The partnership may involve the following: 1. Nuclear Family - It is also known as 1. utilization of school or neighborhood facilities and “conjugal” or “traditional” family, consisting equipment or giving out other resources of married couples and their offspring. 2. collaborative fundraising and grant applications Mother, father, and children giving assistance 2. Extended Family - This type of family 3. mentoring and training from professionals and includes all relatives in proximity, such as others with special expertise grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. 4. information sharing and dissemination these relatives typically live together, and all 5. networking recognition and public relations share daily household duties. A family living 6. shared responsibility for planning together mother, father, children, 7. implementation and evaluation of programs and grandparents, aunts, uncles, and other services; relatives in one roof 8. expanding opportunities for internships, jobs, 3. Single Parent Family - This family type recreation, and building a sense of community. includes one parent and their children only. A single parent family could be the result of Family came from the Latin word familia which a divorce, the death of one parent, or even a means group of people living in the household. single parent adoption. Father with his Family could be related by blood, or birth or by other children or a mother with her children living relationship. in one household. Family is the basic unit of society. It is the smallest 4. Step Family - A family where the parents organization in the community. It is said to be a have divorced and remarried, bringing group of individual living together in one household. children from other unions together to form a new nuclear family. It is also known as Family comes in different forms. It could vary from “blended” family, because two families were one family to another. It is usually composed of combined. Mother, children, stepfather. and mother, father and children, some other includes his kids Father, children, stepmother, and grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and other her kids relatives. 5. Foster Family - A family includes parent who serves as a temporary guardian for one or A friend is a person whom one knows and with more children to whom they may or may not whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically be biologically related. Parents, children, exclusive of sexual or family relations. Friends are foster child people we trust, respect, care about, and feel that 6. Adopted/Adoptive Family- A family wherein we can confide in and want to spend time with. parents may adopt a child to whom they Friends are close to you whom you can confide in. share no blood relationship, or one parent may adopt the child of the other parent. Acquaintances are people you may encounter Parents (mother and father), adopted child oftentimes but are not friends or relatives. For 7. Bi-racial or multi-racial - Family A family instance, they may be a neighbor who lives in your wherein parents are from different races. road, a work colleague or someone you have seen a Filipina mother, American father, children few times at a social event but do not yet know well. 8. Trans-racial Adoptive Family A family Acquaintances are persons whom you know slightly, wherein parents adopted a child with a but who is not a close friend. different race. American parents, adopted Filipino children Types of Family Structures 9. Conditionally separated Family- A family wherein one of the family members is PREPARED BY: MA’AM LOUISE REVIEWER IN PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT conditionally separated from the others. This  assigning children duties within the family, separation may be due to their job or making them accountable for their employment or could be due to  actions, and giving them room to make hospitalization. Family members are wrong choices once in a while together except for the father working  unconditional love and acceptance by their abroad. Family are living together, except the parents, combined with eldest child who is serving on the military  conditional acceptance when the parents 10. Childless Family - Married couple without discipline for bad behavior or actions children. Mother and father only  the setting of social boundaries concerning 11. Gay or Lesbian Family - A family wherein how to relate to god, authority, one or both parents has a different sexual  peers, the environment and siblings orientation and is part of the LGBT  rules that are given within a loving community. A lesbian mother and her relationship children with a gay father 12. Migrant Family - It is a family who settles The Spiritual Legacy together in a different place; it could be from Here are five things you do that predict whether one place to another due to some your children will receive the spiritual legacy a circumstances such as the father’s job. A Christian parent desires. Do you: family who migrated from a place because  Acknowledge and reinforce spiritual the father is a military officer realities? Do your children know, for 13. Immigrant Family - A family wherein one or  example, that Jesus loves everyone? That both parents are already an immigrant of God is personal, loving and will forgive us? other country. Their children may be or may  View God as a personal, caring being who is not be an immigrant. A family whose mom is to be loved and respected? already an immigrant of Canada. Their  Make spiritual activities a routine part of life? mother is already a Canadian citizen but the  Clarify timeless truth — what’s right and rest of the family members are not. wrong?  Incorporate spiritual principles into The Emotional Legacy everyday living. A strong emotional legacy:  provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots can grow  fosters confidence through stability  conveys a tone of trusting support  nurtures a strong sense of positive identity  creates a “resting place” for the soul  demonstrates unconditional love The Social Legacy Key building blocks of children’s social legacy include:  respect, beginning with themselves and working out to other people  responsibility, fostered by respect for themselves, that is cultivated by PREPARED BY: MA’AM LOUISE