Personal Development PDF

**LESSON 1: OVERVIEW OF PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT** **Human development** covers the whole **lifespan of human existence**.\ According to **Papalia and Feldman 2012**, a **Two Developmental Scientists** identified the Three aspects or domains of human development - **PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT -** Which co...

**LESSON 1: OVERVIEW OF PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT** **Human development** covers the whole **lifespan of human existence**.\ According to **Papalia and Feldman 2012**, a **Two Developmental Scientists** identified the Three aspects or domains of human development - **PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT -** Which covers the **Growth of the body and the brain, motor and sensory skills -- 5 Senses.** - **COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT -** Which covers our **capacity to learn, to speak, to understand, to reason, and to create.** - **PSYCHOLOGICAL DEVELOPMENT -** Which includes our **social interactions with other people, our emotions, attitudes, self-identity, personality, beliefs, and values.** - **HEREDITY** - Inborn traits passed on by the generations of **offspring** from both sides of the biological parents' families. - **ENVIRONMENT** - **The world outside of ourselves** and the **experiences** that result from our **contact and interaction** with this **external world**. - **MATURATION -** The **natural progression of the brain and the body** that affects the cognitive way of a person and social dimension of it. - **PERSONALITY -** Learning places where you could enroll to learn skills like **table etiquette, how to sit properly and walk with grace, how to dress up appropriately, and how to communicate better.** - **PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT -** given birth to many related businesses that span the globe. It includes image **enhancement such as skin care, fashion and clothing.** - **PERSONAL -** Belonging or relating to a **particular person**. Made or designed to be used by one person. **Relating** to, or **affecting** a particular person. - **DEVELOPMENT -** The act or process of **growing**. The act or process of **creating** something over a **period** of time. The state of being created or made more **advanced**. - **PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT -** a process in which **persons reflect upon themselves, understand who they are.** - **CARL ROGERS -** humanistic psychologist. - **MARTIN SELIGMAN --** **President** of the American Psychological Association. **Diagnosis, Treating and Preventing.** - **MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHAYLI -** good and positive about human persons and their desire to achieve their full potentials. **ABRAHAM MASLOWS' HIERARCHY OF NEEDS** **LESSON 2: KNOWING ONESELF** **Self** is defined as the cognitive and affective representation of one's identity, it is then defined in terms of human characteristics such as behavior and thought. - **NATURE --** Genes and Heredity Factor. - **NURTURE** -- Environmental Behavior. - **TRAIT THEORY** - Approach in identifying types of personalities based on certain traits or attributes, which vary from one person to the other. - **THE BIG FIVE (5) PERSONALITY -- OCEAN** Psychologists Costa and McRae (1992) developed a categorized scheme that described personality. - **Openness to Experience** -- **[Tendency to Explore]**\ *Curiosity, interest, imagination, and creativity to new ideas.* - **Conscientiousness** --\ **[Implies a desire to do a task well]**\ *Planning, organizing, hard-working, controlling, persevering, and punctuality.* - **Extraversion** --\ **[Orientation to engaging socially with others.]**\ *Sociable, talkative, active, outgoing, and fun-loving.* - **Agreeableness** --\ **[Person\'s ability to put others needs before their own.]**\ *Friendly, warm, trusting, generous, and kind-hearted.* - **Neuroticism** --\ **[Personality trait that describes how you deal with stress.]**\ *Calm, relaxed, and comfortable.* - **PERSONALITY TRAIT -** A disposition to behave consistently in a particular way, while personality is a broader term that comprises of traits, motives, thoughts, self-concept, and feelings. - **KNOWING ONESELF -** How to understand and admit our weaknesses and strengths. - **FULGENCIO (2006) -** "The Barriers in knowing oneself are lack of awareness, egoism and fear of change". - **SELF-AWARENESS -** It is important to realize one's potential. Understanding your own needs, desires, failings, habits. - **INTROSPECTION --** It is define to examine your feelings and thoughts. - **GURUS-** Means "Teacher" Professional. **[IMPROVE YOUR SELF-AWARENESS WITH A FEW EXERCISE]** - **Learn to look at yourself objectively.\ **Study and criticize your decisions. - **Write your own manifesto.**\ Make sense that you need to have a goals. Push yourself into figuring out what you want. - **Keep a journal.\ **Document anything of what you are doing and where problems might be coming from. - **Perform a self-review.\ **Examine yourself how to improve. - **Owning it:** **Identifying your strengths and weaknesses.\ **It's really easy as opening up, thinking about it a little, and most importantly listening to those around you. - **Acknowledge them and truly believe in them.**\ Have confidence in the positives and know how great you really are. - **Put all of your energy into them.\ **Don't afraid to try anything until you find what makes you happy. - **Keep developing them.\ **The sky is really the limit. Every day is a chances. - **Take them into account when making career decision.\ **Choose a career path that doesn't heavily rely on being strong in that area. - **Look at the other side.\ **Be straight to the point. Honesty. - **Don't be too hard on yourself.\ **Everyone has weaker areas. Don't beat yourself up about it. **[10 WAYS TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AGAIN]** 1. **ACCEPT YOUR CURRENT SITUATION.\ **Accept your current life situation.\ "First, accept sadness. Realize that without losing, winning isn't so great". **Alyssa Milano.** 2. **THINK ABOUT YOUR PAST SUCCESS.\ **If you are feeling down and out, use your past to get motivated again.\ "Every day is a new opportunity. You can build on yesterday's success or put its failure behind and start over again. That's the way life is, with a new game every day". **Bob Feller.** 3. **TRUST YOURSELF.** This is one of the most important things that can help you get that belief and confidence back.\ "Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself". **Rumi.** 4. **TALK WITH YOURSELF.\ **We are the ones who create who we will become.\ "If you tell yourself that you cannot, what can the only outcome be?". **Shad Helmstetter.** 5. **DON'T LET FEAR STOP YOU.\ **Face your fears and don't let them stop you from achieving your goals.\ "Always do what you are afraid to do". **Ralph Waldo Emerson.** 6. **LET YOURSELF OFF THE HOOK.\ **You have to look at the future and stop living in the past. 7. **GO WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE.**\ Be thankful for whatever you are and whatever you have. Always have a positive approach. 8. **LET A LIFE COACH HELP YOU.**\ A life coach is a professional that helps, supports and guides you. A life coach can help you recognize your abilities and skills. 9. **KEEP MOVING FORWARD AND NEVER LOOK BACK.**\ Be strong and keep moving on. Never give up on yourself. You have to keep on going and eventually you will reach your destination.\ "If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward". **Martin Luther King Jr.** 10. **LET LIFE MOVE YOU.\ **Let your life follow its own natural flow. Allow it to let you move in the direction you are meant to go, and you will find success. **[THE JOHARI WINDOW]** - Useful tool for helping you build self-awareness and gain an understanding of how others perceive you. - Developed by American Psychologist\ **[JO]SEPH LUFT & [HAR]RY [I]NGHAM** in **1955**. - **Mnemonics:** **A-rena:** Which is **known to ALL**. **F-acade:** Area that is **known to YOURSELF** but is hidden from others. **B-lind Spot:** Area that is **known to OTHERS** but not to yourself. **U-nknown:** Area that is **BLIND to BOTH** yourself and to those around you. **[TIPS FOR USING JOHARI WINDOW FOR SELF-AWARENESS]** - **REVEAL YOURSELF:** Share your thoughts and feelings with others. - **SEEK FEEDBACK:** Never be afraid to ask for feedback from others. - **TEST YOUR LIMITS:** Testing yourself in new situations and surrounding yourself with others. **LESSON 3: DEVELOPING THE WHOLE PERSON** ***"Growth doesn't just happen. It has to be on purpose." --* John C. Maxwell.** - **ADOLESCENCE:** *"Teen Ager"; "Youth";* **\ **the time of life between puberty and maturity. - **PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT: Experience growth spurt.** Which involves rapid growth of bones and muscles. - For **GIRLS,** 9 to 12 and for **BOYS,** 11-14. - **SEXUAL MATURATION (PUBERTY):** It is define to maturation of the sex organ of an individual. Especially, Adolescent. - **MASTURBATION -** **Erotic stimulation** *especially of one's own genital organs. Occasionally by* **sexual fantasies***.* **[TYPES OF EATING DISORDER -- ]** **[YOUNG FEMALE DISORDER]** - **ANOREXIA NERVOSA:** Physical and Mental disorder of young female who is **FEAR OF BEING FAT.** - **BULIMIA NERVOSA:** Physical and Mental disorder of young female who is **Eat a large amount of food and they vomit it.** - **CULTURAL DIFFERENCES:** Ethnic identity includes the **shared values, traditions and practices of a cultural group**. - **COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT:** Dramatic shift in thinking from concrete to abstract gives adolescents a whole new set of mental tools. **MOST DEVELOPING ADOLESCENTS WILL:** - Argue for sake of Arguing. - Become more Independent. - Jump to Conclusions. - Be self-centered. - Increased responsibilities: babysitting, summer job. - Look to peers and media for information and advice. - Begin to develop social conscience: concern in global warming, racism, discrimination. - **SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT:** Adolescent take place in the context of all their relationships. **TWO MAJOR INFLUENCIAL PERSON IN SOCIETY OF AN ADOLESCENT** - Peers - Family - **YOUNG ADOLESCENCE:** Ages 9 -- 13. **PEERS:** Center of social world shifts from family to friends. Peer group tends to be same-sex. Strong desire to be conform to and be accepted by a peer group. **FAMILY:** Increasing conflict between adolescents and their parents. Family closeness most important protective factor against high-risk behaviour. - **MIDDLE ADOLESCENCE:** Ages 14 -- 16. **PEERS:** Groups gradually give way to one on one friendships and romances. Peer group tends to be gender-mixed. Less conformity and more tolerance of individual differences. **FAMILY:** Increasing conflict between adolescents and their parents. Family closeness most important protective factor against high-risk behavior. - **LATE ADOLESCENCE:** Ages 17 -- 19. **PEERS:** Serious intimate relationships begin to develop. **FAMILY:** Family influence in balance with peer influence. **[ADOLESCENT'S COMMUNITY CAN ALSO HAVE A GREAT IMPACT ON HIS/HER SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT.]** - Neighborhood - Schools - Religious organizations - The media - **BEHAVIORAL DEVELOPMENT:** Changes that adolescents experience prepare them to experiment with new behavior. - **EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT:** New cognitive skills of maturing adolescents give them the ability to reflect on who they are and what makes them unique. - **SELF CONCEPT:** Set of beliefs about oneself, **including attributes, roles, goals, interests, values** and religious or political. - **SELF ESTEEM:** Also known as "Self-confidence" Develop relationship skills that allow them to get along well with others and to make them friends. - **GENDER DIFFERENCES:** Boys and girls face different challenges in our culture and may have different emotional needs during adolescence. **GIRLS** tend to have lower self-esteem. Need help learning to express anger and to be more assertive. **BOYS** it's okay to express emotions other than anger. - **GENDER--** refers to the socially constructed roles, behaviors, expressions and identities of girls, women, boys, men, and gender diverse people. - **SEX -** Usually categorized as female or male but there is variation in the biological attributes that comprise sex and how those attributes are expressed. **LESSON 4: DEVELOPMENTAL STAGES IN MIDDLE AND LATE ADOLESCENCE** - **DEVELOPMENTAL PSYCHOLOGY:** Concerned with both physical and psychological changes throughout life from conception until death. - **EARLY ADOLESCENCE:** Ages around 10 to 13 years old. During this stage, children often start to grow more quickly. These body changes can inspire curiosity. - **MIDDLE ADOLESCENCE -** Ages around 14 to 16 years old. Physical changes from puberty continue during middle adolescence. At this age, many teens become interested in romantic and sexual relationships. - **LATE ADOLESCENCE -** Ages around 17 to 20 years old. Late adolescents generally have completed - **ADULTHOOD:** It defines fully grown, developed, not childish and sensible. Life span is more than 70. - **EARLY ADULTHOOD:** Concerned with developing the ability to share intimacy, seeking to form relationships and find intimate love. Long term relationships are formed and marriage and children result. Work/career choice. - **MIDDLE ADULTHOOD:** Develop a genuine concern for the welfare of future generations and to contribute to the world. **PSYCHOSOCIAL DILEMMA by ERIK ERICKSON** - **ERIK ERICKSON:** German American Psychologist. His psychosocial theories Influenced by Sigmund freud. Professor in Harvard and yale.  **THREE MAJOR STYLE OF PARENTING** - **AUTHORITARIAN PARENTS:** Demanding and Rigid. They Expect their Orders to be Followed and demand control over their children. Authoritarian Parents are Traditional and Believe that every situation either Right or Wrong, Good or Bad. If you conform to them, then your are good. However, if you do not then you are bad, and that mean Punishment. - **PERMISSIVE PARENTS:** Not strict and do not enforce rules and punishment. Permissive Parents are Not Confrontational this is their style of parenting. They allowing their children to be adventurous and independent without many restrictions. - **AUTHORITATIVE PARENTS:** BALANCING freedom and restraint, effective parents help children become responsible to their actions and responsible adults. - **UNINVOLVED PARENTS:** referred to as **Neglectful Parenting,** is a style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child\'s needs. **[NORMAL CHILDHOOD PROBLEMS]** - ***Sleep Disturbance -** Including wakefulness,* *frightening dreams, or desire to get their parent's bed.* - ***Specific Fear -** Dark, Dogs, School, or a particular room or person are also common.* - ***Overly Timid -** Most children will be overly timid at times, allowing themselves to be bullied by other children into giving up toys, a place in line and be like.* - ***General Dissatisfactions --** Temporary periods, when nothing pleases the child.* - ***General Negativism -** Marked by tantrums, refusal to do anything requested.* - ***Clinging --** Children refuses to leave the side of their mothers or to do anything on their own.* - ***Sibling Rivalry --** Jealousy, Rivalry. A limited amount of aggression give and take between siblings.* - ***Rebellion --** Some of them are against to the rules and regulations of their parents.* **[THE FOUNDATION OF YOUNG ADULTS SUCCESS]** These factors capture how a young adult poised for success interacts with the world. These three factors are more powerful. - **Agency --** The ability to make choices about and take an active role in one's life path. - **Integrated Industry --** Serves as an internal framework for making choices and provides a stable base from which one can act in the world. - **Competencies** -- Abilities that enable people to effectively perform roles, complete complex tasks, or achieve specific objectives. **RESPONSIBILITY -** All children need opportunities to demonstrate that they are responsible for their actions, school works, chores, and relationships. The act or responsibility involves being trusted, making decisions, and answering for one's behaviour. **[HOW DO I BECOME A RESPONSIBLE PERSON?]** - ***Be Accountable --** You are always responsible on how you respond.* - ***Stop Blaming -** When you stop pointing the finger, you have a control over yourself.* - ***Acknowledge what Happen -- "How can I make it up to you?"** it makes people willing to forgive, Your integrity earns respect.* - ***Accentuate the Positive -** Move through your day with positive attitude. Remember, a small shift in focus turns a loser into a winner.* - ***See yourself Clearly --** A responsible person does not dismiss her/his own achievements.* - ***Say "Thank You" -** Accept praise graciously.* - ***Practice Healthy Self-focus -** Thinking too much about our problems, can worrying endlessly about the future. Take time to really what makes you happy. It is a way of beginning self-love*