Lesson 2: Identifying Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship PDF

Personal Development Gemma C. Reambonanza Subject Teacher Lesson 2 Identifying Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship At the end of the lesson, you should be able to: 1. Identify basic rights in a relationship; 2. Determine ways how to becom...

Personal Development Gemma C. Reambonanza Subject Teacher Lesson 2 Identifying Ways to Become Responsible in a Relationship At the end of the lesson, you should be able to: 1. Identify basic rights in a relationship; 2. Determine ways how to become responsible in a relationship; 3. Appreciate by listing down various roles of different individuals in society and how they can influence people through their leadership or followership. 2 Hello! I am Gemma Reambonanza I am here because I love to give new information. You can find me at [email protected] 3 “ Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. 4 “ The relationships that you make in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the most important lessons about who you are. 5 “ Truly good relationships take time and energy to develop. 6 “ All relationships should be based on respect and honesty. 7  In a healthy relationship, both partners: ▪ Are treated with kindness and respect ▪ Are honest with each other ▪ Like to spend time together ▪ Take an interest in things that are important to each other ▪ Respect one another’s emotional, physical and sexual limits ▪ Can speak honestly about their feelings 8  Love should never hurt Dating relationships can be wonderful! But while it’s important that dating partners care for each other, it’s just as important that you take care of yourself! 9  Love should never hurt 💑 About 10% of high school students say they have suffered violence from someone they date. 10  Love should never hurt This includes physical abuse where someone causes physical pain or injury to another person. This can involve hitting, slapping, or kicking. 11  Love should never hurt Sexual abuse is also a type of violence, and involves any kind of unwanted sexual advance. 12  Love should never hurt Emotional abuse is anything that harms your self- esteem or causes shame. This includes saying things that hurt your feelings, make you feel that you aren’t worthwhile, or trying to control who you see or where you go. 13  Remember: You deserve healthy, happy relationships. Abuse of any type is never okay. 14  How to communicate Talking openly You can’t The simple fact makes expect a is that none of relationships more us are a mind partner to fun and satisfying: know what reader – so it’s especially when you both talk about you want and important to be each other’s needs need unless open about for physical, you tell them. your needs and emotional, mental expectations. and sexual health. 15  How to communicate The decision to In a romantic enter into a sexual Remember relationship, it relationship is that there are is important to entirely up to you, many ways and you always communicate openly on have the right to to express say “NO” at any issues of sex time to anything love without and sexual that you don’t feel sex. comfortable with. health. 16 So what’s to talk about? ▪ Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) ▪ Possibility of Pregnancy ▪ Right time for sex ▪ Boundaries 17 The decision of whether or not to have sex is up to you and you alone. You may ask yourself: ▪ Am I ready to have sex? ▪ How am I going to feel after I having sex? ▪ Am I doing this for the right reasons? ▪ How do I plan to protect myself/my partner from sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy? ▪ How am I going to feel about my partner afterwards? 18 Talking to your Parents You probably think that talking to your parents about sex is impossible. You’re not alone. 19 Talking to your Parents The truth is that most parents want to help their kids make smart decisions about sex. 20 Talking to your Parents They know it’s vital for teens to have accurate information and sound advice to aid the decision-making process. 21 Talking to your Parents If you think your parents are really nervous about raising the issue, you’re probably right! 22 Talking to your Parents But remember: Not every person your age is having sex. Even if sometimes it feels like everyone is “doing it”, it is important to realize that this is not true. People often talk about sex in a casual manner, but this doesn’t mean they are 23 actually having sex. BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP  The right to  The right to  The right have emotional be heard by your own point of support the other and view, even if this to respond differs from your partner’s  The right to  The right to have your live free from  The right to feelings and live from accusation experiences criticism and acknowledged and blame judgment as real 24 BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP  The right  The right  The right to to live free to live free be from from angry respectfully, emotional outbursts asked, and and rage rather than physical ordered threat 25  In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop- Patience Honesty Kindness Respect 26  In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop- Patience:  Patience is essential to a healthy relationship.  There are times when others will respond to us in a way that is disappointing.  Be willing to give the person some time to reflect, indicating that you are ready to talk when they are ready.  If the person is never ready to discuss the situation, you may need professional help to resolve the issue, or ask yourself whether or not you want to continue the relationship. 27 In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop- Honesty:  Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships.  To build honesty in a relationship, you should communicate your feelings openly, and expect the other person to do the same.  Over time, this builds trust. 28 In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop- Kindness:  Kindness is extremely important to maintaining healthy relationships.  You need to be considerate of other’s feelings and other people need to be considerate of yours.  Be kind when you communicate.  Kindness will nurture your relationship. 29 In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop- Respect:  Respect is cornerstone of all healthy relationships.  If you don’t have respect for another person, it will have a negative impact on all of your interactions. 30 31  is the art of motivating a group of people to act toward achieving a common goal. LEADERSHIP 32 and civic responsibility Community activities Community activity is part of civic responsibility. It’s about doing things in our community because we want to or feel we should, rather than we have to by law. 33 and civic responsibility You can take civic responsibility and be Community activities active in your community by:  Joining a Youth Club, a scouting group or a local environmental or clean-up group  Helping with a primary school play, or coordinating or coaching junior sport  Setting up an arts space for the community or getting involved in youth radio  Being part of a youth advisory group through the local council  Promoting causes – for example, clean environment, recycling, get active in sports 34 and civic responsibility Community activities Role models By getting involved with community activities, you can come into contact with like-minded peers and positive adult role models other than your parents. Interacting and cooperating with other adults encourages you to see the world in different ways. It puts your own family experiences and values into a wider context. 35 and civic responsibility Community activities Identity and connection Young people are busy working out who they are and where they fit in the world. They try out different identities, experiment with different styles of dress and might try out a range of different activities and hobbies. Being involved in community activities can give you a positive way of understanding who you are.36 and civic responsibility Skills Community activities Community activities give you the chance to apply the skills you already have. Voluntary work and community activities are also great opportunities to show initiative and develop skills to get a job. Being to manage free time, while balancing leisure, work and study, is an important life skill. Being part of community activities could motivate you to get more organized and start to manage your own time. 37  Self-confidence, mental health and and civic responsibility Community activities well-being Community activities can boost one’s self- confidence. You can learn to deal with challenges, communicate with different people and build up your life skills and abilities in a supportive environment. This is also good for your self-esteem. It’s also a great foundation for general and mental health and wellbeing. These positive feelings can help protect you from sadness and depression. 38 SERVANT LEADERSHIP 39  The servant – leader is servant first.  It begins with the SERVANT LEADERSHIP natural feeling that one wants to serve, to serve first. 40  The leader-first and the servant-first are two extreme types.  The difference manifests itself in SERVANT LEADERSHIP the care taken by the servant-first to make sure that other people’s highest priority needs are being served. 41  Leadership was bestowed upon a man who was by nature a servant. SERVANT LEADERSHIP  If there is a single characteristic of the servant- leader, it is the desire to serve. 42  These include:  listening and understanding;  acceptance and empathy; SERVANT LEADERSHIP  foresight;  awareness and perception;  persuasion;  conceptualization;  self-healing; and  rebuilding community. 43 KEEP THIS IN MIND 44 Thanks! ! For learning with me! Any questions? 45