Lesson 1 in Personality Development PDF

WHO IS THE “SELF”? Lesson 1 in Personality Development Prepared by: Carl Joshua S. Las Marias, LPT  SELF CHARACTER - refers to a person’s moral and ethical qualities; usually observed through values such as integrity and uprightness. TRAIT – i...

WHO IS THE “SELF”? Lesson 1 in Personality Development Prepared by: Carl Joshua S. Las Marias, LPT  SELF CHARACTER - refers to a person’s moral and ethical qualities; usually observed through values such as integrity and uprightness. TRAIT – interchangeably used the same as character but trait usually lasts longer than character and is difficult to manage or change. PERSONALITY – the total feature of the self that includes the 5 aspects (to be discussed further in future lessons); observed through behavior and actions.  5 CHARACTERISTICS OF THE SELF 1. Separate - it means it is distinct, different and unique from others; it has an identity of its own, even twins, may it be fraternal/identical, are very much distinct from the other 2. Self-Contained - It may exist with or without others; it is freestanding of its own thoughts, characteristics and desires. It does not rely on other people’s development for it to have its own development.  5 CHARACTERISTICS OF THE SELF 3. Private – the self sorts information from the external environment within the self; thought processes, feelings, emotion etc. 4. Enduring – the self develops through the different stages of life – childhood – adolescence – adulthood; it allows the self to be studied and measured. 5. Independent – the development of the self has its own pacing; it develops when it is ready. (This is why “rearing” is important)  3 TYPES OF SELF 1. Ideal Self – the hopes of being someone we are not; such as our idols. ( I wish I am…) 2. True/Actual Self – this is how we really see ourselves; the reality; the current perception of ourselves (I am..) 3. Self Concept – the fusion of who we wish we are (ideal self) and who we currently are (true/actual self)  FACTORS THAT SHAPE SELF- CONCEPT Own Observation observing what you do at this moment is one of the significant information about your interest or dislike **Self-Introspection - helps you re-evaluate your motivations in real-time; reflecting on who we are. Includes our conclusion of our strengths (what we can do) and weaknesses (what we cannot do) We can get it from other people; especially our parents, from videos we watch or from people we admire the most.  FACTORS THAT SHAPE SELF- CONCEPT Feedback/Criticisms from Others Positive (feedbacks that encourage us); Negative (feedbacks that make us down) The amount of criticism, feedback we sometimes freely give, helps shape the current self-concept of what we choose to be or not. In child-rearing, especially the parents, has a unique and essential role in reinforcing and shaping the self- concept through their feedback.  FACTORS THAT SHAPE SELF- CONCEPT Cultural Values Culture - the customs, arts, social institutions, and achievements of a particular nation, people, or other social group. Our culture varies from what region of the country we belong, that is why we have varied perception of ourselves. The acceptance of our culture becomes a part of who we are  SUMMARY The self is a dynamic part of who a person is containing its distinct characteristics – separate, self contained, private, enduring and independent. The self struggles to know itself from who we wish we are and who we really are. There are numerous factors that affect to knowing who we are such as our own observation, feedback from others and our cultural values.