Q2 Module 3 Family Legacy (Student's copy) PDF

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT MODULE 3  FAMILY STRUCTURES AND LEGACIES How does your family affect you as a developing individual?  MELC: 1. appraise your family structure and the type of care you give and receive, which may help in understanding yourself better, 2. make a genogram and trac...

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT MODULE 3  FAMILY STRUCTURES AND LEGACIES How does your family affect you as a developing individual?  MELC: 1. appraise your family structure and the type of care you give and receive, which may help in understanding yourself better, 2. make a genogram and trace certain physical, personality, or behavioral attributes through generations, and 3. prepare a plan on how to make your family members firmer and gentler with each other.  FAMILY Family came from the Latin word familia which means group of people living in the household. Family could be related by blood, or birth or by other relationship. Family is the basic unit of society. It is the smallest organization in the community. It is said to be a group of individual living together in one household. Family comes in different forms. It could vary from one family to another. It is usually composed of mother, father and children, some other includes grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and other relatives. TYPES OF FAMILY STRUCTURE Family structures differ from one family to another, that’s why, we should not compare our family with that of others. The following table lists the different family structures. FAMILY LEGACY  THE EMOTIONAL LEGACY In order to prosper, children need an enduring sense of security and stability nurtured in an environment of safety and love. Unfortunately, many people struggle to overcome a negative emotional legacy that hinder their ability to cope with the inevitable struggles of life. This is where a family’s important role takes its place. A family can create an atmosphere that provides a child’s fragile spirit with the nourishment and support needed for healthy emotional growth. It will require time and consistency to develop a sense of emotional wholeness, but the rewards are great.  THE EMOTIONAL LEGACY A strong emotional legacy:  provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots can grow  fosters confidence through stability  conveys a tone of trusting support  nurtures a strong sense of positive identity  creates a “resting place” for the soul  demonstrates unconditional love THE SOCIAL LEGACY Children need to gain the insights and social skills necessary to cultivate healthy and stable relationships. As children mature, they must learn to relate to family members, teachers, peers, friends, and community. Eventually, they must learn to relate to coworkers and many other types of people in their surroundings. At home, children can learn lessons about respect, courtesy, love, and involvement. Parents play a key role in modelling and passing social legacy. Key building blocks of children’s social legacy include:  respect, beginning with themselves and working out to other people  responsibility, fostered by respect for themselves, that is cultivated by assigning children duties within the family, making them accountable for their actions, and giving them room to make wrong choices once in a while  unconditional love and acceptance by their parents, combined with conditional acceptance when the parents discipline for bad behavior or actions  the setting of social boundaries concerning how to relate to god, authority, peers, the environment and siblings  rules that are given within a loving relationship  THE SPIRITUAL LEGACY It is overlooked by many, but that's a mistake. As spiritual beings, we adopt attitudes and beliefs about spiritual matters from one source or another. As parents, we need to take the initiative and present our faith to our children. Parents who successfully pass along a spiritual legacy to their children model and reinforce the unseen realities of the godly life. We must recognize that passing a spiritual legacy means more than encouraging our children to attend church, as important as that is. The church is there to support parents in raising their children but it cannot do the raising; only parents can. Parents are primary in spiritual upbringing. Children, perceive God the way they perceive their parents. If parents are loving, affirming, forgiving and yet strong in what they believe, children will think of God that way. Here are five things you do that predict whether your children will receive the spiritual legacy a parent desires. Do you:  Acknowledge and reinforce spiritual realities? Do your children know, for example, that Jesus loves everyone? That God is personal, loving and will forgive us?  View God as a personal, caring being who is to be loved and respected?  Make spiritual activities a routine part of life?  Clarify timeless truth — what’s right and wrong?  Incorporate spiritual principles into everyday living.  GENOGRAM It is a graphical map of a family’s history that traces and illustrates patterns in its structure and characteristics using special symbols to describe relationships. It can help us to identify patterns or themes within families that may be influencing or driving a person's current behavior. A genogram is a more complex family tree because it describes not only the family physical and social relationships but also the emotional connections and other family attributes are described. GENOGRAM SYMBOLS A genogram is a family tree or map or history that uses special symbols to describe relationships of family members over multiple generations. Like any other graphic organizer, genogram makes it easy for a person to present and comprehend certain information.  HOW TO DRAW GENOGRAM: STEPS 1. Know your reason for making a genogram to help you determine the type of family information you want to indicate. 2. Name all the members of your family kinship that you wanted to include in your genogram. 3. Organize questions to gather facts and figures about your relatives to be included in the genogram 4. Write down notes how everyone in your family is connected. 5. Solicit information starting with the oldest generation down the line  ACTIVITY: FAMILY GENOGRAM Make genogram of your family by using the symbols that you have learned. Consider the family physical, social and emotional relationships, and other family attributes. Guidelines:  Gather information up to the third generation of your family: grandparents, parents, your siblings.  Start drawing your family structure: Name, birth date, death, marriage, education, etc.  Include the relationship between family members.  Include the characteristic or habit of the family member: health issue, alcohol or drug use, physical and mental health, employment  ACTIVITY: RELATIONSHIP PLAN Directions: This activity shows a plan to have a firmer and gentler relationship within the family. Make an activity plan using the ACRONYM of your name. (first and last name) Activities Persons Involved Frequency: How often (Hourly, Daily, Weekly) Be Open and honest Siblings, parents and extended Daily family Sharing of blessings Siblings, parents and extended Daily family Help each other Siblings, parents and extended Daily family Expressing gratitude Siblings, parents and extended Daily family Love one another always Siblings, parents and extended Daily family Take time to bond and play Siblings, parents and extended Weekly family Avoid or minimize criticizing or Siblings, parents and extended Daily bullying family Manage finances well Siblings, parents and extended Daily family Pray always and going to church Siblings, parents and extended Daily/Weekly together family Questions/ Clarifications? COLLOSIANS 3:20 “CHILDREN OBEY YOUR PARENTS IN EVERYTHING, FOR THIS PLEASES THE LORD.” THANK YOU! RESOURCES Personal Development Reader Personal Development by Ricardo Rubio Santos Persona Development Module Region X Persona Development Module 20-25 Region IV-A Personal Dev_Lesson 29-34 Building and Maintaining Personal Relationships, Frontlearners