Personal Development Q1 Module 1 PDF

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT Quarter 1- Module 1: Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and Late Adolescence Department of Education Republic of the Philippines Personal Development Alternative Delivery Mode Quarter 1– Module 1: Knowing and Understanding Oneself during...

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT Quarter 1- Module 1: Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and Late Adolescence Department of Education Republic of the Philippines Personal Development Alternative Delivery Mode Quarter 1– Module 1: Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and Late Adolescence First Edition, 2020 Republic Act 8293, section 176 states that: No copyright shall subsist in any work of the Government of the Philippines. However, prior approval of the government agency or office wherein the work is created shall be necessary for exploitation of such work for profit. Such agency or office may, among other things, impose as a condition the payment of royalty. Borrowed materials (i.e., songs, stories, poems, pictures, photos, brand names, trademarks, etc.) included in this book are owned by their respective copyright holders. Every effort has been exerted to locate and seek permission to use these materials from their respective copyright owners. The publisher and authors do not represent nor claim ownership over them. Published by the Department of Education – Division of Cagayan de Oro Schools Division Superintendent: Dr. Cherry Mae L. Limbaco, CESO V Development Team of the Module Author/s: Emily A. Tabamo Reviewer: Mary S. Gales Illustrator and Layout Artist: Emily A. Tabamo Design and Layout Evaluator: Joyce Ann M. Amores Management Team Chairperson: Dr. Arturo B. Bayocot, CESO III Regional Director Co-Chairpersons: Dr. Victor G. De Gracia Jr. CESO V Assistant Regional Director Cherry Mae L. Limbaco, PhD, CESO V Schools Division Superintendent Rowena H. Para-on, PhD Assistant Schools Division Superintendent Mala Epra B. Magnaong, Chief ES, CLMD Members: Neil A. Improgo, EPS-LRMS Bienvenido U. Tagolimot Jr., EPS-ADM Lorebina C. Carrasco, OIC-CID Chief Eduardo T. Cartel, EPS-Values Education Joel D. Potane, LRMS Manager Lanie O. Signo, Librarian II Gemma Pajayon, PDO II Printed in the Philippines by Department of Education – Division of Cagayan de Oro Office Address: Fr. William F. Masterson Ave. Upper Balulang, Cagayan de Oro City Telefax: (08822)855-0048 E-mail Address: [email protected] PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT Quarter 1 – Module 1: Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and Late Adolescence This instructional material was collaboratively developed and reviewed by educators from public and private schools, and/or universities. We encourage teachers and other education stakeholders to email their feedback, comments, and recommendations to the Department of Education at [email protected] We value your feedback and recommendations. Department of Education Republic of the Philippines  Table of Contents What This Module is About……………………………………………………………... 1 What I Need to Know............................................................................................. 1 How to Learn from this Module…………………………………………………………. 1 Icons of this Module……………………………………………………………………… 2 What I Know………………………………………………………………………………. 3 Lesson 1: Knowing yourself can make you accept your strengths and limitations and dealing with others better What’s In.......................................................................................... 5 What’s New: Activity 1: Self-Concept Inventory................................ 6 Activity 2: Self-Awareness........................................... 7 Activity 3.1: Strength Exploration................................. 9 Activity 3.2: Strength Exploration……………………….. 10 What Is It.......................................................................................... 11 What’s More: Activity 4: Johari Window Exercise............................. 13 Lesson 2: Sharing your unique characteristics, habits and experiences. Activity 5: Who I Am …………………………………………………... 16 What Is It: 10 Things that Make You Unique.................................. 17 What I Can Do …........................................................................... 20 What I Have Learned/Generalization.................................................................. 21 Additional Activities............................................................................................. 22 Assessment: Post-Test....................................................................................... 24 Answer Key......................................................................................................... 26 References......................................................................................................... 27  Welcome to PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT MODULE 1 Knowing and Understanding Oneself during Middle and Late Adolescence To the Student of Personal Development: Welcome to this course, PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT. This is a very interesting course and can become the most personally rewarding for you because this all about YOU! As a new senior high school student, you have now entered a new educational level as well as a new psychological and social level, called the middle and late adolescence. You may feel that you are no longer the awkward teenager, but you also feel you are not quite ready to call yourself a mature adult either. Personal development is the process of improving yourself. However, you can only improve yourself if you know who you are. How well you know yourself? Developing oneself opens you to new discoveries and new growth. The journey may be long but it is worth taking. Taking your tiny steps to start building your life now determines a brighter future ahead of you. This course will make you take a deeper look at yourself and analyze your developmental changes, your skills and traits which can help you meet the various tasks that you must undertake at this point in your life. It will provide you with techniques to meet stress and other mental health issues with strength and healthy coping mechanisms. The course shall also give you the chance to analyze your relationships with your family, friends and significant others. Finally, this course will help you grasp the reality of career development and how to get to where you want to be. What This Module is About This module contains activities that will guide you in understanding yourself in paving the way to self-acceptance and better relationship. As you embark on your journey called life, knowing our strengths and weaknesses are the best ticket to enjoy the ride. Embracing our unique self builds a strong foundation in becoming the best version of yourself. It may not happen overnight. It’s a process. The adventure starts when you discover your unique characteristics, habits and experiences. The moment you share it to others life begins to unfold. What I Need to Know After going through this module, you are expected to: 1. Explain that knowing yourself can make you accept your strengths and limitations in dealing with others ; EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.1 2. Share your unique characteristics, habits and experiences; and EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.2 How to Learn from this Module To attain the goals of this module, please do the following; 1. Take your time to read and understand the concepts in this module. 2. Follow the instruction carefully in every given task. 3. Answer all the given test and exercises. 4. Work on the activities in this module and in every Performance Task given. 5. Take the Post-Test after you are done with all the lessons and activities in the module. 6. Familiarize yourselves with the given terms. 7. Meet with your teacher. Ask him/her about any difficulty or confusion you have encountered in this module. 8. Prepare and gather all your outputs and submit them to your teacher. 9. Finally, write all your answers of the tests, activities, exercises, and others on your separate activity notebook. 1 ICONS OF THIS MODULE ICON LABEL IN THE MODULE DETAILS What I Need to Know This part contains learning objectives that are set for you to Learning Objectives learn as you go along the module. What I Know This is an assessment as to your level of knowledge to the subject Pre-Assessment matter at hand, meant specifically to gauge prior related knowledge. What’s In This part connects the current lesson with the previous lesson by Review Activity going over points that were taught or learned previously. What’s New This part introduces the new lesson through various activities Motivational Activity like story, an activity, a poem, a song, or a situation. What Is It This a brief discussion of the lesson as a way to deepen your Lesson Proper discovery and understanding of the concept. What’s More These are follow-up activities that are intended for you to practice Performance Task further in order to master the competencies. What I Have Learned Activities designed to process what you have learned from the lesson. Generalization What I Can Do These are tasks that are designed to showcase your skills and Application knowledge gained and applied into real life concerns and situations. Assessment This part evaluate your level of mastery in achieving the learner’s Post-Assessment objectives. Additional Activities These are activities in any form that can increase the strength of Enrichment the response and tends to induce repetitions of actions/learning. 2  What I Know PRE-ASSESSMENT As an initial activity, you will be assessed on your prior knowledge about finding the answers to the following questions. This is to find out what are the things you need to learn more about the subject matter. Multiple Choice: Encircle the letter of the best answer 1. Which of the following refers to your awareness of yourself? A. Actual self C. Self-Concept B. Ideal self D. Self-Image 2. Which statement pertains to Self-knowledge? A. It is the self that you aspire to be. B. It is the self that you actually see. C. It is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how others react to you. D. It is an idealized image that we developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. 3. It is the one that you hope you possess that has characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure. A. Actual self C. Self-Concept B. Ideal self D. Self-Image 4. It is the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured of, or in some cases, born to have. A. Actual self C. Self-Concept B. Ideal self D. Self-Image 5. It is the union of elements, namely: body, thoughts, feelings or emotions, and sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person. A. Habit C. Self-Concept B. Self D. Self-Image 6. It is a simple and useful tool for understanding and training self-awareness, personal development, improving communications, interpersonal relationships, group dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships. A. Johari Window C. Self-Concept B. Self-Assessment D. Self-Image 7. In Johari Window, it is the quadrant where others know about you and you know too. A. Blind Self C. Open Self B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self 3 8. There are often parts of our selves that are too private to share with others wherein we hide these away and refuse to discuss them with other people or even expose them in any way. A. Blind Self C. Open Self B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self 9. This is a part of yourself where in others know about you, but you don’t. A. Blind Self C. Open Self B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self 10. This is a part of yourself that you yourself and others don’t know about. A. Blind Self C. Open Self B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self 11. It is shaped from a variety of factors like beliefs, thoughts, expressions, associations, and external influences. A. Aspirations C. Belief B. Attitude D. Moral 12. Which of the following statements is most likely not a good habit? A. Adventure Maniac C. Computer geeks B. Chain smokers D. Early riser 13. It is a dynamic concept and you tend to imbibe things, which you learn out of your daily experiences. A. Appearance C. Personality B. Hobbies D. Self-Concept 14. It is the first thing that people would visualize when they think of you. A. Appearance C. Habits B. Attitude D. Signature Style 15. Which of the following does NOT describe a NAÏVE persona? A. They talk little about themselves and may spend a significant amount of time ensconced in their own private world. B. They know relatively little about themselves, they may be of lower intelligence, not being able to relate either to themselves or to others. C. They are comfortable with themselves and are not ashamed nor troubled with the notion of other people seeing them for who they really are. D. They hide little about themselves and are typically considered as harmless by others, who either treat them with kindness. These people are often taken advantage of because of their simple mindedness. 4  Lesson Knowing yourself can make you accept your 1 strengths and limitations in dealing with others EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.1 What’s In Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your ideal self or your actual self? SELF is the union of elements, namely: body, thoughts, feelings or emotions, and sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person. Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is an idealized version of yourself created of what you learned from your experiences, the society, and the people around. Your actual self, however, is the one that you actually see. It is your presentation of the attributes that you believe you actually possess, or that you believe others believe you possess. It is the “self “that embodies the characteristics that you were nurtured of, in some cases, born to have. The Actual Self and the Ideal Self are two broad categories of self-concept. Self- concept refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two selves. In other worlds, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as separate from others, and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated on the actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self. The Actual Self is built on self-knowledge. Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how others react to you. The Actual Self is who you actually are. It is how you think, feel, look, and act. The Actual Self can be seen by others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual self is our self-image. The Ideal Self, on the other hand, is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that we have developed over time, based on what we learned and experienced. The ideal self could include components of what our parents taught us, what we admire in others, what our society promotes, and what we think is in our best interest. 5  What’s New SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY ACTIVITY 1 Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the following self-concept inventory in your journal. Give yourself a rating using the scale: 0 = very weak; 1 = weak; 2 = somewhat weak or somewhat at strong; 3 = strong; 4 = very strong ___1. I have strong sex appeal. ___2. I am proud of my physical figure. ___3. I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome. ___4. I exude with charm and poise. ___5. I am easy to get along with. ___6. I can adjust to different people and different situations. ___7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with me. ___8. I am lovable and easy to love. ___9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction. ___10. I am intelligent. ___11. I have special talents and abilities. ___12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments. ___13. I can be trusted in any transaction. ___14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilty feeling. ___15. I have integrity and good reputation. ___16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth emulating. ___17. I can express my ideas without difficulty. ___18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to accept what I say. ___19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty. ___20. I am a good listener. ___21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with trouble. ___22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions. ___23. I feel and act with confidence. ___24. I am a mature person Scoring: Copy this table in your journal. Write your score opposite each number and get the subtotal. Physical Human Intelligence Character Communications Maturity appeal Relations 9. ______ 13. ______ 17. ______ 21. _____ 1. ______ 5. ______ 10. ______ 14. ______ 18. ______ 22. _____ 2. ______ 6. ______ 11. ______ 15. ______ 19. ______ 23. _____ 3. ______ 7. ______ 12. ______ 16. ______ 20. _______ 24. _____ 4. _______ 8. _______ Subtotal:__ Subtotal:__ Subtotal:___ Subtotal:__ Subtotal:__ Subtotal:__ How do you perceive yourself? Look at the results of your self-concept inventory and answer the following questions. 1. In what areas do you consider yourself strong (with score 14-16 or somewhat weak (score of 10-13) and very weak (below 10). 2. Are there qualities you consider as your weakness but other people consider as your strength? What are these? Check with a partner. 6  SELF-AWARENESS ACTIVITY 2 What are three of your greatest What two things that seems harder for strengths? you than other learners your age? 1. _____________________________ 1. _____________________________ 2. _____________________________ 2. _____________________________ 3. _____________________________ List three of your current successes (big or small): What made me 1. _____________________________ successful? 2. _____________________________ 3. _____________________________ List two things you did recently that you What could could have done better: have I done 1. _____________________________ differently? 2. _____________________________ Who do you turn to help with things that are hard for you? How thinking and learning differences Do you think struggling with things do makes me makes you a stronger person? stronger? (YES____ / NO_____) Source: https://bit.ly/3d0q Are you open to talking with friends How can I describe my about what you’re strong at and unique way of learning to what you struggle with? (YES____ / friends and teachers? NO_____) Are there any adult who can help me thin this Are you open to asking teachers for through? help with things that are hard for you? (YES____ / NO_____ ) 7  STRENGTH EXPLORATION ACTIVITY 3 Research in positive psychology has shown us that people who know their strengths and use them frequently tend to feel happier, have better self- esteem, and are more likely to accomplish their goals. However, many people have a hard time identifying their strengths. They see them as ordinary, even when they are not. Strengths are natural capabilities and skills that each person possess. When a person uses their strengths, they tend to feel energized, and they report higher levels of self-esteem, well-being, and other desirable outcomes. Asking about strengths. Although many people have a hard time identifying their strengths, asking direct questions is a good place to begin.  What are you good at?  What do you enjoy doing?  What areas of your life have you been most successful?  What activities fill you with energy?  What traits do you admire most in other people? None of these prompts ask directly about strengths, but their answers will often provide clues. Watching for strengths. Body language, tone, emotion, and behavior are excellent clues for spotting strengths. Signs of Strengths  Being drawn to things that allow the use of strength.  Desiring to use strength and feeling drained if not using them.  Prioritizing tasks that require use of strength.  Desire to learn new information related to the strength.  Sense of energy and engagement when using strength.  Having success when using strength. 8  STRENGTH EXPLORATION ACTIVITY 3.1 Those who know their strengths and use them frequently tend to have more success in several areas. They feel happier, have better self-esteem, and are more likely to accomplish their goals. To use strengths effectively, it is important to have a clear idea of what they are, and how they can be used. Some of your greatest strengths might be easy to recognize, while others go unnoticed because they feel ordinary to you. In this worksheet you will identify your strengths and ways in which you are already using them. Additionally, you will explore new ways to use your strengths to your advantage. Circle your strength from the choices below, or add your own at the bottom Wisdom Artistic Ability Curiosity Leadership Empathy Honesty Open Mindedness Persistence Enthusiasm Kindness Love Social Awareness Fairness Bravery Cooperation Forgiveness Modesty Common Sense Self-Control Patience Gratitude Love of Learning Humor Spirituality Ambition Creativity Confidence Intelligence Athleticism Discipline Assertiveness Logic Optimism Independence Flexibility Adventurousness 9  STRENGTH EXPLORATION ACTIVITY 3.2 Relationship Romantic relationships, friendship, and family List the strengths you possess that help you in your relationships. Describe a specific time your strengths were able to help you in a relationship. Describe two new ways you could use your strengths in relationships. Source: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/strengths-based-therapy 10  What Is It JOHARI WINDOW Self-Awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment. Johari Window is a simple and useful tool for understanding and training self- awareness, personal development, improving communications, interpersonal relationships, group dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships. It is a technique to improve self-awareness within an individual. It helps understanding your relationship with yourself and others. It is a method used for self- discovery. It allows people to identify their strengths, weaknesses, and blind spots. It is a diagram showing four different selves and how the awareness or otherwise of these aspects of yourself by others and leads to four categories (The Public Self, the Private Self, the Blind Self and the Undiscovered Self). Increased self-disclosure generally leads to greater self-awareness. The concept of self-disclosure refers to the sharing of information about oneself with others either consciously or unconsciously. The Johari Window is made of four regions or quadrants: Open Self – What others know about you that you are aware, too. This is the Public Self- the part of yourself that you are happy to share with others and discuss openly. Your awareness about yourself makes you comfortable about sharing and letting people know a certain amount of yourself to others. 11 Blind Self – What others know about you, but you don’t. We often assume that the public and private selves are all that we are. However, the views that others have about us may be different from those we have about ourselves. For example, a person who considers themselves intelligent may be viewed arrogant and socially ignorant by others. Our blind self may remain blind because others will not discuss this part of us for a range of reasons. Perhaps, they realize that we would be unable to accept what they see. Perhaps, they tried to discuss this and we have become blind that we assume their views are invalid. They may also withhold this information as it gives them power over us. Hidden Self – What others don’t know about you, but you do. The Private Self- There are parts of ourselves that are too private to share with others. We hide this and refuse to discuss them with other people or even expose them in any way. Private elements may be embarrassing or shameful in some way. They may also be feared or avoided being discussed for reasons of vulnerability. Between the public and private selves, there are partly private, partly public aspects of ourselves that we are prepared to share only with trusted others. Unknown Self – What others don’t know about you that you don’t either? The Undiscovered Self- Finally, the fourth self is one which neither we nor other people see. This undiscovered self may include both good and bad things that may remain forever undiscovered or may one day be discovered, entering the private, blind or maybe even public selves. Between the Blind and Undiscovered Selves, are partly hidden selves that only some people see. Psychologists and those who are more empathetic, for example, may well see more than the average person. Self-Awareness and Self-Disclosure Showing people who you are requires self-awareness and self-disclosure. The Johari Window is effectively a lens on your own self-awareness as well as a lens on self-disclosure. You can think of your self-awareness and self-disclosure as slider bars and the Johari Window can help you figure out where your slider bars at. Key Scenarios for the Johari Window You can use the Johari Window to help you with the following scenarios: Understanding how you communicate with yourself and others. Understanding how you present yourself to yourself and others. Understanding how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you. Understanding actions vs. motivations. 12  What’s More JOHARI WINDOW EXERCISE ACTIVITY 4 In this exercise, you need to be with a group or with your peers. The purpose is for you to know more about yourself. Assume positive intentions when selecting adjectives. Approach this exercise with an open mind. Multiple peers to fill your Johari Window is suggested. Table of Adjectives Able Accepting Adaptable Bold Brave Calm Caring Cheerful Clever Complex Confident Dependable Dignified Energetic Extroverted Friendly Giving Happy Helpful Idealistic Independent Ingenious Introverted Kind Knowledgeable Logical Loving Mature Modest Nervous Observant Organized Patient Powerful Proud Quiet Reflective Relaxed Religious Responsive Searching Self-assertive Self-Conscious Sentimental Shy Silly Spontaneous Sympathetic Tense Warm Wise Witty The key steps are: 1. You are given a list of 55 adjectives 2. You pick 5 or 6 adjectives that you think describes your personality. 3. Peers are given the same list and they each shall pick 5 or 6 adjectives that they think describe you. 4. Arrange the adjectives on the Johari Window based on awareness. Here’s the summary of how to place the adjectives: Open Self Hidden Self Blind Self Unknown Self (Arena) (Façade) (Blind Spot) Adjectives you and Adjectives selected Adjectives selected Adjectives not your peers selected by you only by your peers only selected by anybody 13 Reducing Your Blind Spots and Increasing the Open Area The more you know about yourself and the more other people know about you, the more you can communicate on the same wavelength. By asking for feedback, you can simultaneously reduce your Blind Spot while increasing the amount and quality of information you can share in the Open Self. Source: https://sourcesofinsight.com/know-and-share-yourself-enough/ Four Personas Associated with the Johari Window, we can define four different personas based on the largest 'self or based on the number of adjectives in the previous activity. 1. The Open Persona Someone with an open persona is both very self-aware (with a small blind self) and is quite happy to expose themselves to others (a small private self). The Open person is usually the most composed and relaxed persona. They are comfortable with themselves and are not ashamed or troubled with the notion of other people seeing themselves as they really are. With a small Blind Self, they make fewer social errors and cause less embarrassment. They are also in a more powerful position in negotiations, where they have fewer weaknesses to be exploited. Becoming an Open Persona usually takes people much time and effort, unless they were blessed with a wonderful childhood and grew up well-adjusted from the beginning. It can require courage to accept others’ honest views and also to share your deeper self and explore the depths of the undiscovered self. The weaker side of the Open Persona is where they understand and share themselves, but do not understand others. They may thus dump embarrassing information from their Private Selves onto others who are not ready to accept it. 2. The Naive Persona The Naive Persona has a large Blind Self that others can see. Thus, they have more tendencies to make significant social gaffes and not even realize what they have done or how others see them. They hide little about themselves and are typically considered as harmless by others, who either treat them with kindness, or take unkind advantage of their naivety. The Naive Persona may also be somewhat of a bull in a china shop, for example using aggression without realizing the damage that can be resulted for them to be disliked and feared. They may also wear their heart on their sleeves and the lack of emotional intelligence to see how others see them. 14 3. The Secret Persona When a person has a large Private Self, they may appear distant and secretive to others. They talk little about themselves and may spend a significant amount of time ensconced in their own private world. In conversations they say little and, as a result, may not pay a great deal of attention to others. Having a smaller Blind Self (often because they give little away), the Secret Persona may well be aware of their introverted tendencies, but are seldom troubled about this. Where they are troubled, their introversion is often as a result of personal traumas that led them to retreat from the world. 4. The Mysterious Persona Sometimes, people are a mystery to themselves as well as to other people. They act in strange ways without options. They may be very solitary, yet not introverted. As the Mysterious Persona knows relatively little about themselves, they may be of lower intelligence, not being able to relate either to themselves or to others. They may also just prefer to live in the moment, taking each day as it comes and not seeking self-awareness. Some forms of esoteric self-developments seek to rid oneself of concerns about the self in order to achieve a higher state of being. They may deliberately enter states of non-thinking and revel in such intuitive paradoxes as knowing through not knowing. Source: https://www.aspira.org/sites/default/files/U_III_M_1_SA.pdf 15  Lesson Share your unique characteristics, habits and 2 experiences; and EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.2 WHO AM I? ACTIVITY 5 About Me: The purpose of this exercise is to encourage you to start thinking about what makes you the unique person that you are. Complete the following: My favorite food My favorite place An important person in my life My favorite possession A group I belong to My favorite pastime A dream for the future Something I dislike Something I’m good at I was really happy when Something that my friends like about me I’m proud of My family is happy when I Something that make me unique is Source: https://bit.ly/3cWa5r5 and TherapistAid.com 16  What Is It 10 THINGS THAT MAKE YOU UNIQUE 1. You are known for your signature Style: Everybody carries their signature style wherever they go. Signature style would be the first thing that people would visualize when they think of you. People can be funny, boring, dizzy, entertaining, enthusiastic, curious, sweet, kinky, adventurous, threatening or serene. This signature style may be prevalent in the first meet or may be understood by a person who meets you, in course of time. But once they know what your style is, they will always associate you or see you as a person possessing these predefined virtues. So it is basically your signature style that finds you an eternal space in memories of other people. It makes you special. It makes you, YOU! 2. Your past experiences: Rightly said, what you are today is out of what happened to you yesterday. Everybody has had his/her set of sweet and sour experiences in the past. Your personality emerges out of what you go through and learn out of these experiences. A person who has seen only positives may be an optimist where someone who has suffered hardships and trustbreaks is more cautious in approach. Personality is a dynamic concept and you tend to imbibe things which you learn out of your daily experiences. So all the significant or not so significant things that happen with us gradually mould our character and make us different from everyone else. 3. Ethics and Morals Instilled in You: Perhaps the most important part of you, on basis of which you stand as an individual today is your ethical substance. Ethics and morals are instilled within a kid from childhood, and these depend upon the background of the family as well as the location and society where the kid is brought up. However the extent of internalizing social norms is purely individualistic. Also, what is particularly important for an individual point of view is your unique interpretation and acceptance/unacceptance of social order. You will be known for your morals as they will reflect in every decision you take throughout your life. 17 4. Attitude: People have some habitual attitude of their own, which may be positive and negative. Some may win over obstacles with the right attitude while some may even have an attitude problem. Attitude is the way in which we implement our ethics or principles. Attitude is shaped from a variety of factors like beliefs, thoughts, expressions, associations and external influence. Your attitude is purely yours, uniquely yours. Attitude makes you and attitude ruins you. What you need to understand is that people will perceive you in illumination of your attitude, both towards them and towards life. 5. Your appearance says a lot about you: Next on our list is your appearance. Appearance does not necessarily mean your body and features. Biologically, everyone is different; owing their looks to their genes. But apart from the natural differences, you also carry your unique style in your looks. You are known for your appearance in terms of your hair cut, sense of fashion, your accessories, your makeup and your confidence. For example, consider how uniquely Vidya Balan and Frieda Pinto carry their styles. One is known for her beautiful South Indian sarees while the other for her extravagant gowns. The best example if we are talking about looks and uniqueness would be Lady Gaga. She makes her unique style statement everytime she is out. So, your appearance plays an important part in building your individuality. 6. Your way of communication: Communication is the real essence of this social world. People see you in the light of what and how you communicated to them. Communication involves everything – your accent, your language, your expressions, your signs, your texts, your writings – everything. Some people can communicate at once and some need time to come out of inertia. But the way you speak or express your things is the quintessence of your personality. Communication makes great orators or bloggers and imparts them their unique style. Communication is what makes great actors, too. 7. Your habits or hobbies: It is very usual in daily worldly affairs to get known for your habits or hobbies. Chain smokers, early risers, computer geeks, drinkers, adventure maniacs, book worms, etc are some of the phrases which are used to describe people on the basis of their habits and hobbies. Your interests are reflected in the habits you build or the hobbies you cultivate, and such unique interests make you unique. You can be a person known for your fashion statements or you can be a person known to have large number of pets. It all depends on what interests you and it varies from person to person. Habits make you. Hobbies complete you. 18 8. Your relationships: Your relationships speak a lot about you. Your conduct in any relationship makes you different. You will be known for how you behave with others, specially the opposite sex. There are people who do not even care for their parents. On the other hand, there are also people who are generous towards acquaintances. Some people are very polite and friendly towards some but scornful towards others. Therefore, your ways in dealing with people around you are absolutely different and unique. 9. Your aspirations and goals: Almost every person on earth has a goal, or a vision, or atleast a hope to achieve something. Their dreams may be big or small, for short term or long term, for themselves or their family, but their dreams exist. You too might be cultivating an ambition within the bounds of your eyes. You may be an aspiring doctor, actor, engineer, economist, sociologist, historian, or a chartered accountant. These aspirations are part of your unique identity. Every day, you may set big or small goals for yourself. Then, you may be able to complete them or not. But these goals make you what you are. They make you realize your caliber along with shaping your future. 10. Your beliefs and culture: What do you believe about this world? What do you think of the tiniest and the hugest of things on earth? How much are you drawn towards the mysteries of life? Most importantly, what do you believe about yourself? Different people may answer these questions differently. Perhaps you won’t have the same beliefs as your dad or as your son. These beliefs are what make you a different person. Also, your approach towards god, evil and spirituality imparts individuality to you. Next, what is your culture? Do you follow your culture like every other person in your society? How ethnic are you? Or maybe, how conservative or liberated are you? All of it reflects in your decisions and makes you different from all others Source: https://listontap.com/10-things-make-unique/ 19  What I Can Do SHARING YOUR UNIQUE CHARACTERISTICS HABITS AND ACTIVITY 6 EXPERIENCE JOURNAL WRITING You are and no one else. You are unique. You are special. Believe it or not, every person is different and so you are. It is time for you to reflect on what makes you unique. 1. What is your style of dressing up? 2. Write one of your significant experience. How did it shape you? 3. What do you value most? 4. What are the attitudes you possess do you like? 5. What type of appearance says a lot about you? 6. What are your ways of communication? 7. What are your habits or hobbies? 8. How do you deal your relationships with your peers? 9. What are your aspirations and goals? 10. What are your beliefs and culture? 20  What I Have Learned GENERALIZATION Fill in the blank. Use the word inside the box. Self Johari Window Open Self Blind Self Hidden Self Unknown Self Ideal Self Actual Self Self-Concept Self Knowledge Strength Signature style Communication Attitude Self Awareness __________ 1. The union of elements, namely: Body, thoughts, feelings or emotions, and sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person. __________ 2. A simple and useful tool for understanding and training self- awareness, personal development, improving communications, interpersonal relationships, group dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships. __________ 3. What others know about you that you know too. __________ 4. What others know about you, but you don’t. __________ 5. What others don’t know about you, but you do. __________ 6. What others don’t know about you that you don’t either? __________ 7. The self that you aspire to be. __________ 8. The self that you actually see. __________ 9. It refers to your awareness of yourself. __________ 10 It is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how others react to you. __________ 11. Things you can do well __________ 12. The first thing that people would visualize when they think of you __________ 13. The real essence of this social world. __________ 14. It is shaped from a variety of factors like beliefs, thoughts, expressions, associations and external influence. __________ 15. It is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. 21  Additional Activities MY SYMBOL ACTIVITY 7 Think of a symbol that you think represents you. This could be anything- an animal, object or another representation that you think defines and describes you Draw it here. List some of the qualities or characteristics that the symbol represents. 22  COLLAGE ME ACTIVITY 8 Another great way to get you working visually as you develop your self-concept is to create collages. Use old magazines and catalogues for this activity. You may use a large piece of paper to work with. You should cut out pictures that you associate with your identity; these might be things you love, pictures that represent your strengths, or images representing things you are working on. Share their collages with their classmates. SELF PORTRAIT IN ACTION ACTIVITY 9 Using a small mirror, draw yourself. You may use black or colored pencils, but any medium could be used. The picture does not have to be exact, but it should be representing you. These portraits also go into the journals. An optional variation is to divide the shape for the face down the center lengthwise. Half of the face can be a depiction of how you see yourself, and the other half is how you think others see you. This is accompanied by a journal entry that describes how you see yourself versus how you thinks others see you. These activities are just the tip of the iceberg. There are many other activities that can help you build a positive self-concept. These types of activities give the strength to withstand the pressures of the pack. Hopefully, these activities enable you to resist that pull to metamorphoses into who you’re not. 23  Assessment: Post-Test Multiple Choice: Encircle the letter of the best answer. 1. It is shaped from a variety of factors like beliefs, thoughts, expressions, associations and external influence A. Aspirations C. Belief B. Attitude D. Moral 2. Which of the following statement showed is most likely not a good habit? A. Adventure Maniac C. Computer geeks B. Chain smokers D. Early riser 3. It is a dynamic concept and you tend to imbibe things, which you learn out of your daily experiences. A. Appearance C. Personality B. Hobbies D. Self-Concept 4. It is the first thing that people would visualize when they think of you. A. Appearance C. Habits B. Attitude D. Signature Style 5. Which of the following does NOT describe a NAÏVE persona? A. They talk little about themselves and may spend a significant amount of time ensconced in their own private world. B. They know relatively little about themselves, they may be of lower intelligence, not being able to relate either to themselves or to others. C. They are so comfortable with themselves they are not ashamed or troubled with the notion of other people seeing themselves as they really are. D. They hide little about themselves and are typically considered as harmless by others, who either treat them in kind, and perhaps patronizing ways (that go unnoticed) or take unkind advantage of their naivety. 6. It is a simple and useful tool for understanding and training self-awareness, personal development, improving communications, interpersonal relationships, group dynamics, team development and intergroup relationships. A. Johari Window C. Self-Concept B. Self-Assessment D. Self-Image 7. In Johari Window, it is the quadrant where others know about you and you know too. A. Blind Self C. Open Self B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self 24 8. There are often parts of our selves that are too private to share with others wherein we hide these away and refuse to discuss them with other people or even expose them in any way. A. Blind Self C. Open Self B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self 9. This is part of yourself where what others know about you, but you don’t. A. Blind Self C. Open Self B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self 10. This is part of yourself that others don’t know about you and you don’t either. A. Blind Self C. Open Self B. Hidden Self D. Unknown Self 11. Which of the following refers to your awareness of yourself? A. Actual self C. Self-Concept B. Ideal self D. Self-Image 12. Which statement pertains to Self-knowledge? A. It is the self that you aspire to be. B. It is the self that you actually see. C. It is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how others react to you. D. It is an idealized image that we developed over time, based on what we have learned and experienced. 13. It is the one that you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure. A. Actual self C. Self-Concept B. Ideal self D. Self-Image 14. It is the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, or in some cases, born to have. A. Actual self C. Self-Concept B. Ideal self D. Self-Image 15. It is the union of elements, namely: body, thoughts, feelings or emotions, and sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person. A. Habit C. Self-Concept B. Self D. Self-Image 25  References Source: https://bit.ly/3d0q Source: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-guide/strengths-based-therapy Source: http://sourcesofinsight.com/know-and-share-yourself-enough/ Source: https://www.aspira.org/sites/default/files/U_III_M_1_SA.pdf Source: https://listontap.com/10-things-make-unique/ 27 For inquiries or feedback, please write or call: Department of Education – Bureau of Learning Resources (DepEd-BLR) Department of Education – Division of Cagayan de Oro Office Address: Fr. William F. Masterson Ave. Upper Balulang, Cagayan de Oro City Telefax: (08822) 855-0048 E-mail Address: [email protected] 28