The Family and The Adolescent PDF

The Family and The Adolescent Opening Prayer  Oral Recitation: How do you influence your social relationships? What factors affect social Relationships?  TOPICS Family Types, Structures and Composition The Genogram The Fami...

The Family and The Adolescent Opening Prayer  Oral Recitation: How do you influence your social relationships? What factors affect social Relationships?  TOPICS Family Types, Structures and Composition The Genogram The Family Cycle and Family Systems Theory Family Influences  OBJECTIVES ¨ identify and discuss the basic types of relationships (family) ¨ identify the ways on how to improve family relationships; ¨ appraise their family structure and the type of care he/she gives and receives, which may help in understanding himself/herself better; ¨ make a family Genogram  IGNATIAN VALUES Contemplative in Action You certainly know what’s right from what is not. Remember that whatever good is done brings honor to you as a person and your loved ones. Cura Personalis It is truly loving and caring for your loved ones by being gentle and valuing acceptable expressions of love. Is your family big or small? What makes your family unique from the others? What is it in your family that means so much to you that you cannot live without? Family is a basic unit of society according to Sociology. It is where the development of an individual is greatly influenced by it. Family is the unit that has given you the very first experience of the world and on how to relate. You were dependent on the support, love and care that you grew around it that came with experiences on how you were cared for is making impact on your developmental progress, (Ramos, 2016).  Your socialization as an adolescent first begun at home. How you behave, believe, love and make decisions are significantly manifestations of the quality of socialization experience you have in your home. There different family structures as there are also varied family relationships. Some days are smooth-sailing on a sunny day while some are stormy days. ROLES OF THE FAMILY MEMBERS FATHER MOTHER CHILDREN TYPES OF FAMILY TYPES OF FAMILY Nuclear Family The nuclear family has always been identified as the ideal one for an individual. This type has two parents and children. Being the ideal one, the children are raised with more stable home environment where parents may be able to provide more balanced psychological well being and emotional and financial stability of children. TYPES OF FAMILY Childless Family This family set-up where the couple does not have children. This can be either by choice or due to circumstances like health conditions. The couple engage in many activities like travel, sports, adventure, support advocacies, special classes aside from their work or business. TYPES OF FAMILY Childless Family The couple considers a special relationship or support with their nephews and nieces and even god-children like that of a parent but not in legal terms like adoption. Taking care of a pet may also bring meaning to their shared life. TYPES OF FAMILY Single Parent Family A single parent family comprises of a solo parent raising one or more children. The parent could be a father or a mother who provides financial, emotional and other basic support to the children. Parenting in itself for this type of structure is highly challenging as this may mean nobody shares the responsibility and accountability over taking care of the children and provide nurturance. TYPES OF FAMILY Single Parent Family There may be a need also to find someone to provide childcare when the solo parent is out to earn a living. Since only one may be earning a living, having more children means more financial demands, thus, the pressure to earn more or perhaps there is limited income to be able to sustain the needs of the children and the entire family. Some Adolescents with single parents have to get a part time job at food chains while studying. TYPES OF FAMILY Single Parent Family Solo-parent family can also be a choice. Factors like, separation and diseased spouse or partner are the most common reasons for a Single-Parent Family. TYPES OF FAMILY Extended Family Extended family is a structure compromising two parents, children, aunts, uncles, grandparents or non relatives living together at home. For Filipinos, having extended family members is a product of financial difficulties whereby certain individuals outside of the basic family may have difficulty supporting themselves. TYPES OF FAMILY Extended Family Adolescents growing in this kind of environment may realize how childhood years may be filled with playmates, love and support from relatives especially grandparents. Adolescents may also feel sometimes the need to go out of the congested small house filled with noise of everyone. TYPES OF FAMILY Extended Family There are two types of extended family: Vertically Extended (inter- generational, grandparents) and Horizontally Extended (Intra-generational, aunts, uncles, cousins). TYPES OF FAMILY Step or Blended Family This refers to two families being merged together due to marriage of a parent of one family to another. Thus, its new family comprises of a husband, wife and children from previous marriages or relationships. Adolescents living in stepfamily arrangement may need more time to blend with members of the “other” family. TYPES OF FAMILY Step or Blended Family Parents play vital role in facilitating in harmonious relationship among meeting all the children from two marriages and discuss the plans for the entire “new family”. Familial kinship can be developed if two sets of children come together harmoniously. TYPES OF FAMILY Grandparent Family Is a type of family structure whose grandparents take the role of parenting and nurturing of a child or children. Commonly known as working-parents type of family too. There can be varied reasons, such as death of children’s parents, abandoned, unfit to provide parenting to children or both parents are working. Some parents have to go abroad or work very far to secure the financial needs of the family while entrusting the parenting to the grandparents. TYPES OF FAMILY Grandparent Family An adolescent in this type of family may experience strength of comfort since grandparents are known to be tolerant and permissive in terms of discipline. This can be very challenging for both parents and the grandparents since parenting styles may differ and its effect to the adolescent. Technologies today play a great role in the communication of family members to keep in touch with each other even when the parents are away. The grandparents can also confer with the parents anytime. TYPES OF FAMILY Other Family Structures Family structures may differ from the usual set-up you know but are still called a family. There are couples who live together and have children as a common-law or domestic partners but are not legally married. They can be childless or may have a children on their own or children from there previous relationships. As the generation evolved through time and has widen different perspectives, same-sex partners who raise a child also belong to these family structures. TYPES OF FAMILY Other Family Structures The same-sex partners may raise a child who is adopted or a biological child from either one of them. This family may either have two dads or two moms. However unique these family structures are, what’s more important is the love and dedication of the parents to support their children that really help strive to function as a family. TYPES OF FAMILY Which among the types of family are you most familiar with? THE GENOGRAM Do you know your family tree? THE GENOGRAM A Genogram is a pictorial display of a person’s family relationships and medical history. It goes beyond traditional family tree by allowing the user to see the dynamics within the family, visualize hereditary patterns and psychological factors that punctuate relationship or that has possibly affected human condition. This was developed and popularized by Monica McGoldrick and Randy Gerson in the middle of 1980s. This was used for their therapeutic work. THE GENOGRAM The Basic Genogram Symbols THE GENOGRAM The Family Relationship Symbols THE GENOGRAM The Family Relationship Symbols THE GENOGRAM The Emotional Relationship Symbols Let's try to describe the family relationships. Get to know more about the Genogram and their samples found in the following websites: http//www.smartdraw.com/genogram/examples http:/www.genopro.com/genogram/sample.aspx The Family Life Cycle and Family Systems Theory The Family Life Cycle theory refers to the changes in the emotional and intellectual life of a person as one passes through from childhood to the retirement years In each stage, one faces challenges in the family life, allowing him or her to build or gain new skills.  Can you recall a family situation that greatly challenged you and helped you at the same time? The Family Life Cycle Stages Independence - ability to fend his/her needs Marriage - build his own family Parenting - raising children Preparing Adult Children - prepare children for challenges of the world Retirement - resting from daily grind of work Parenting Preparing Adult Children The Family Life Cycle Marriage Retirement Independence As a family member, your experiences through the family life cycle will affect who you are and who you become. The more you understand about the challenges of each stage of the cycle, the more likely you are to successfully move on. What can disrupt the cycle? Stress Medical condition Unexpected Life Crisis The Family Systems theory suggests that individuals cannot be understood in isolation from one another, but rather as a part of their family. A family as an emotional unit. This means that one’s behavior affects the other family member’s behavior in predictable ways. Families are systems of interconnected and interdependent individuals, and therefore, they cannot be understood apart from each other. How do you affect each of your family members? Family Influences The family is the very first social unit that a child is exposed to. From birth to adulthood, it is the family who provides care and nurturance. Thus, its influence on one’s attitude, values and beliefs are great. How does the family influence the adolescent? The family takes a significant role in the lives of the growing children. The home environment can either influence the child in positive or negative ways. By action and by example, parents shape the lives of their children. Socialization processes may also influence the family when members go out to other places. Friends and peers are also examples. Challenges and Issues Among Adolescents The storms and stress… Families from urban areas and rural areas may differ in family dynamics, according to Ramos (2017). While families are more traditional in the rural areas that follow mostly the extended family set-up for some, the urban families are more dynamic in terms of the parental upbringing, family structures and handling challenges. As these differ from family dynamics, family conflicts still center on the common issues such as financial difficulties, marital separation, violence and other family disputes, when adolescents witness these could be detrimental to the their development and become source of their family stressors, Ramos (2017), further explains. The influence remains when these conflicts are not resolved that will then lead to parent-adolescent conflicts. Although mostly, parent- adolescent conflicts may not necessarily come from family disputes. There are many factors that can contribute to parent-adolescent conflicts that may not dominantly come from family relationships alone. Not telling the truth Being disorganized Getting into trouble Sibling rivalry Too much time on gadgets Poor academic performance Teenage pregnancy Vices and addiction Career decisions  Do you think that these common problems are behavioral in terms of peer pressure or there can be underlying problems that come with it?  Sometimes, parents themselves get scared, angry, frustrated, or hopeless. These are normal reactions.  Understanding what adolescents go through by both parties can help the situation and resolve existing conflicts. Teens should be treated with respect and parents should make them proud of their family.  What should adolescents and their families do when facing common issues? WAYS OF IMPROVING FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS  Time, Love and Commitment Relationships need to work. Especially your family where you began as a social being. Family has to be nurtured and strengthened. Being close and being comfortable with your family may not be enough. Something deeper helps nurture the family – the time, love and commitment.  Time Make quality time with your family to make good moments and make memories. Family memories are made with time spent doing activities together. It’s different when you make time from putting it in between your schedule. Be with you family in good times and in bad as it gives each family members security and support. Time with your family enhances communication.  Lov e and be the first to The family should be built on love show it. However love does not grow on its own. You express it in deeds than in words. You can show love by being caring in your actions toward them, be honest, be patient, be understanding and be forgiving.  Commitment It takes effort and courage to do things that you commit yourself to. But being committed, you put the well-being and happiness of your family first by doing what is good, healthy and nurturing to your family. You become dependable as you help enhance your family relationship and make your family secured.  These can also help adolescents deal with their respective family relationships and perspectives in ways to improve family relationships. 1. Honesty towards each other 2. Talk with each other 3. Non-judgmental listening 4. Respect towards each other 5. Support system at home and school activities 6. Companionship with each other 7. Make each other understand body and emotional changes 8. Honestly discuss love, sex and relationship 9. Spend time with each other 10.Talk about how to be good and responsible in relationships 11. Openly discuss peer pressure, drugs and alcohol What are the things that you appreciate most of your family and family members?  Your family’s influence is remarkable to you as an adolescent. Going back into the details of family history, relationship and emotional experience, these may help understand yourself even more. Lastly, you are being challenged to partake in the process of improving your family relationship, though much is your parents’ responsibility to become good models of making the family relationship strengthened and nurtured.  Create a family Genogram. Include the family relationships. You may also generate using the following websites. http//www.smartdraw.com/genogram/examples http:/www.genopro.com/genogram/sample.aspx