Emotional Intelligence PDF

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE Today I feel…..  Why do we need to be aware of our emotions? Why is it significant to one's development? How do you know if you are emotional stable? Why is there a need to develop one's emotional intelligence/quotient? Daniel Goleman  Ability to perceiv...

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE Today I feel…..  Why do we need to be aware of our emotions? Why is it significant to one's development? How do you know if you are emotional stable? Why is there a need to develop one's emotional intelligence/quotient? Daniel Goleman  Ability to perceive and express emotions accurately and adaptively (taking the perspective of others.) to understand emotion and emotional knowledge (such as understanding the roles that emotions play in friendship and marriage) to use feelings to facilitate thought (such as being in a positive mood, which is linked to creative thinking) to manage emotions in oneself and Emotional Intelligence others (such as being able to control one's anger). is the ability to understand, use, (Peter Salovey and John Mayer,1990) and manage our emotions. John Mayer Peter Salovey David Caruso The Mayer-Salovey-Caruso Emotional Intelligence Test (MSCEIT)  The MSCEI uses a variety of MSCEIT interesting and creative tasks to measure a person’s capacity for reasoning with emotional information.  Perceiving Emotions The four aspects of Emotional Intelligence Understanding Managing Emotions MSCEIT Emotions Facilitating thoughts Emotional Self-awareness - is the ability to recognize one’s own feelings. Emotions - are what you feel on the inside when things happen. Emotions are also known as feelings. Emotions 1. Angry: feeling mad with a person, act, or 9. Excited: feeling happy and aroused idea 10. Glad: feeling joy and pleasure 2. Afraid: feeling fear and worry 11. Jealous: feeling upset when someone has 3. Ashamed: feeling bad after doing wrong something that you would like to have or they get to do something you wanted 4. Confident: feeling able to do something 12. Lonely: feeling alone and that nobody cares 5. Confused: feeling unable to think clear 13. Proud: feeling pleased for doing well 6. Depressed: feeling sad, blue, discouraged, and unhappy 14. Relaxed: feeling at ease and without worry, calm 7. Embarrassed: feeling worried about what 15. Stressed: feeling tense, tired, uneasy, and others may think overwhelmed 8. Energetic: feeling full of energy Source: www.DannyPettry.Com  Being Aware of your emotions Improving your EQ Understanding How others Feel and Why “Empathy” Emotional intelligence is a Managing Emotional Reactions combination of several different skills Choosing your Mood Why is emotional intelligence (EQ) so important?  Physical health Performance at work Emotional Intelligence affects: Mental health Relationships HELPGUIDE.ORG by Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., and Melinda Smith, M.A. published in December 2015 o Stay connected to the Bring emotions into emotional part of your balance at will. brain Develop key skills for Be an effective controlling and managing communicator. overwhelming stress  GENEVA’S STORY Geneva has been standing in line for over two hours to buy a concert ticket. The rule is, one person, one ticket. Her feet are killing her and she knows she is in trouble with her mom, who expected her home by now. But there are only five people left in front of her and she is sure she will get a ticket. Out of nowhere, two girls from school walk up, make a big deal about meeting up with their friend who just happens to be standing in front of Geneva, and take places in line in front of her. Source: http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/1190-lessons Processing Questions: 1. What do you think Geneva should do? 2. How will Geneva feel? How will the two girls feel? 3. What is the worst possible outcome? Types of Responses 1. Passive response: Behaving passively means not expressing your own needs and feelings or expressing them so weakly that they will not be addressed. 2. Aggressive response: Behaving aggressively is asking for what you want or saying how you feel in a threatening, sarcastic or humiliating way that may offend the other person(s). 3. Assertive response: Behaving assertively means asking for what you want or saying how you feel in an honest and respectful way that does not infringe on another person's rights or put the individual down.  Integration Lecturette A part of growing up is learning how to "Be the Boss of Your Feelings." It is normal to experience many feelings, and you develop tools to help them express and manage their difficult feelings. Here are some challenges: The Smile Challenge: Next time you are feeling sad or grumpy, smile at someone or try to make someone laugh. Notice how making someone laugh or smile makes you smile too.  The “Bee Breath”: If you start to feel angry or upset, sit quietly with your hands in your lap. Close your eyes and make an angry face. Then take a deep breath in and as you breathe out, hum or buzz that angry bee out. Keep buzzing using all your breath. Now make a happy face, breathe in again, and make a happy humming or buzzing sound as you breathe out. Keep buzzing until you feel that the angry bee is gone. Source:http://www.educationworld.com/a_lesson/lesson-plan- managingfeelings.shtml#sthash.qUEP980m.dpuf The Breathing Challenge: Who controls how you breathe? That's right, you do! So here is a challenge. Next time you are upset, feeling nervous, or can't get to sleep, take your hand and put it on your heart or your tummy. You may like to close your eyes as we count five breaths. With each full breath, that's one breath in and one breath out, press one finger, and then the next, against your tummy. Let's do this five times with long, slow, easy breaths." After the five breaths, say, "Open your eyes. Do you feel better? Tell your teacher if it works for you. Maybe you can all do it as a class if you need to take a break, to turn the day around, or to get ready for a test.” I AM…. I am most happy when _________________. I feel embarrassed when __________________. I think negative thoughts about myself when ______________________________. I am _________________ when ________________________________________. I feel _______________________ when __________________________________. I think ________________ about ________________ when ___________________. I am _________________ when ________________________________________. I feel ____________________ when __________________________________. I think _______________ about _______________ when _____________________.