My Journey with My Ex-Husband Part 1 PDF

Final A and K Story In 2013, when I came to California, USA, my ex-husband Abdulle kimo, and I decided to move from California to Ohio. Following our three-month stay in Ohio, we came to visit Minnesota. After our short days in Minnesota, Abdulle told me about his love for the state of Minnesota. H...

Final A and K Story In 2013, when I came to California, USA, my ex-husband Abdulle kimo, and I decided to move from California to Ohio. Following our three-month stay in Ohio, we came to visit Minnesota. After our short days in Minnesota, Abdulle told me about his love for the state of Minnesota. He went back to Ohio to get our things and then come back. He left me with a family in the Oromo community in Minnesota until he returns. After his short time in Ohio, he said he was worried about our money. He said he wanted to work in Ohio for a bit and that we could afford to rent and all that for our settlement in Minnesota. Then, I said “ok”. We’ve been happily married since 2010, so I trusted him completely. I believed in him, no matter where he is, because he’s working for our benefit. I stayed with some people in Minnesota for about a month until Abdulle come back from Ohio. Everything was new to me, and I was waiting for him to come back to Minnesota. It was really hard for me to be alone at home some days in Minnesota. I had to be patient and waited for Abdulle, because I believed he was there for us. I patiently waited for him to return from Ohio to Minnesota. Being apart while I was in Africa made me trust him. In February 2014, me and my husband had a fight over the phone about me not having a place to live in Minnesota. It was super hard to stay in a cramped house he left me in. He was always yelling at me, making me unsure about what to do. He acted as if he didn’t understand what I was going through. So, our fight led to silence between us. I was left in complete uncertainty, not knowing what would happen to me. Thank God, this woman I met in Minneapolis helped me out during this hard time. She was an Ethiopian and told me about a library program that helps newcomers learn English for free. She was involved in this program for herself. When I went to the Library, I had a luck of getting teaching assistance from Ibsa. Ibsa, who speaks my language too, helped out at the Library. It’s been a week and no sign of Abdulle. We haven’t talked at all. Another issue was that the people he left me with said they were gonna move to another state. This made things even more difficult for me. I couldn’t sleep at all, always worrying. When I went to the Library the 1/4 next day, I explained my problem to Ibsa, and Ibsa was shocked and kindly offered me a place to stay. In February 2014, Ibsa took me to the Public House and made me sign a paper. When I was at 314 Hennepin Ave., Minneapolis, MN, with Ibsa, I was going to the downtown library to learn English. I met some people at the Library who were students at the adult school in Minneapolis on Lake Street. Then I asked my friend from the library, the one I study ESL with, and she told me about the Adult School on Lake Street. She said, the school is amazing at helping students who can’t speak English. She was like, “They’ve got, so many programs, you know? Like technical stuff, health-related things, and all that. And they can even help you in getting a GED faster. So, in April 2014, I went to South Campus to get registered. In June 2014, after Abdulle came to Minnesota to apologize to me, I forgave him. It was tough to accept his apology, but I had to forgive him because of our love and the promise I made for our marriage. After we apologized, we then went to Ohio together, spending about three months there. In August of 2014, I returned to Minnesota for school. When he was driving me back to Minnesota, Abdulle mentioned that hopefully he’d be moving soon. He was saying that getting an education in the US is super important. He was like, I gotta find a job in Minnesota before I can move, but you don’t have to quit studying in Minnesota. He said distance doesn’t matter and we can be together anytime until I find a job in Minnesota. Once School closed, I traveled to Ohio in December 2014 and stayed with Abdulle. Then, in January 2015, I came back to Minnesota. When I asked Abdulle when he’s moving to Minnesota, he said he needs more time because he’s still having a hard time finding a job in Minnesota. Abdulle said to me, “I’ve got you, no worries.” Continue with your school, finish your GED and then go to college. In 2015, Abdulle said he’d visit me in Minnesota until he found a job and said I didn’t have to go to Ohio. He told me to focus on school and not to worry about traveling between Ohio and Minnesota. He was coming over in 2015 and 2016 until we separated. When my ex-husband came to me in the summer of 2016, I could see how unhappy he was. When I asked if I could come to Ohio with him, he said it’s not about you going to Ohio. He was all like, go to summer School in Minnesota and finish your GED, you know? I said to him, what’s the matter? You don’t look happy. He said there’s nothing and I’m not sad. I put 2/4 faith in God, “Saying God, make things easy for us”. Honestly, I had my doubts and wondered why he was so unhappy if there was nothing going on. In 2016, he was clearly annoyed when I mentioned his move to Minnesota again. In July 2016, when he came to visit me and went back to Ohio, he took forever to return my calls. He claimed to be busy and said his work schedule had changed. In late August and early September 2016, I faced difficulties in communicating with him. It broke my heart that we couldn’t communicate. I called him back in mid-September 2016 and guess what? He had blocked me and changed his phone number. In 2016, I switched my ID from Ohio State to Minnesota because I was losing faith in Abdulle’s plans to move with me. My ex-husband Abdulle Kimo was living with Sadiya Musa and had children, as stated in my citizen’s decision notice. I had no idea he was cheating on me with Sadia. When I came to the US from Nairobi in 2013, I met Sadia and this other person she introduced as her relative. She told me she came to San Diego to see her relative. They stay at 2172 Garston St., Apt D, San Diego, CA, where my ex-husband Abdulle used to live. The apartment had two bedrooms and Sadiya was staying with her so-called relative in the other room. She told me she came to San Diego from Michigan a few months before me to visit her relatives. And, from what she said, she knew someone in east San Diego and used to go there a lot. After I came to San Diego, she stayed at 2172 Garston St, Apt D for a bit, then left before Abdulle and I moved to Ohio. According to the N-400 decision notice, my ex-Abdulle Kimo and Sadiya Musa were secretly together. That’s why they were in another town in Ohio, far from where Abdulle and I lived. Abdulle had been lying to me the whole time about his plan to move to Minnesota. Abdulle was so unfair, ignoring my feelings and wasting my time. We would have gone our separate ways, if he had admitted to not loving me anymore, but he kept lying to me instead. He was so wrong to do all that, checking if he still wanted Sadiya, by lying to me, and pushing me away. Just so you know, he left me for her and got a divorce without my permission. As for my property, I was going to school. I knew little about assets. I trusted Abdullah and believed that his belongings were mine, too. He had been telling me that until 2016; he was filing his taxes jointly with me. 3/4 I really loved Abdullah Kimo, not just for immigration benefits. When we first met, I was a refugee from Ethiopia living in Kenya. Back when I wasn’t married yet, a UN agency accepted me and I was waiting to get placed in a third country. Once we got married, I registered Abdulle Kimo as my husband in the UN. I held a special place in my heart for him until our divorce. When our love was strong, he visited me in Kenya twice, even though it was hard for him to take time off work. I loved him and wasn’t in a relationship with anyone else until he divorced me in 2018. How would you feel if your partner started secretly loving someone else? When I found out my ex Abdulle Kimo Kimo was cheating on me with Sadiya Musa, it hurt so bad and took forever to get over. I had a feeling I couldn’t explain. Whenever I remember, everything feels like a total nightmare. 4/4