Q2 Mod 2 Dynamics of Commitment Personal Development PDF

Senior High School School Personal Development Quarter 2 - Module 2 Dynamics of Commitment Personal Development – Senior High School Alternative Delivery Mode Quarter 2 - Module 2: Dynamics of Commitment First Edition, 2020 Republic Act 8293, section 176 states tha...

Senior High School School Personal Development Quarter 2 - Module 2 Dynamics of Commitment Personal Development – Senior High School Alternative Delivery Mode Quarter 2 - Module 2: Dynamics of Commitment First Edition, 2020 Republic Act 8293, section 176 states that: No copyright shall subsist in any work of the Government of the Philippines. However, prior approval of the government agency or office wherein the work is created shall be necessary for the exploitation of such work for a profit. Such agency or office may, among other things, impose as a condition the payment of royalty. Borrowed materials (i.e., songs, stories, poems, pictures, photos, brand names, trademarks, etc.) included in this book are owned by their respective copyright holders. Every effort has been exerted to locate and seek permission to use these materials from their respective copyright owners. The publisher and authors do not represent nor claim ownership over them. 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Sincerest appreciation to those who have made a significant contribution to these modules  Table of Contents What This Module is About……………………………………………………………………….i What I Need to Know……………………………………………………………………………..i How to Learn from this Module………………………………………………………………….ii Icons of this Module……………………………………………………………………………....ii What I Know….…………………………………………………………………………………...iii Lesson 1: Being Responsible in a Healthy Relationship What I Need to Know……………………….……………………………….…..1 What’s New: Friendship Stoplight Analogy ………………………………..….2 What Is It: Important Aspects for Health Relationships................................3 What’s More: Becoming Responsible in a Relationship……………….…….5 What I Can Do: Journal Reflection..............................................................6 Summary…………………………………………………………………………………………..7 Assessment: (Post Test) ……………………………………………………………………….8 Key to Answers……………………………………………………………………………..........10 References…………………….…………………………………………………………............12 What This Module is About Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships that you make in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the most important lessons about who you are. Truly good relationships take time and energy to develop. This module contains varied activities that can help you build, become responsible, and maintain a good relationship with your family, friends, and significant other by identifying the appropriate way of expressing your attraction, love, and commitment to them. Important aspects of healthy relationships will be tackled. This module focused on taking responsibility in a relationship. What I Need to Know At the end of this module, you should be able to: 1. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship (ESP-PD11/12PR-Iii-9.3) i How to Learn from this Module To achieve the objectives cited above, you are to do the following: Take your time to read the lessons carefully. Follow the directions and/or instructions in the activities and exercises diligently. Answer all the given tests and exercises. Icons of this Module This part contains learning objectives that What I Need to Know are set for you to learn as you go along the module. This is an assessment as to your level of knowledge of the subject matter at hand, What I know meant specifically to gauge prior related knowledge. This part connects the previous lesson with What’s In that of the current one. An introduction to the new lesson through What’s New various activities, before it will be presented to you. These are discussions of the activities as a What is It way to deepen your discovery and understanding of the concept. These are follow-up activities that are What’s More intended for you to practice further to master the competencies. Activities designed to process what you What I Have Learned have learned from the lesson. These are tasks that are designed to showcase your skills and knowledge What I can do gained and applied to real-life concerns and situations. ii  What I Know Multiple Choice. Select the letter of the right answer by writing in your answer sheet among the given choices. 1. Which of the following statements is a good sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your friend pressures you to do things you do not want to do. B. Your friend tells you not to hang out with certain people. C. Your friend criticizes you or the people you care about. D. You usually feel happy when you are with this person. 2. Which of the following statements is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your friends talk to you about his/her feelings. B. Your friend respects your feelings and your opinions. C. Your friend bullies and makes fun of other people at school. D. Your friend is happy when good things happen to you and celebrates your successes. 3. Which of the following is an important aspect of a healthy relationship? A. Inconsiderate C. Incompatibility B. Dishonesty D. Compassionate 4. Which of the following is an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. Overreacting in a misunderstanding between you and your friend. B. Be willing to forgive your family member and yourself. C. Loving others is easy but loving yourself is difficult. D. Blaming other people. 5. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You feel fear in your relationship. B. Taking responsibility for things you are at fault. C. Loving others is easy and loving yourself as well. D. Be willing to forgive your family member and yourself. 6. Which of the following is an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You feel there’s no respect for you or your opinion. B. You feel the need to be someone that you are not. C. You feel fear in your relationship. D. You communicate, share or trust. 7. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. There are communication, sharing, and trust. B. You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried. C. You do not try to control each other. D. You feel safe to share secrets. iii 8. Which of the following is an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You are not able to disagree. B. You feel pressured to spend time together. C. It’s easy to be yourself when you are with them. D. You feel guilty when you’re both apart from each other. 9. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You forgive each other. B. There is communication, sharing, and trust. C. There is an equal amount of giving and take. D. You feel guilty when you are both apart from each other. 10. Which of the following is an important aspect of a healthy relationship? A. Integrity C. Blame Game B. Revengeful D. Resentment 11. Which of the following is NOT an important aspect of a healthy relationship? A. Empowering way to learn and grow C. Do not forgive others B. Honesty D. Compassionate 12. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. Builds trust and accountability. B. Build resentment in each other. C. Empowering each other and learn and grow together. D. Willingness to address unhealthy excuses and issues. 13. Which of the following is an element of a healthy relationship? A. One person makes all the decisions C. Be disrespectful B. Trust one another D. You are threatened 14. Which of the following statements is a good sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your friend makes fun of you. B. Your friend threatens to hurt you. C. You are afraid of your friend's temper. D. Your friend is happy when good things happen to you. 15. Which of the following statements is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship? A. You feel safe to share secrets. B. You feel fear in your relationship. C. There is communication, sharing, and trust. D. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person. iv  Lesson TAKING RESPONSIBILITY IN A 1 RELATIONSHIP What I Need to Know Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and well-being. There is compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. Research shows that a healthy relationship can help you live longer, deal with stress, be healthier, and feel richer. Imagine this scenario: "Why would you put ketchup all over my fries? " Jacks asked. Then Jill replied, "Well, you should've told me that you don't like ketchup!". This is an example of how oftentimes people deflect ownership of their behaviors and play the blame game. Is Jack responsible for his ketchup-covered fries, or should Jill have taken responsibility for her behavior? Taking responsibility in your relationship is the acknowledgment and ownership of every action and word you say and do. Why taking responsibility is important? Taking ownership and responsibility for your actions is an important part of healthy relationships. Doing so is an empowering reminder that you have control over the role you play in your relationship. Taking responsibility creates trust and dependability. When you take responsibility for your behaviors, you demonstrate to your partner, family, and friends that your willingness to be honest and vulnerable, which encourages them to be open and authentic with you. 1  What’s New Activity 1. Friendship Stoplight Analogy Directions: Recognize examples of positive and negative behaviors related to healthy and unhealthy relationships. The purpose of this activity is to explore relationships using a stoplight analogy. Copy the table on a separate sheet of paper and color the circle corresponding to your answer. ⚫ RED – Stop! These are bad signs of a relationship. ⚫ YELLOW – Caution! These are warning signs of a relationship. ⚫ GREEN – Go! These are good signs of a friendship! 1. You are afraid of your friend’s 9. Your friend threatens to hurt you. temper. 2. You enjoy being with this 10. You say that you agree with your person but you also enjoy friends, even though you don't. spending time with other You are afraid they won't be your friends. friend anymore if you disagree with them. 3. Your friend pressures you to 11. You rarely get to plan what the do things you do not want to two of you will do together. do. 4. Your friend tells you not to 12. You are nervous that if you tell hang out with certain people. your friend something personal, he/she will tell other people at school. 5. You usually feel happy when 13. Your friend is happy when good you are with this person. things happen to you and celebrates your successes. 6. Your friends talk to you about 14. Your friends sometimes make fun his/her feelings. of you. 7. Your friend criticizes you or the 15. Your friend respects your feelings people you care about. and your opinions. 8. Your friend bullies and makes fun of other people at school. 2  What Is It The situations given in the previous activity can all apply to your family and significant other or partner. Learn to recognize examples of people who engage in negative behaviors that lead to unhealthy relationships. These are some important aspects of healthy relationships. Important Aspects for Healthy Relationships Adapted from Woititz, J., Adult Children of Alcoholics Mutual Respect Do I treat the other person as if he/she is of value? Compassion Do I have a genuine concern for the issues that cause the other person's concern? Empathy To what degree am I able to allow myself to be open to what he/she feels? Understanding Do I try to understand the other person, what they say or do? Acceptance Can I feel I am okay the way I am? Do I accept him/her as he/she is? Honesty Is the relationship built on truthfulness, or are there games involved? Trust To what degree am I willing to let the other person know private aspects of my thoughts, feelings, and life? Good Can we talk freely about issues that are important to relationships? Communication Do we know how to talk so we each are understood and sharing is safe? Consideration Am I mindful of the other person’s needs as well as my own? Compatibility To what extent do we like and value the same things? Mutual Enjoyment In areas of disagreement, are we able to agree or disagree? Personal Integrity Am I able to maintain my beliefs and sense of self as well as offer my time and attention to the relationship? Vulnerability To what degree can I let down my barriers and allow the other person to see my perceived weaknesses, without fear of negative reactions from them? 3 How to become responsible in real life? Taking responsibility is not just a one-sided practice. It looks like practicing self- awareness. The following ways to use the empowering action of taking responsibility are important for you and your family, friends, or partner to use and practice in your relationship. 1. Be Honest “You have to love yourself before you love others” is a versatile phrase that has multiple meanings when applied to relationships. It can translate to “You have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others.” Being honest with yourself begins with a healthy sense of self-awareness. And being self-aware means you acknowledge that what you say and do impacts your family, friends, and partner. For example: Referring back to the ketchup situation, imagine you’re Jill. A healthy response would be to take ownership of her actions and respond with something like, “Oh, I’m sorry! I should have asked you before I added ketchup. I did not realize you didn’t like ketchup, and this is my mistake.” 2. Act on Situations, Don’t React When people are held accountable for their behaviors, they often become defensive. Getting defensive is a reaction. When you act on a situation, you can respond with clarity and awareness. You can practice acting on situations instead of reacting by taking deep breaths or counting to ten. It also helps to take a second and look at the situation from your partner’s perspective. It can be hard to think from the other perspective, especially in the heat of the moment. By being honest with yourself and your partner, you can effectively respond by taking responsibility. For example: Jill is reacting to Jack being upset instead of acting on her need to take responsibility. Acting instead of reacting allows you to clearly define a self-aware and honest answer to unhealthy behavior. 3. Be Willing to Forgive Your Other People and Yourself Everyone makes mistakes and forgiving yourself or your partner is important for moving past challenges and making your relationship stronger. When you view taking responsibility for your mistakes as an opportunity to learn, your relationship can become a place that fosters 4 and celebrates growth. Forgiveness builds trust and accountability in your relationship, breaks down resentment, and stops the never-fun "blame game." Taking responsibility for your behaviors in your relationship requires honest and open communication and a willingness to address unhealthy excuses with your family, friends, and partner. They’re not always easy discussions to have, but you’ll find that doing so builds trust within your relationship over time and is an empowering way to learn and grow. What’s More Activity 2. Becoming Responsible in a Relationship Directions: Divide your paper into two columns and identify healthy and unhealthy relationships. Consider your choices as someone being responsible in a relationship. 1. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person. 2. You do not try to control each other. There is an equal amount of giving and take. 3. You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried. 4. There are communication, sharing, and trust. You feel safe to share secrets. 5. You feel that you give more attention to them than they give to you. You feel controlled. 6. You don’t communicate, share or trust. 7. You like to spend time together but also enjoy doing things apart. 8. You feel pressured to spend time together and you feel guilty when you’re both apart from each other. 9. You feel the need to be someone that you are not. 10. It’s easy to be yourself when you are with them. 11. You respect each other's opinions. You listen and try to understand their point of view even if you don't always agree with them. 12. You feel the need to be someone that you are not. 13. There is no fear in your relationship. 14. You feel there’s no respect for you or your opinion. You are not able to disagree. 15. You feel fear in your relationship. 5  What I Can Do Activity 3: Journal Reflection Directions: Knowing the ways to nurture your relationship with others, reflect and write in your journal the following: 1. Write possible ways on how you will change your unhealthy relationship with them into a healthy relationship (if there's any). 2. What are the things you can do or promise to yourself to become responsible for maintaining the healthy relationship you have with other people? 6 Summary 1. Important aspects to nurture a relationship are the following: mutual respect, compassion, empathy, understanding, acceptance, honesty, trust, good communication, consideration, compatibility, mutual enjoyment, personal dignity, vulnerability. 2. To become responsible in a relationship in real life requires practicing self- awareness. The following ways to use the empowering action of taking responsibility are important for you and your family, friends, or partner to use and practice in your relationship. ✓ Be Honest ✓ Act on Situations, Don’t React ✓ Be Willing to Forgive Your Other People and Yourself 7  Assessment: (Post-Test) Multiple Choice. Select the letter of the right answer by writing in your answer sheet among the given choices. 1. Which of the following is an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You are not able to disagree and discuss. B. You feel pressured to spend time together. C. You can be yourself when you are with them. D. You feel guilty when you’re far away from each other. 2. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You feel safe to share secrets. B. You do not try to control each other. C. You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried. D. There is communication, sharing, and trust. 3. Which of the following is an important aspect of a healthy relationship? A. Inconsiderate C. Indifference B. Dishonesty D. Understanding 4. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. Listening during a misunderstanding between you and your friend. B. Taking responsibility for your actions, especially mistakes. C. Be willing to forgive your family member and yourself. D. Loving others is easy but loving yourself is difficult. 5. Which of the following is an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You feel there’s no respect for you or your opinion. B. You feel the need to be someone that you are not. C. You feel fear in your relationship. D. You communicate, share, and trust. 6. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You forgive each other. B. There is an equal amount of giving and take. C. There is communication, sharing, and trust. D. You feel guilty when you’re both apart from each other. 7. Which of the following is NOT an important aspect of a healthy relationship? A. Empowering each other to grow C. Repeating past mistakes always. B. Being honest. D. Being compassionate 8. Which of the following statements is a good sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your friend pressures you to do things you do not want to do. B. Your friend tells you not to hang out with certain people. C. Your friend criticizes you or the people you care about. D. You usually feel happy when you are with this person. 8 9. Which of the following is an element of a healthy relationship? A. One person makes all the decisions C. Be disrespectful B. Trust one another D. You are threatened 10. Which of the following statements is a good sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your friend makes fun of you. B. Your friend threatens to hurt you. C. You are afraid of your friend's temper. D. Your friend is happy when good things happen to you. 11. Which of the following statements is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your friends talk to you about his/her feelings. B. Your friend respects your feelings and your opinions. C. Your friend bullies and makes fun of other people at any place. D. Your friend celebrates your successes such as achievements in school. 12. Which of the following statements is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship? A. You feel safe to talk and open up. B. You feel threatened in your relationship. C. There is communication, sharing, and trust. D. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person. 13. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. You feel fear in your relationship. B. Taking responsibility for decisions. C. Be willing to forgive your family members and even yourself. D. Loving others is easy and loving yourself as well in any condition. 14. Which of the following is an important aspect of a healthy relationship? A. Integrity C. Hatred B. Revengeful D. Bitterness 15. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship? A. Empowering each other to keep maturing. B. Build resentment in each other when one commits mistakes. C. Builds trust and accountability with each other in order to grow. D. Willingness to address unhealthy excuses and issues together. 9 References Apurado, Angeliza. Learning Activity Sheets in Personality Development (SHARED-O). Accessed June 6, 2020. https://bit.ly/2ySBo7M “Characteristics of a Healthy, Functional Romantic Relationship”. Google. Accessed last June 16, 2020, https://bit.ly/3cu8pVA Christy, Katie, “Stop Playing the Blame Game: Take Responsibility in Your RelationshipOne Love Foundation. Accessed June 11, 2021. https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/stop- playing-the-blame-game-take-responsibility-in-your-relationship/ Fernandez, Barbara W., Estesa Q. Legaspi, Carolyn c. Quiba, and Mae R. Rafanan. Personal Development (Reader). 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