Good Manners and Right Conduct (Edukasyon sa Pagpapakatao) PDF

SPEC 5 – BEED II GOOD MANNERS AND RIGHT CONDUCT (EDUKASYON SA PAGPAPAKATAO) MAGICAL WORDS FOR GOOD MANNERS AND RIGHT CONDUCT 1. THANK YOU Thank you We say this when we receive something.  Improved relationships – words of thanks make...

SPEC 5 – BEED II GOOD MANNERS AND RIGHT CONDUCT (EDUKASYON SA PAGPAPAKATAO) MAGICAL WORDS FOR GOOD MANNERS AND RIGHT CONDUCT 1. THANK YOU Thank you We say this when we receive something.  Improved relationships – words of thanks make others feel appreciated, spreads love and opens doors to more meaningful relationships. Good physical health – saying thank you lowers blood pressure, improves immunity, helps us sleep and Reasons leads to healthier hearts (yes, really). why we Better mental health – gratitude increases should be happiness, decreases depression as well as enhancing more empathy and reducing aggression. mindful Brings abundance in life – saying thank you to about others can bring good back to us in unexpected ways saying as others are more likely to help us in return. thank you: Positive ripple effect – as well as improving our own self-esteem and the wellbeing of those we give thanks to, witnesses to our thanks are affected positively as well. Two tips on how to make your thank you special Make it Make it about them personal – highlight – include their specifics kindness and make them feel good Thoughts about saying THANK YOU Words of thanks have a positive effect on our relationships: We are social beings who need each other and genuine thanks improves our relationships. Thanks helps others: Acknowledging kindness around us increases social connections and helps others to feel seen and appreciated. Thanks should not be reserved for special occasions: Verifying the little acts can change the whole course of another person’s day. Not all thanks need to be verbal: You might be able to say thanks through your actions as well as your “No duty is more urgent than that of returning thanks.” James Allen 2. SORRY SORRY Say this when you make someone upset or sad Most people know that saying “I’m sorry” can improve the relationship between two people. However, it also has positive effects on your mental health. But why is it so difficult to utter such phrases at times? Of course, our pride and ego get in the way. But what kind of person doesn’t want to admit they’re sorry for something they acknowledge was wrong?  It can help reduce stress and anxiety, lower blood pressure, and improve relationships. Saying “I’m sorry” shows that you’re willing to take responsibility for your actions and care about the other person’s feelings. It’s a sign of respect. When you say “I’m sorry,” you also acknowledge that you made a mistake. Benefits And admitting our mistakes is an essential step in learning from them of and growing as a person. saying Apologizing can also help boost your self-esteem and confidence and “I’m improve your overall mood. And it’s not just the act of saying “I’m sorry” that can have these benefits — it’s also essential to mean it when you say it. Genuinely apologizing for your actions (and taking responsibility for End 9/30/29 them) can help you feel better about yourself and make it easier to move What about when I don’t think I did anything wrong? There are times when we might not think we did anything wrong, but the other person does. In these cases, it can still be helpful to apologize. Saying “I’m sorry” shows that you’re willing to listen to the other person and try to see things from their perspective. It shows them that you care about their feelings and want to resolve the situation. Even if you don’t think you did anything wrong, apologizing can help diffuse the situation and prevent it from escalating. In some cases, though, apologizing is not the best option. If you’ve been physically or emotionally abused, apologizing to When should I apologize? There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. The best way to know if you should apologize is to ask yourself how the other person is likely to feel about what you did. Suppose you think the person is expected to be hurt or offended by your actions. In that case, an apology is probably in order. It’s also important to consider whether or not you did something wrong. If you’re not sure, then err on caution and apologize. It’s always better to say “I’m sorry” than to risk making the situation worse. How should I apologize? When you apologize, try to do so in person if possible. This will help the other person see that you’re sincere. If you can’t apologize in person, send a handwritten note or an email. Avoid using text messages or social media, as these can come across as insincere or cold. When you apologize, be sure to take responsibility for your actions. For example, “I’m sorry for what I said,” or “I’m sorry for how I acted.” It’s also essential to avoid making excuses or justifying your actions. For example, “I’m sorry, but I was really angry when said that.” And finally, be sure to say what you’re sorry for expressly. This will help the other person understand your apology and know When not to apologize? There are a few situations when it might not be appropriate to apologize, even if you did something wrong. If you’ve been physically or emotionally abused, apologizing to your abuser may not be safe or wise. In these cases, it’s essential to get help from a trusted friend, family member, or professional. (End 10/2/24) If you’re dealing with constantly critical or negative, apologizing may only make the situation worse. In these cases, it’s best to set boundaries and distance yourself from the person as much as possible. If it’s disingenuous and you don’t feel remorseful, an apology will probably not do any good. It might make the situation worse. So only apologize if you genuinely mean it. If you don’t want resolution and only apologize to avoid conflict, What about when someone feels they are owed an apology, and you have offered one, but they refused it? If you’ve offered a sincere apology and the other person has refused it, then there’s not much more you can do. You can’t force someone to accept your apology, so it’s best to let them be. They may eventually come around, but don’t count on it. In the meantime, try to move on with your life and focus on those who want to forgive and forget. Drawbacks from apologizing There are a few potential drawbacks to apologizing, even when it’s the right thing to do. First, an apology can make you feel vulnerable and exposed. Second, an apology can open up old wounds and cause conflict. If you’re not ready to deal with those things, it might be best to wait before apologizing. And finally, an apology doesn’t always fix the problem. The other person might still be hurt or upset, even after you’ve apologized. In these cases, it’s essential to have realistic expectations and give The bottom line… Saying “I’m sorry” can be challenging. Still, it’s often the best way to resolve a conflict or diffuse a tense situation. If you’re not sure whether or not you should apologize, err on the side of caution and go ahead and say it. A sincere apology can go a long way towards making things right. 3. PLEASE  ‘Please’ Say this when you are asking for something Please is a word used in the English The Word “Please” language to is Used in Polite indicate Requests or politeness Questions. It is and respect Used to Add while making Urgency and a request Emotion to a Request. It End 10-9-24 is also Here are some common contexts where you might use "please": 1.Making Requests: When asking someone to do something, adding "please" makes the request more polite. - Example: "Could you pass me the salt, please?" 2.Offering Help: When offering assistance, "please" can soften the offer. - Example: "Please let me know if you need any help." 3.Inviting Someone: When inviting someone to do something, "please" adds warmth to the invitation. - Example: "Please join us for dinner." 4.Expressing Gratitude: It can also be used when expressing thanks, particularly in response to a favor. - Example: "Thank you for your help; it was my pleasure." 5.Encouraging Compliance: In situations where you want someone to follow instructions or rules, "please" can be used to encourage compliance without sounding demanding. - Example: "Please remember to sign in at the front desk." Using "please" appropriately can help create a respectful and friendly tone Why is it sometimes considered rude to say "please"? If you ask someone to do something in a rude or controlling manner, saying please does not make it OK. And by adding the word please, it can come off as both patronizing and condescending The perception of "please" as potentially rude can depend on context, tone, and cultural norms. Here are some reasons why it might be seen this way: 1.Tone and Delivery: If "please" is said in a sarcastic or condescending tone, it can come off as insincere or patronizing, making it seem rude. 2.Cultural Context: In some cultures, directness is valued over politeness, and using "please" may be interpreted as unnecessary or overly formal. 3.Power Dynamics: In certain situations, such as between a superior and a subordinate, saying "please" might imply a lack of authority or assertiveness, which could be perceived as weakness. 4.Expectations of Directness: In some scenarios, particularly in urgent or high-stakes situations, people may prefer direct commands over polite requests. Saying "please" in these contexts might be seen as diluting the urgency. 5.Overuse: If "please" is used excessively or inappropriately, it can lose its impact and come off as disingenuous. In general, the appropriateness of using "please" can vary widely based on interpersonal relationships, social settings, and cultural backgrounds. What are other words used that may show Good Manners and Right Conduct? us e m e el c o m e Exc W Other two Magical Words What is Character Education? GIFT It can Characte (accordin give a r g to Lifelong Educatio some Learning n teachers) to Students Characte is a learning process that r enable students and adults Educatio in a school community to n understand, care about and act on core ethical values such as respect, justice, civic virtue and citizenship, and responsibility for self It is also a process of learning: and others. Well mannered Attitude Belief Behavior individual Characte r *Seeks to develop virtue as Educatio a foundation of a n purposeful, productive and fulfilling life in a just, compassionate and flourishing society. *Takes deliberate steps to cultivate moral and intellectual virtues through  TEACHERS Children / Learners must be: Conscious Committed Competent of the right thing to -in dodoing the right thing -in doing the right thin -it can be seen in them of the happening -they are in the rightthe sense of leadership around them. track. in a right way End 10/14/24 Good character education can provide ground rules for life for adults and young people, and it stresses the importance of helping children learn and practice behaviors that reflect universal ethical values. Character education helps children and youth become: Conscious of the right thing to do. It is important in the education Implementing a and growth character education of our program in your school children. can help lay the foundation for students to become responsible, ethical individuals End 10/16/24 THANK YOU