Leadership Styles: Love vs Fear

• "Response-ability" is the ability to choose a response.
• Leadership and life parasites are the focuses of lecture 2.

Leadership

• Motivations and aspirations guide individuals, as people possess a unique nature.
• Motivational theories have emerged over time to explain the forces behind human behavior.
• Organizational heads seek to maintain employees' motivation and commitment.

The 4 C's of Leadership

• Character represents motives and values.
• Connection involves relationships.
• Competencies involve skills.
• Commitment involves one's destination.

Leadership Styles

• Actions are often either driven by love or fear.
• Both motivations are effective when propelling others forward.

Love Driven Leadership

• Choosing love does not guarantee an absence of fear.
• It helps bring fears to the surface for healing in a continuous journey.
• Choosing love is necessary to feed souls and dispel fear, analogous to eating.

Servant Leadership

• The basis of the servant-leader lies in being a servant.
• An innate desire to serve others initiates a deliberate decision to pursue leadership.
• This individual serves rather than prioritizes being a leader.
• A servant-leader concentrates on the development and well-being of individuals and communities.
• Traditional leadership revolves around power acquisition.
• A servant-leader prioritizes the needs of others, delegates power, and assists in maximizing people's development and performance.
• True leaders are servants, servants must be humble, and humble people must also be able to love.
• A servant leader creates meaningful bonds, pushing followers and empowering them.
• Leadership is determined by the attitude of service, not the leader's position.

Leadership Skills and Traits

• Key leadership skills and traits include being decisive, adaptable, alert, energetic, cooperative, self-confident, tolerant of stress, ambitious, achievement-oriented, socially skilled, clever, intelligent, conceptually skilled, organized, creative, knowledgeable, fluent, and diplomatic.

Life Parasites

• Life parasites include feeling: unwise, unsafe, focused, unhealthy, unproductive, ungrateful, unplugged, and unforgiving.

Unsafe

• Seeking security and safety from unstable sources is unsafe.
• Common practices include being driven by achievement, manipulating others, and addiction to relationships.
• Manipulation is used to gain control, varying in degrees depending on how much one wants to be in control.
• Behaviors that highlight manipulation involve victimhood, guilt, devaluation, bullying, and exaggeration.

Unfocused

• Being unable to focus is being unfocused.
• Common practices that increase unfocusedness include losing track of time, struggling with prioritizing, and diving into detail taking focus off the main goal.

Unhealthy

• Allowing bad habits limits growth.
• Common practices that relate to unhealthy lifestyles include not getting enough rest, consuming unhealthy substances, and paying less attention to mental health.

Unproductive

• Confusing activities limits productivity.
• Common practices leading to improductivity include giving attention without focusing and procrastination.

Ungrateful

• Being unthankful for blessings is ungrateful.
• Common practices that lead to ungratefulness include comparing yourself to others, ongoing dissatisfaction, and unrealistic expectations.

Unplugged

• Separation from a creator leads to unplugged.
• Common practices of someone unplugged include being the focal point of right and wrong and swinging between fatalism and individualism.

Unforgiving

• Locking one's self in a self-created prison is unforgiving.
• Common practices for people that are unforgiving include: mistrust, bitterness, holding grudges, and blaming others.

Unwise

• Making decisions without having the right knowledge is unwise.
• Common practices for making unwise choices include lacking knowledge and rejecting facts.

Effective Leadership Questions

• Character, Connection, Competence, and Commitment are the 4 C's of effective leadership.
• The main principle of servant leadership involves serving others.
• A sign of being "unfocused" is a Difficulty prioritizing tasks.