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# Emotional Intelligence Daniel Goleman is discussing his famous "impulse control" test at a San Francisco lecture and has the entire audience's attention. Goleman, a psychologist and science writer, is the author of the best-seller _Emotional Intelligence_, a fascinating book about recent discover...

# Emotional Intelligence Daniel Goleman is discussing his famous "impulse control" test at a San Francisco lecture and has the entire audience's attention. Goleman, a psychologist and science writer, is the author of the best-seller _Emotional Intelligence_, a fascinating book about recent discoveries in brain research that prove emotional stability is more important than IQ in determining an individual's success in life. One of the highlights of the book, Goleman explains to his audience of foundation leaders, educators, and grants donors, is a test administered thirty years ago that Goleman calls “The Marshmallow Challenge.” **Daniel Goleman, best-selling author of the book _Emotional Intelligence_, frequently gives lectures on leadership.** In this experiment, four-year-old children were individually called into a room at Stanford University during the 1960s. There, a kind man gave a marshmallow to each of them and said they could eat the marshmallow right away, or wait for him to come back from an errand, at which point they would get two marshmallows. Goleman gets everyone laughing as he describes watching a film of the preschoolers while they waited for the nice man to come back. Some of them covered their eyes or rested their heads on their arms so they wouldn't have to look at the marshmallow, or played games or sang to keep their thoughts off the single marshmallow and waited for the promised double prize. Others-about a third of the group-simply watched the man leave and ate the marshmallow within seconds. What is surprising about this test, claims Goleman, is its diagnostic power: A dozen years later the same children were tracked down as adolescents and tested again. "The emotional and social difference between the grab-the-marshmallow preschoolers and their gratification-delaying peers was dramatic," Goleman says. The ones who had resisted eating the marshmallow were clearly more socially competent than the others. "They were less likely to go to pieces, freeze or regress under stress, or become rattled and disorganized when pressured; they embraced challenges and pursued them instead of giving up, even in the face of difficulties; they were self-reliant and confident, trustworthy and dependable.” The third or so who grabbed the marshmallow were "more likely to be seen as shying away from social contacts, to be stubborn and indecisive, to be easily upset by frustrations, to think of themselves as unworthy, to become immobilized by stress, to be mistrustful or prone to jealousy, or to overreact to certain situations with a sharp temper." **A group of four-year-old children were given the choice to eat one marshmallow, or wait for a while in order to receive two.** - An errand is a short trip taken to do a specific task, e.g. mailing letters. - A diagnosis is an investigation or analysis of the cause or nature of a condition or problem. - Gratification refers to a sense of pleasure and satisfaction. - If you say something rattles you, it upsets you. - Something that is immobilized is unable to move or progress. # Emotional intelligence 95 The image shows a man sitting at a desk talking to a large audience while holding papers in his hands. The image also shows a diagram of a head with the word "VI" on it. There are also circles surrounding the head with the words "Love", "Anger", "Fear", "Sorrow", "Hope" and "Joy" written in them. Finally, the image includes a picture of three marshmallows, all of which are white.