Notes on Emotional and Social Intelligences PDF

NOTES in PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT * Emotional Intelligence * Social Intelligence WHAT is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE? The ability to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations, to control impulse and delay gratification, to regulate one’s moods and keep distress from swamping the abil...

NOTES in PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT * Emotional Intelligence * Social Intelligence WHAT is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE? The ability to motivate oneself and persist in the face of frustrations, to control impulse and delay gratification, to regulate one’s moods and keep distress from swamping the ability to think, to empathize, and to hope (Daniel Goleman).  FIVE DOMAINS of EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE 1. Knowing one’s emotions or self-awareness Self-awareness brings with it the skill for self- reflection. This is about knowing how we feel and the thought behind the feeling According to Mayer, when one recognizes this emotion, there is also a desire to get rid of it or get out of that situation. When this happens, this is seen as a sign that the neocortex is gaining some control over the amygdala. 2. MANAGING EMOTIONS Daniel Goleman points out that we often have very little or no control when an emotion occurs and what this emotion will be, but we can have control on how long an emotion will last. WAYS to MANAGE ANGER  A person can stop for a split second to assess the situation and manage one’s thoughts that stoke the fire of anger by challenging it. Cool down by removing yourself from the situation or doing something physical— walking, talking to someone, taking a deep breath, or punching a pillow. Active exercise is also recommended to cool down from a strong emotion such as anger. 3. Motivating Oneself Research studies have shown that hope is a major indicator of emotional intelligence. Hope is the element present when one is fighting some overwhelming anxiety, a defeatist attitude, or depression. Goleman points out that optimism is a great motivator, and like hope, it provides a person with expectations that things will turn out better or right, when faced with adversity. 4. Recognizing emotions in others The capacity to recognize the emotions in other people is called empathy. According to Goleman, the root cause of our capacity to empathize is self - awareness. Empathy is important in maintaining relationships as this also taps on the caring capacity of people. 5. Handling relationships Emotional intelligence is also evident in the way we manage our relationships with others.  FOUR COMPONENTS of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE 1. Organizing groups – a leadership skill essential in mustering groups of people toward a common action. Examples of people with this talent are orchestra conductors, military officers, and stage directors. 2. Negotiating solutions – this talent to bring people in conflict to talk and come up with a solution is usually found among mediators of disputes. 3. Personal connection – this is the talent where empathy and connecting with another person’s emotions are manifested. Teachers usually have this natural tendency to relate to others. 4. Social analysis – is the talent to step out of a situation and objectively form insights about the way people feel and behave. Therapists are gifted with this talent. Emotional intelligence could be part of seven key varieties: 1.Verbal-linguistic 2.Mathematical-logical 3.Spatial 4. Kinesthetic 5. Musical 6. Interpersonal 7.Intrapersonal Additional two varieties: 1. Natural 2. Spiritual To Howard Gardner, these seven (now nine) intelligences are important for people to understand, especially in the realm of learning, that these intelligences point to the mode of learning and interests of a student. Gardner’s intelligences are crucial in determining the career paths that individuals take as these intelligences are also viewed as competencies.