Gottman Method Therapy Outline PDF

**[Sound Relationship House]** Note: "Trust and Commitment" are strengthened as each level "floor" of the SHR is built. There are seven floors. 1. **Build Love Maps** - The Gottman Love Map Exercise - Build a Map of Your Partner\'s Everyday Life - Ask Open-Ended Questions 2. **3Share F...

**[Sound Relationship House]** Note: "Trust and Commitment" are strengthened as each level "floor" of the SHR is built. There are seven floors. 1. **Build Love Maps** - The Gottman Love Map Exercise - Build a Map of Your Partner\'s Everyday Life - Ask Open-Ended Questions 2. **3Share Fondness and Admiration** - \"I Appreciate\...\" Adjective Checklist - Thanksgiving Checklist - 7-Week Guide for Creating Fondness and Admiration 3. **Turn Towards** - Stress-Reducing Conversation - Behavior Exchange 4. **The Positive Perspective** - If a Negative Perspective exists- the first 3 stories of The SRH need work.   5. **Manage Conflict** - Gentle Start-Up - Labeling and Replacing the Four Horsemen with their Antidotes - Physiological Soothing and Relaxation Exercise - The Gottman-Rapoport Exercise - Dan Wile Intervention - The Art of Compromise - Dreams Within Conflict - Releasing the Dreams - Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident 6. **Make Life Dreams Come True** - Dreams Within Conflict - Releasing the Dreams - The Art of Compromise 7. **Create Shared Meaning** - Build Rituals of Connection - The Meanings Interview **[Gottman Method Therapy: Stages & Brief Outline]** Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a form of therapy that emphasizes a structured, goal-oriented approach, and it is based on the 40 years of research by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman on what makes relationships succeed or fail.   **Session 1: Assessment (1.5 hours)** 1. **Elicit the Couple\'s Narrative**- Ask the couple open-ended questions, such as \"What brings you here today?\" to understand their perspective and goals for therapy.   2. **Oral History Interview**- This interview helps to paint a portrait of the couple\'s relationship history, including its strengths and challenges.   3. **Conflict Discussion**- Have the couple discuss a current problem for 10 minutes while you observe their conflict management style.   4. **Assign Homework**- Assign the couple questionnaires to complete privately and bring to their individual sessions.   **Session 2: Individual Meetings (45 minutes/each)** 1. **Build Trust and Learn**- Meet with each partner individually to build trust and learn more about their personal history, family background, and individual perspectives on the relationship.   **Session 3: Treatment Planning (80 minutes)** 1. **Review and Plan**- Review your assessment findings with the couple and work together to create a treatment plan with clear goals.   **Afterward** 1. **Utilize Interventions**- Utilize a range of interventions to address the couple's needs and goals, focusing on strengthening their friendship, managing conflict, and creating shared meaning. 2. **Monitor Progress**- Monitor the couple's progress throughout therapy, adjusting the treatment plan as needed. 3. **Plan for Termination**- Plan for the termination of therapy, ensuring the couple has the tools to maintain their relationship gains. 4. **Schedule Follow-Up**- Schedule follow-up sessions to support the couple in sustaining their progress. **[Gottman Method Therapy: Goals within Interventions]** 1. **\"I Appreciate\...\" Adjective Checklist**- Helps couples recognize and express fondness and admiration for each other.   2. **Stress Reducing Conversation**- Guides couples in creating a space for sharing and supporting each other through everyday stresses.   3. **Gentle Start-Up**- Helps partners communicate their needs and concerns gently and without criticism.   4. **Labeling and Replacing the Four Horsemen with their Antidotes**- Helps couples identify and transform destructive communication patterns into constructive ones.   5. **Physiological Soothing and Relaxation Exercise**- Teaches couples how to self-soothe and de-escalate during moments of heightened emotional intensity.   6. **The Gottman-Rapoport Exercise**- Guides couples in developing deeper understanding and empathy for each other\'s perspectives.   7. **Dan Wile Intervention**- Helps couples break through unproductive communication cycles by having the therapist step in to voice each partner\'s perspective with empathy and clarity.   8. **Internal Working Model**- Helps couples explore and understand the underlying beliefs and expectations that shape their interactions.   9. **The Art of Compromise**- Guides couples in navigating differences and finding mutually satisfying solutions.   10. **Dreams Within Conflict - Releasing the Dreams**- Helps couples uncover and honor the deeper meanings and dreams underlying their conflicts.   11. **Aftermath of a Fight or Regrettable Incident**- Guides couples in processing and repairing after conflicts.   12. **Build Rituals of Connection**- Helps couples create meaningful rituals and routines that strengthen their bond.