Personal Relationships: Concepts and Definitions

Personal Relationships

• Personal relationships refer to relationships between people, especially those between friends, lovers, and family members.
• Love is a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities.
• Commitment is a promise to a loved one to prioritize them, and responsibility is the social force that binds individuals to their actions.

Types of Personal Relationships

Friendship

• Connecting and interacting with friends leads to healthy or helpful thinking and behavioral patterns, resulting in positive outcomes for the individual.
• Self-perception theory states that one's actions are influenced by others, and one's perceptions of themselves are influenced by how others perceive them.
• The looking-glass self phenomenon refers to how people's perceptions of themselves are influenced by how they are perceived by others.

Family

• Family is defined as two or more persons related by birth, marriage, or adoption, living together as one household.
• Family structure and legacies shape an individual's growth and development.

Romantic Partners

• Romantic partners are close relationships formed between two people, built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love.

Types of Love

• Non-love: absence of the three components, characterized by casual interactions.
• Infatuated/Fatuous Love: characterized by passion but without intimacy and commitment.
• Liking/Friendship: intimacy without passion or commitment.
• Romantic/Passionate Love: passion and intimacy, characterized by intense longing for union with another.
• Companionate/Compassionate Love: intimacy and commitment without passion or desire.
• Empty Love: commitment without passion or intimacy.

Relationship Spectrum

• Healthy Relationship: based on equality and respect.
• Unhealthy Relationship: based on attempts to control the other person.
• Abusive Relationship: based on an imbalance of power and control, with accusations, blame-shifting, isolation, pressure, and manipulation.

Career Development

• Career development is a process where a person's work identity is formed.
• Job: something done from 5-9 hours typically with compensation or salary.
• Career: a system of advancements and promotions over a period of time, resulting in rewards to enhance behavior.
• Profession: any type of work that needs special training or a particular skill.
• Skills: talents or abilities that can be learned through training.
• Interests: areas that provide enjoyment and learning.
• Values: individual beliefs, including priorities, decisions, and behavior.

Parental Autonomy and Career Choice

• Parental autonomy: parental monitoring associated with parental protection, sometimes deciding on a child's course.
• Financial hardship: a major problem for many Filipino families, affecting career choices.

Change in Family Roles and School Location

• Change in family roles: children from broken families may become the breadwinner, affecting their education.
• School location: proximity or distance of the school from home is a key factor, with many universities located in cities.

Academic Performance and Employment Rate

• Academic performance: courses with grade requirements serving as a basis for career preference.
• Employment rate: the demand of the market, with high salary offers and beneficial courses affecting career choices.

Herd Mentality and PDE L9

• Herd mentality: adolescents swayed by their peers, fearing separation from their group of friends.
• PDE L9: Family structure and legacies.

Family Structure and Legacies

• Family: the basic unit of society, shaping an individual's growth and development.
• Types of parenting: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved.

Improving Family Relationships

• Rule 1: Communicate, appreciate, share activities, and be committed.
• Rule 2: Show support, accept each member as they are, and help whenever possible.

Communication in Filipino Families

• Research shows that many Filipino families seldom talk with each other, especially during times of crisis.
• Implicit understanding: many Filipino families assume that what they want to say to each other is understood and need not be shown nor spoken aloud.

Understanding Family Issues and Challenges

• First-born: usually have high feelings of power and superiority.
• Second-born: develop their personalities based on the older child's attitude toward them.
• Youngest: often the most spoiled and pampered.
• Only child: lives in an adult world, competing against their mother or father.

Social Norms and Leadership

• Social norms: ways of behaving within society, determining the do's and don'ts of a smoothly functioning group.
• Leadership: an important role in society, with different types of leadership styles.

Types of Leadership

• Authoritarian (Autocratic): leaders have all the decision-making power, excluding employees from the decision-making process.
• Participative (Democratic): leaders value input from their teams and invite employees to be part of the decision-making process.
• Delegative (Laissez-Faire): leaders avoid micromanagement and delegate initiatives to employees.
• Transactional (Managerial): leaders emphasize organization, supervision, performance, compliance, and meeting goals.
• Transformational (Visionary): leaders focus on getting their teams to buy into the vision and unite over a shared sense of purpose.
• Servant Leadership: leaders prioritize the vision and transform both the leader, people, and organization.

Personal Relationships

• Personal relationships refer to relationships between people, especially those between friends, lovers, and family members.
• Love is a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities.
• Commitment is a promise to a loved one to prioritize them, and responsibility is the social force that binds individuals to their actions.

Types of Personal Relationships

Friendship

• Connecting and interacting with friends leads to healthy or helpful thinking and behavioral patterns, resulting in positive outcomes for the individual.
• Self-perception theory states that one's actions are influenced by others, and one's perceptions of themselves are influenced by how others perceive them.
• The looking-glass self phenomenon refers to how people's perceptions of themselves are influenced by how they are perceived by others.

Family

• Family is defined as two or more persons related by birth, marriage, or adoption, living together as one household.
• Family structure and legacies shape an individual's growth and development.

Romantic Partners

• Romantic partners are close relationships formed between two people, built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love.

Types of Love

• Non-love: absence of the three components, characterized by casual interactions.
• Infatuated/Fatuous Love: characterized by passion but without intimacy and commitment.
• Liking/Friendship: intimacy without passion or commitment.
• Romantic/Passionate Love: passion and intimacy, characterized by intense longing for union with another.
• Companionate/Compassionate Love: intimacy and commitment without passion or desire.
• Empty Love: commitment without passion or intimacy.

Relationship Spectrum

• Healthy Relationship: based on equality and respect.
• Unhealthy Relationship: based on attempts to control the other person.
• Abusive Relationship: based on an imbalance of power and control, with accusations, blame-shifting, isolation, pressure, and manipulation.

Career Development

• Career development is a process where a person's work identity is formed.
• Job: something done from 5-9 hours typically with compensation or salary.
• Career: a system of advancements and promotions over a period of time, resulting in rewards to enhance behavior.
• Profession: any type of work that needs special training or a particular skill.
• Skills: talents or abilities that can be learned through training.
• Interests: areas that provide enjoyment and learning.
• Values: individual beliefs, including priorities, decisions, and behavior.

Parental Autonomy and Career Choice

• Parental autonomy: parental monitoring associated with parental protection, sometimes deciding on a child's course.
• Financial hardship: a major problem for many Filipino families, affecting career choices.

Change in Family Roles and School Location

• Change in family roles: children from broken families may become the breadwinner, affecting their education.
• School location: proximity or distance of the school from home is a key factor, with many universities located in cities.

Academic Performance and Employment Rate

• Academic performance: courses with grade requirements serving as a basis for career preference.
• Employment rate: the demand of the market, with high salary offers and beneficial courses affecting career choices.

Herd Mentality and PDE L9

• Herd mentality: adolescents swayed by their peers, fearing separation from their group of friends.
• PDE L9: Family structure and legacies.

Family Structure and Legacies

• Family: the basic unit of society, shaping an individual's growth and development.
• Types of parenting: authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved.

Improving Family Relationships

• Rule 1: Communicate, appreciate, share activities, and be committed.
• Rule 2: Show support, accept each member as they are, and help whenever possible.

Communication in Filipino Families

• Research shows that many Filipino families seldom talk with each other, especially during times of crisis.
• Implicit understanding: many Filipino families assume that what they want to say to each other is understood and need not be shown nor spoken aloud.

Understanding Family Issues and Challenges

• First-born: usually have high feelings of power and superiority.
• Second-born: develop their personalities based on the older child's attitude toward them.
• Youngest: often the most spoiled and pampered.
• Only child: lives in an adult world, competing against their mother or father.

Social Norms and Leadership

• Social norms: ways of behaving within society, determining the do's and don'ts of a smoothly functioning group.
• Leadership: an important role in society, with different types of leadership styles.

Types of Leadership

• Authoritarian (Autocratic): leaders have all the decision-making power, excluding employees from the decision-making process.
• Participative (Democratic): leaders value input from their teams and invite employees to be part of the decision-making process.
• Delegative (Laissez-Faire): leaders avoid micromanagement and delegate initiatives to employees.
• Transactional (Managerial): leaders emphasize organization, supervision, performance, compliance, and meeting goals.
• Transformational (Visionary): leaders focus on getting their teams to buy into the vision and unite over a shared sense of purpose.
• Servant Leadership: leaders prioritize the vision and transform both the leader, people, and organization.