Exam Guide_Week 2 PDF

WEEK TWO: From Leading the Congregation (4-7) 1. Identify the three dimensions of vision 1. The vision gives new insight into the glory and grandeur of God (An Upward View) 2. The vision provides new insight into limitations of oneself (An Inward View) 3. The vision offers a new imaginative insight into how circumstances might be different (An Outward View) 2. Relationship between mission and vision Refer to Page 71 – 76 3. Identify Palmer’s five leadership shadows 1. The shadow of deep insecurity about the leader’s identity and self-worth 2. The shadow’s perception that the world is hostile, that there must be winners and losers 3. The shadow of functional atheism, a fundamental belief that ultimate responsibility belongs to the leader 4. The shadow of fear and chaos 5. The denial of death and fear of failure 4. Define “logic of task pursuit.” Refer to Page 94 5. Define golden and silver threads Finding the golden thread is to identify the one thing that will make the fundamental difference within an organization. The results of finding the golden thread are systemic and far-reaching, but the impetus may be a small but strategic change. Though it may take minimum effort to make the golden thread a reality, and while it may not be obvious to those who are most connected to the problem, the golden thread yields important consequences. Thus it is high leverage. For example, minor changes in personal diet, exercise, and spiritual practices over time can yield significant results. Often a key nuance with any of these enables us to follow through in our commitments in a way that makes the difference. While there is only one golden thread, there may be two or three silver threads— those smaller innovations that bring a new dimension to some part of the congregation. Therefore if leaders cannot immediately identify the golden thread, then they may look for one or more silver threads and concentrate on them. Since silver threads are often the challenges that someone else can do, leaders do well to consider giving each silver thread to the best performers in the congregation, and ask them to concentrate on this priority alone. From Lectures/power points: 1. Identify the four quadrants of the Johari window 1. Open Area (top left) is what we know about ourselves that is also known by others. 2. Hidden Area (bottom left) is what we know about ourselves that others don’t know. 3. Blind Spots (top right) are what is unknown to me but known to others. 4. Unknown (bottom right) are areas unknown to me, and unknown to others. 2. Identify descriptions of the self (e.g., core, self esteem...) a. Core self: How well do I know myself, all parts of myself? Strengths, skill sets and abilities, weaknesses, vulnerabilities? Am I tapped into God’s love and forgiveness that define who I have been created and redeemed to become? How do I strengthen my core, increasing my self-understanding and integration of all parts of myself? b. Self-esteem: Do I esteem and honor parts of myself without being ego-inflated or falsely humble? c. Self-worth: Do I see my worth as God sees me? How much external validation do I need for my own sense of d. Self-worth: Are there voices that drown out God’s love? e. Idealized self: Am I the person (leader) I think I should be, what others in my past or present think I should be, or what the organization assumes I should be? f. Persona: The “socially constructed” self we present to the outside world which may or may not correspond to our core self. When do I “wear a mask” (or several) in relation to the multiple roles I play in different environments? I know it’s a mask, and that “overdoing it” will impede my authentic self. It must not get stuck on my face permanently, or I’ll be operating out of my false self. 3. Know 3 energy centers of the false self-system 1. Power / Control: I have control only if… 2. Security / Survival: I’m safe only if… 3. Esteem / Affection: People will love/accept me only if… 4. Leader’s character -- identify Christlike characteristics (fruit of Spirit, Colossians passage, e.g., forbear and forgive, kingdom values expressed in Matt 5, 6, 7 e.g., loving enemies, forgiveness, salt and light, etc.) a. Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) Love, Joy, Peace, Patience (Forbearance), Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, Self-control b. Christlike Qualities in Colossians (Colossians 3:12-17) Compassion, Kindness, Humility, Meekness, Patience, Forbearance, Forgiveness, Gratitude c. Beatitudes (Matthew 5:3-12): 1. Surrender: “Blessed are those who are poor in spirit” (Matthew 5:3). a. Represents humility and freedom from pride and prejudice. b. Involves being loving and free from resentment and hostility toward others 2. Heartbreak: “Blessed are those who mourn” (Matthew 5:4). a. Refers to turning away from anger, hatred, and retaliation in the face of loss or difficulty. b. Instead of conflict, such individuals seek God’s comfort and courage to endure and overcome challenges 3. Confidence: “Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth” (Matthew 5:5). a. Not about weakness but gentleness and kindness. b. Describes those who avoid arguments and violence and practice forgiveness 4. Longing: “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled” (Matthew 5:6). a. Represents those enduring persecution and inequality while striving for justice without resorting to hatred or violenceL2_Slides_Notes_12 Dec. 5. Solidarity: “Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy” (Matthew 5:7). a. Characterizes individuals who are compassionate, understanding, and forgiving toward others, including enemiesL2_Slides_Notes_12 Dec. 6. Authenticity: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God” (Matthew 5:8). a. Refers to having a clear mind free from thoughts of anger and retaliation, focusing on seeing good in others Loving Enemies (Matthew 5-7) 1. Loving enemies and praying for persecutors (Matthew 5:44). 2. Being the salt of the earth and light of the world (Matthew 5:13-16). 3. Practicing forgiveness as central to relationships (Matthew 6:14-15). 4. Living with humility, dependence on God, and a spirit of reconciliation Christian Leadership STRENGTHENING CHARACTER, COLLABORATION, AND ORGANIZATIONAL EFFECTIVENESS WEEK ONE REVIEW Hour 1 – Leadership is profoundly contextual Hour 2 – Leaders doing theology Hour 3 – Leading from within – introduction and “best use of self” Roger Heuser 1 Leading the Congregation – “Leading from Within” ch 1 – The dangers of leading ch 3 – The Leader’s Spirituality Serving sacrificially The relentless demands Preserving the institution Spirituality supports ministry… renews vision and restores energy for its own sake Leading others through change Spirituality of Jesus – led out of a rhythm of public ministry and private space; Carried out ministry in context of a small, intimate, covenant community; Taught by example six “graces” Consider for your own leadership practices: ch 2 – Interior attitudes of the leader A spirituality of action and contemplation Forming a covenantal, communal spirituality Childlikeness Practicing a holistic lifestyle of spirituality Humility Pray Examen of Consciousness every day Desire to serve Means of grace Desire for self-examination Roger Heuser 2 Leading the Congregation – “Leading from Within” ch 4 – The Leader’s Call ch 6 – Interplay of light and shadow Freedom to respond Testing the Spirits Call to leadership What “spirit” do leaders project on the organization? Testing of the call Five shadows of leadership Resistance and acceptance Neurotic Leadership: Dramatic, Suspicious, Detached, Depressive, Madness of the call and Compulsive Deep change ch 5 – Leader’s Vision and Ensuing Mission Three Dimensions of Vision ch 7 – Discerning priorities, making choices “Upward” view toward God Priorities in role demands “Inward” view of oneself Logic of task pursuit “Outward view of circumstances Mission: turning vision into reality Connect charisms with what congregation needs most: golden and silver threads Bedrock priorities; communicate them Manage time in light of priorities: urgency/importance The influence of your own example (“Best use of self”) Roger Heuser 3 Biblical Accents Week 1: Week 2: Sec 1 – Defining Christian Leadership Sec 6 – Idol Worship Sec 2 – Dong theology Sec 7 – Shame Sec 3 – OT Generative Themes Sec 8 – Shalom Sec 4 – Creation Sec 5 – Fall Roger Heuser 4 Leaders LEADERSHIP Is a dynamic interplay of “that influence the org toward health and fulfilling a common purpose” Followers Org Context Roger Heuser 5 REVIEW QUESTIONS 1. How accurate are you in staying I touch with the VUCAA environment – globally and locally? 2. Are you tracking the systems’ input, throughputs, and outputs? What feedback data are you getting? 3. What changes does the org need to make to be more responsive to stakeholders – internal and external -- while maintaining core identity, mission, values? 4. How well do you know the people you work with? How do people feel in your presence? How well do they know you? 5. How aware are you of your impact on people – boss, staff, colleagues, other stakeholders? Roger Heuser 6 Roger Heuser 7 Roger Heuser 8 Leaders Leadership emerges Leadership outcomes from relationships among Followers Roger Heuser 9 WEEK TWO The life-long journey of spiritual health and inner transformation leads to healthy relationships and healthy org cultures Hour 1 – Leaders doing their own “shadow work” Hour 2 – Understanding ”false self” dynamics Hour 3 – Becoming more and more one’s true self in Christ, and being grounded in one’s call, vision, and mission of Christ SESSION ONE Roger Heuser 10 Leading out of Divine image-bearing and human fallenness God said, “Let us make humankind in our image, according to our likeness” (Gen 1:26)... … but also under assault from the fall “Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked, and they sewed fig leaves together and made loin cloths for themselves” (Gen 3:7). Roger Heuser 11 God leaves me free to be whatever I like I can be myself, or not, as I please. I am at liberty to be real, or to be unreal. I may be true or false, the choice is mine. I may wear now one mask and now another, And never, if I so desire, appear with my own true face. To work out my own identity in God, which the Bible calls “working out our salvation’, is a labor that requires sacrifice and anguish, risk and many tears. I do not know clearly beforehand what the result of this work will be, The secret of my full identity is hidden in Him. He alone can make me who I am, or rather who I will be when at last I fully begin to be. Thomas Merton Roger Heuser 12 Roger Heuser 13 Descriptions of ”self” Core self. How well do I know myself, all parts of myself? Strengths, skill sets and abilities, weaknesses, vulnerabilities? Am I tapped into God’s love and forgiveness that define who I have been created and redeemed to become? How do I strengthen my core, increasing my self-understanding and integration of all parts of myself? Self-esteem. Do I esteem and honor parts of myself without being ego-inflated or falsely humble? Self-worth. Do I see my worth as God sees me? How much external validation do I need for my own sense of self-worth? Are there voices that drown out God’s love? Idealized self. Am I the person (leader) I think I should be, what others in my past or present think I should be, or what the organization assumes I should be? Persona. The “socially constructed” self we present to the outside world which may or may not correspond to our core self. When do I “wear a mask” (or several) in relation to the multiple roles I play in different environments? I know it’s a mask, and that “overdoing it” will impede my authentic self. It must not get stuck on my face permanently, or I’ll be operating out of my false self. Roger Heuser 14 Leaders are invited to ask, “Who Am I” beyond the multiple aspects of their psychological and social being; the question is ”Who am I ultimately before God? Roger Heuser 15 Union with God - Christ being formed within us Those who abide in me and I in them bear much fruit” (Jn 14:5). “As you, Father, are in me and I am in you, may they also be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me. The glory that you have given me I have given them, so that they may be one, as we are one, I in them and you in me, that they may become completely one, so that the world may know that you have sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me” (Jn 17: 21b-23). “As he is, so are we in the world” (1 Jn 4: 17). “Speaking the truth in love, we must grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ” (Eph 4:15). “… beholding the glory of the Lord, [we] are being changed into his likeness” (2 Cor 3:18). Roger Heuser 16 Christian leaders with extraordinary skill, intelligence, creativity, influence, success, compassion, and heart for ministry – uniquely expressing their divine image-bearing likeness “outside.” What was going on inside? Roger17 Heuser Professor Manfred Kets de Vries Thesis/Findings: the organization can be a reflection of the leader’s “inner theatre” 1. The stronger the personality of leaders, the more influence will be reflected throughout the organization. 2. The characteristics are accentuated in stressful situations, and 3. Especially in highly centralized organizations. Roger Heuser 18 5 Dominant Types of leadership personality configurations Dramatic leaders are unconventional risk takers, need attention, Guiding theme: “I want to get attention from and impress activity and stimulation. Often entitled, and tendency toward the people who count in my life.” extremes. Suspicious leaders are vigilantly prepared to counter attacks or Guiding theme: “Some menacing force is out to get me. I had threats. Cold, lacking emotional expression. Overly involved in rules better be on my guard. I cannot really trust anybody.” and details, insist on loyalty, and can be vindictive. Detached leaders are withdrawn, lack interest in present or future, Guiding theme: “Reality does not offer satisfaction; sometimes indifferent to praise or criticism. interactions with others will fail; it is safer to remain distant.” Depressive leaders lack self-confidence, self-esteem and initiative. Guiding theme: “It is hopeless to change the course of They may fear success and tolerate mediocrity or even failure, events; I am just not good enough.” hoping for a messiah to save them. Compulsive leaders tend to dominate organizations from top to Guiding theme: “I don’t want to be at the mercy of events; I bottom and insist that others conform to tightly prescribes have to master and control all the things affecting me.” procedures. They are dogmatic with an obstinate personality. Perfectionists and obsessed with details, rituals, and efficiency. 19 Roger Heuser Ket de Vries’ Metaphor of Inner Theatre Expressed in five “neurotic” core themes that paint a montage, describing the shades of leadership, organizational culture, and strategies: Dramatic Suspicious Detached Depressive Compulsive One’s Inner Theatre includes key psychological forces at play between a leader’s relationship with his or her followers -- at the intrapsychic, interpersonal, group levels. There are hybrids of these expressions, such as suspicious-compulsive or depressive/compulsive types… The sobering truth is that we can be blind or dismissive to inner life contradictions that create dysfunctional relationships and organizations. The need for leaders, themselves, to change runs counter to their ego, who see themselves as “in charge” and the one who is expected to have answers. Roger Heuser 20 Johari Window 1. Open Area (top left) is what we know about ourselves that is also known by others. 2. Hidden Area (bottom left) is what we know about ourselves that others don’t know. 3. Blind Spots (top right) are what is unknown to me but known to others. 4. Unknown (bottom right) are areas unknown to me, and unknown to others. Roger Heuser 21 The life-long work of a self-aware person: 1. Getting to know my core self better and better – strengths and weaknesses, vulnerabilities, judgments, trigger points… 2. Becoming more aware of my public persona (masks) – the presentation of parts of my “self” that I’m engaging in and why? 3. How close/far is my persona - that I “wear” - from my core self? 4. Are there relationships where I can be my core self without a persona “mask”? Roger Heuser 22 Shadow work Shadows – “the thing a person has no wish to be” (Jung) – are unknown or little-known qualities of our self that we hope to hide from ourselves, and others (and God). We ignore, diminish, or may try to conceal positive or negative qualities. For example, if certain aspects of self wee revealed, we would appear too weak or too strong or aggressive, seen as a “know-it-all”, too pious, put on a pedestal …. Shadows, whether positive or negative, block the light of true freedom and self-acceptance of one’s core self. Roger Heuser 23 Everyone of us has been putting different things into our bags since childhood. What we put in our bags are pretty much based on the views of the “significant others” in our lives – parents, early caregivers, teachers, church leaders, and others whom we esteem and peer groups in our cultural Metaphor by Robert Bly, poet/essayist contexts. Roger Heuser 24 “Transformational knowing always means embracing unacceptable parts of ourselves … that I’ve denied and buried in my ‘blissful’ ignorance (p. 50).” If I only embrace my strong, competent self, and never able to embrace my insecure, vulnerable, shame-based parts, I still live with their influences under the surface, but without any agency to consciously act accordingly (p. 50).” David Benner, The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery. Dowers Gove, IL: IVP Books, 2004. Roger Heuser 25 Common stresses of leadership prompt the darker side of us to be more defensiveness – this requires us to manage unpredictable scenarios for our self and others. A few “bag stuffers” … ❑ Fear of being “out of control” ❑ Don’t want to appear arrogant or critical ❑ Fear of not being impactful, being seen as ❑ Fear of rejection ”not having it all together” ❑ Need to be right, the smartest one in the ❑ People think I am not “strong enough” or room “too strong” and opinionated ❑ Fear of being seen as a “know it all” ❑ Fear being imperfect and of making mistakes ❑ Because of my looks, others won’t accept ❑ Fear of disappointing others me for who I am Roger Heuser 26 ”Why do you see the speck in your neighbor’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? (Matt 7:3)? Hypocrites who can’t see their own “logs [shadows]” that they often project on to others. Roger Heuser 27 Shadows in the workplace 1. Deep insecurity about identity and self-worth: Masking inner doubts through extraversion and role identity. 2. Belief that the universe is a battleground, hostile to human interests: Competitive wins/losses, see others as allies or enemies. 3. ”Functional atheism,” the belief that ultimate responsibility for everything rests with us: I bear ultimate responsibility for everything that happens – an enduring pattern that no one else is willing or able. 4. Fear – especially of the natural chaos of life: Stifle dissent and innovation; consolidate power; emphasize rules and procedures instead of creativity; 5. Denial of death and failure: Leaders who need constant affirmation, who operate out of their own denial of death, fear of pubic failure, or negative evaluation. … ignoring the fact that some I’ll die… that some day projects and programs should die. Ignore my mistakes and failures – and others’ -- rather than learn from them. Palmer, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2000). Roger Heuser 28 Shadow Work The leader is someone with power to project either shadow or light into some part of the world and onto the lives of the people who dwell there. A leader shapes the ethos in which others must live, and ethos as light-filled as heaven or as shadowy as hell. A good leader is intensely aware of the interplay of inner shadow and light, lest the act of leadership do more harm than good. Parker J. Palmer, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2000), 78 Roger Heuser 29 Going deeper… As you read through the shadows in the ppt and readings, reflect on the emotions under the descriptions – fear, anxiety, anger – and reflect on the following questions: 1. Which of these shadows seem more familiar to you? Do they prompt any discomfort? Do you think others notice them in you? How do you think they feel? 2. Which of these shadows have shown up in your department/ organization? Specifically, how do they manifest themselves? Have they become organizational shadows? 3. What is the normal organizational response to these shadows? Roger Heuser 30 The truth about shadow work! We all have shadows. Shadows do not need to be bad or negative. “It is what it is.” Our whole self, whom God loves, includes the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful... They form the whole of us. The full knowledge of who we are is impossible if we do not surface, learn from, and integrate our shadows into our conscious awareness. The Holy Spirit wants to transform all of us – including the subconscious. You can learn to laugh at shadows that are benign – and repent of those shadows that are harmful. Roger Heuser 31 Break Out Sessions Personal journaling for 2-3 minutes – jot down some thoughts about the following questions: WHAT? (stands out for me? What interests me?) SO WHAT? (are the implications of the key points to what you are doing?) NOW WHAT? (may you consider doing or practicing? … etc) Roger Heuser 32 Roger Heuser 33 The leader and “false self” dynamics SESSION TWO Roger Heuser 34 Roger Heuser 35 8 Cs of CORE SELF DESIRES Connectedness Calm Clarity Compassion Compassion TRUE SELF Creativity Courage Curiosity Confidence Richard Schwartz, Internal Family Systems Roger Heuser 36 ”I AM a BELOVED child of God!” Henri J.M. Nouwen Roger Heuser 37 Donald Winnecott Object Relations Theory Adaptive Layer become FALSE SELF Impedes authentic expression of TRUE SELF Complies with external demands to gratify one’s needs TRUE SELF Roger Heuser 38 Donald Winnecott Object Relations Theory Adaptive Layer become FALSE SELF Impedes authentic expression to protect vulnerable TS Complies with environmental demands to maximize need TRUE SELF gratification Roger Heuser 39 Karen Horney, The Leader’s “Search for Glory” “Against” Others Healthy Balance of TRUE SELF Roger Heuser 40 The Leader’s “Search for Glory” “Against” Others becomes Aggression – battleground of winning and losing Coping with insecurities/anxiety can become “out of balance” COMPULSIONS becomes Aloofness/Detached becomes Compliance – shutting others out (incl inner life) – enmeshment, people pleaser Roger Heuser 41 The Leader’s “Search for Glory” “Against” Others Aggression – battleground of winning and losing -- is reframed as strong leadership Compulsions are reframed in Leader’s IDEALIZATION OF SELF Compliance Aloofness/Detached – enmeshment, people pleaser – shutting others out (incl inner life) – is reframed as loving leadership -- is reframed as self-sufficient leadership Roger Heuser 42 Early in life… Here and now End of Life 1. Is it safe out there? 2. Does anybody care? 3. Do I have any control over my life? Legitimate needs over a lifetime! Roger Heuser 43 When I was born HERE & NOW When I die 1. I NEED 2. I DESIRE 3. I DESERVE 4. I DEMAND Power/Control Esteem/Affection Security/Survival Roger Heuser 44 When I was When I die HERE & NOW Born 1. I NEED 2. I DESIRE 3. I DESERVE 4. I DEMAND “Self-referenced” Emotional Programs for “Happiness” Roger Heuser 45 Thomas Keating, Invitation in Love Alternate Pathway Daily Office - silence, solitude, prayer Spiritual Direction Therapy Shadow work Roger Heuser 46 Know thyself I will increase our ability I affirm that I and others to create authentic “I now know myself to be a person are not flawless, but by relationships. of weakness and strength; liability and being our “best integrated giftedness; darkness and light. self”, we can humanize the I will focus on how we workplace to serve the can support each other. I now know that to be whole means to organization well. reject none of it but to embrace all of it.” (Parker Palmer) 47 Roger Heuser UoS helps us to be more conscious about the playing out of Front & Back Stages dynamics Front Stage: Back Stage: How we show up Reflective practices What we do Building capabilities Experiencing action-learning cycles Self-development; self-care Our self-management Developing self & other awareness How we & others are impacted Dealing with fears; building confidence & courage 48 Roger Heuser Break Out Sessions Personal journaling for 2-3 minutes – jot down some thoughts about the following questions: WHAT? (stands out for me? What interests me?) SO WHAT? (are the implications of the key points to what you are doing?) NOW WHAT? (may you consider doing or practicing? … etc) Roger Heuser 49 Roger Heuser 50 Christian leadership is fundamentally a life-long journey in freedom and wholeness toward becoming one’s “true self” in Christ that is … grounded in unconditional love and kingdom values, … expressed through one’s call, passion, and giftedness, … strengthened in intimacy and power of Spirit, … exercised in loving service with Christ – sacrificially, if necessary – in his reconciling mission for the world, and … without compromising the on-going formation of spiritually and organizationally healthy organizations. SESSION THREE Roger Heuser 51 Awakening to… “The Word became flesh and dwelt among us” (Jn 1:4). Unconditional and sacrificial… Cruciform Love Compassion Intimately relational Truthful surrender Humility Forgiveness Long suffering Trusting Eating with sinners … Roger Heuser 52 Christ followers’ inner awakening… “Those who abide in me and I in them bear much fruit” (Jn 14:5). “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the will of God” (Rom 12:1-2). “… you may be strengthened in your inner being … to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God” (Eph 3:16b-19). Roger Heuser 53 Awakening to our own invitation… “Have this mind in you which was in Christ Jesus…” (Phil 2:5). “…it is no longer I who live, but it is Christ who lives in me” (Gal 2:20). “You have died to yourselves, and your lives are hidden with Christ in God” (Col 3:3). ONLY POSSIBLE when we learn to follow the spirituality of Jesus. See ch 3 Roger Heuser 54 ORDINARY AWARENESS Survival in… Thoughts, emotions, actions, hopes and dreams, accomplishments, disappointments, judgments SPIRITUAL DESIRES Deepening awareness of … “The secret of prayer is a hunger for God and for the [kingdom] vision of God, a hunger that lies far deeper than the level of language or affection.” (Merton) DIVINE INDWELLING PRESENCE Surrendering consent Source of hope, intimacy, forgiveness, long suffering, “with no strings attached” to … and fountain of love… in Christ-formation NOTE: When we awaken to the reality of God’s indwelling presence, and begin to respond, the Spirit continues to form the Christ self within us. Thomas Keating, Open Mind, Open Heart Roger Heuser 55 “… you have stripped off the old self with its practices (sexual immorality, evil desire, greed, and have clothed yourselves with the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge according to the image of its creator. In that renewal there is no longer Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, enslaved and free, but Christ is all and in all” (Col 3:9b-11)! M. Robert Mulholland, The Deeper Journey. IVP, 2006, 100-108. Roger Heuser 56 Clothe yourselves (v 12) … by putting on virtues (v 13) 1. Compassion 1. Forbear one another: let others be who they are vs our false self that 2. Kindness “imprisons” others through our anger, control, 3. Lowliness wrath, slander… 4. Gentleness 2. Forgive one another: our false self requires “justice” spelled 5. Patience r-e-v-e-n-g-e before forgiveness is granted. Instead by God’s grace we are released from the destructive bondage of what the other person did to us. M. Robert Mulholland, The Deeper Journey. IVP, 2006, 124-128. Roger Heuser 57 Putting on Christ - Col 3:14-16 “Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything in perfect harmony” (v 14). “And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts … and be thankful (v 15) “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly…” (v 16). M. Robert Mulholland, The Deeper Journey. IVP, 2006, 134ff. Roger Heuser 58 “Putting on Christ” - Col 3:14-16 1. What role does forbearance play in your relationship with others? 2. Whom do you need to forgive? 3. Is any unresolved resentment poisoning your relationships? 4. To what extent do compassion, kindness, lowliness, gentleness, and patience characterize your relationship with others? 5. Do you have some idea of what “putting on Christ” might mean in your life? 6. What would your life look like if the peace of Christ ruled in your heart? 7. What would your life look like if the word of Christ dwelt in you richly, daily? M. Robert Mulholland, The Deeper Journey. IVP, 2006, 140. Roger Heuser 59 What does transformation look like? But speaking the truth in love, we must grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by every ligament with which it is equipped, as each part is working properly, promotes the body’s growth in building itself up in love. Eph 4:15–16. For this reason, since the day we heard it, we have not ceased praying for you and asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of God’s will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you may lead lives worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, as you bear fruit in every good work and as you grow in the knowledge of God. Col 1:9– 10. for it is God who is at work in you, enabling you both to will and to work for his good pleasure. Php 2:13. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your minds, so that you may discern what is the will of God—what is good and acceptable and perfect. Ro 12:2. My little children, for whom I am again in the pain of childbirth until Christ is formed within you… I am perplexed about you. Gal 4:19, 20b. “I ask not only on behalf of these, but also on behalf of those who will believe in me through their word, that they may all be one. As you, Father, are in me and I am in you, may they also be in us, so that the world may believe that you have sent me. Jn 17:20–21. Roger Heuser 60 What does transformation look like? … all of us, with unveiled faces, seeing the glory of the Lord as though reflected in a mirror, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another; for this comes from the Lord, the Spirit. 2 Co 3:17–18. So we do not lose heart. Even though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is being renewed day by day. 2 Co 4:16. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, just as he chose [ek-lego, spoke us forth] us in Christ before the foundation of the world to be holy and blameless before him in love. Eph 1:3–4. I pray that you may have the power to comprehend, with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Eph 3:18–19. … we have not ceased praying for you that you may be filled with the knowledge of God’s will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you may lead lives worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, as you bear fruit in every good work and as you grow in the knowledge of God. May you be strong with all the strength that comes with his glorious power and may you be prepared to endure everything with patience, while joyfully giving thanks to the Father…. Col 1:9-12a. Roger Heuser 61 Where do we find our “true” identity? False Self – Spiritual disciplines are the Memories, emotions, means of grace that attitudes, perspectives, nurture detachment from habits of hearts and mind, the false self, losing that dynamics of relationships, self for Christ’s sake, Rev 3:20 enabling God, the Holy modes of responding and Spirit to renew our inner reacting to the world. nature into Christ Self. Largely misshapen by the world’s perspectives, value systems and The Christ Self – behavior patterns. “hidden with Christ in God” and through life in the Spirit. Col 3:3 M. Robert Mulholland, jr., Invitation to a Journey Roger Heuser 62 Mulholland lecture notes, Spring Arbor U Nature of Spiritual Practices M. Robert Mulholland, jr., Invitation to a Journey Classical Disciplines Inner Posture Dynamics Only pure motive…. Loving Silence: fasting from speaking to God to listening to obedience to God God The deep inner reversal of grasping, controlling mode of being.. The inner act of letting go Spiritual practices Examples: Daily office, prayer, Solitude: fasting from fellowship with others to be scripture reading, spiritual direction, alone with God spiritual healing, worship, journaling, In the silence of release, we begin to face deep, inner study, fasting, retreat… dynamics of our being that makes us that grasping, Three polarities: controlling, self-referenced being. Avoidance/rigidity “Work out your own salvation”/ “For Authentic prayer: offering who we are to God – God is at work in you” (Phil 2) vulnerable, broken, grasping, fearful, angry -- in Being alone/being in community exchange for the loving work of God’s grace within us... Living the life of the beloved! “Christian spirituality is integrating all of life’s experiences in a gifted relationship with Christ." Roger Heuser 63 Beatitudes -- What is blessed, happiness? Happiness is a biological neurotransmitter - one of several - that releases a chemical (a synapse) that produces a felt emotional experience. For instance, Dopamine is released during positive or pleasurable experiences. Oxytocin is released when we’re experiencing infatuation and love and bonding with another person – as well as increasing contractions during labor and birth. Endorphins are released when we have a sense of inner calm, inner peace, and well-being Norepinephrine is released in response to stress, “fight-or-flight” response to danger. We experience anxiety, negative experiences. Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 64 What “triggers” release the neurotransmitters? NEEDS BELIEFS (Should) Physiologic Oneself Safety Relationships Love Social CONFLICT! Societal Belonging Esteem Religious Acceptance Political Success etc Transcendent Roger Heuser 65 NEEDS Physiologic Safety Love Belonging Pleasure Pain No conflict Esteem Acceptance Conflict Happiness/Blessed Success Unhappiness Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 66 NEEDS Physiologic Safety Love Belonging Esteem Acceptance Pleasure Success Pain No conflict Conflict TRANSCENDENT Happiness/Calmness Unhappiness Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 67 Dual Awareness L R Reconstructs Present Moment Moment Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 68 Corpus Callosum – large fibers that connect right and left brains. Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 69 Beliefs of the Kingdom of God stand out – radically You have heard that it was said, “An But I say to you: “Do not resist an eye for an eye and a tooth for a evildoer. But if anyone strikes you on the tooth.” … right cheek, turn the other also” (Matt 5:38-39). You have heard that it was said, “You But I say to you: “Love your enemies shall love your neighbor and hate your and pray for those who persecute you” enemy.” … (Matt 5: 43-44). Jesus’ teaching was transformation of awareness. To turn the other cheek, love your enemies, etc. means functioning at a non-dual state of awareness – functioning in an inner state of calm and well-being. Roger Heuser 70 These eight different conflictual situations teach us non-dual ways of responding – with non-dual awareness Blessed means “a state if inner bliss, happiness, and joy that is not affected by circumstances.” Jesus is teaching his disciples: “When you’re of this nature, you will be happy.” Roger Heuser 71 Surrender – “Blessed are those who are poor in spirit” (vs 3). - Humble and unassuming, who are free of social culture markers of pride and prejudice, to be loving and free from resentment and hostility toward others. Heartbreak – “Blessed are those who mourn” (vs 4).\ - Those who turn away from anger, hatred, recrimination, and retribution in the face of loss or difficulty. Instead of engaging in conflict, they turn to God for comfort and courage to endure and overcome life’s difficulties. Roger Heuser 72 Confidence – “Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth” (vs 5). Not being weak, but gentle and kind. Those who avoid arguments and disputes and violence, who do not use force to overcome foes… those who forgive those who have done injustices to them. Longing– “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they will be filled” (vs 6). Those who have endured persecution for their social class, race, religion, physical disability – and work for eventual justice rather than resorting to hatred and violence. Roger Heuser 73 Solidarity – “Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy” (vs 7). Those who are friendly and understanding toward their neighbors, strangers, and even their enemies. Authenticity – “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God” (vs 8). Those whose minds are not clouded with thoughts of retaliation and anger, but instead see the good qualities in others. Roger Heuser 74 Beatitudes are central to Jesus’ teachings. They were forms of God Awareness = Unconditional Love They were also, Eight different sources of conflict Eight different ways of responding Common theme: Do not retaliate Stay ”self-differentiated” - RESPOND RATHER THAN REACT Roger Heuser 75 What is our human nature - physiologically? Connecting (anterior insular gyrus) Self-protecting (amygdala) Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 76 What is our human nature - physiologically? Needs Beliefs Physiologic Oneself Safety Relationships Love L Belonging Social Societal Self-protection Esteem bias Religious Acceptance Political Success Etc. Transcendent Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 77 We can transform how we reconstruct reality Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 78 Affect of “Be still/Silent Prayer” in Brain Structures R Connecting Regulating Self-protecting Adapted from Chris Hagen “The ordinary events of daily life become our practice. I can not emphasize that too much.” - Thomas Keating Roger Heuser 79 “Be still” CENTERING PRAYER Research shows that the role of silence and prayer centered in God’s unconditional love … Right Brain - Connecting Increases empathy, compassion, and unconditional love. Diminishes the brain activity of protective systems while Regulating enhancing connective systems. Self-protecting Increases regulating circuitry between right brain, self- protection, and connecting. Is important to practice in consistent pattern twice/day for 20 minutes. Enhances Christian virtues such as those expressed in the Beatitudes and “God awareness” – patience, unbiased judgment, humility, forgiveness, compassion…. Roger Heuser 80 Focused Attention – what brain learns and reinforces, positive and negative Three focused attention daily practices: Practice attention to positive experiences Practice intentional mental/emotional pause Practice unbiased judgment Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 81 Practice Positive experiences “6 Do not be anxious about anything, Right Brain but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And Connecting the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts Regulating and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally,brothers and sisters, whatever Self-protecting is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if there is anything Adapted from Chris Hagen worthy of praise, think about these things” (Phil 4:6-8). Roger Heuser 82 Practice Positive experiences Right Brain “3 And not only that, but we also boast in our afflictions, knowing that affliction produces Connecting endurance, 4 and endurance produces character, and Regulating character produces hope, 5 and hope does not disappoint us, because God’s love has been Self-protecting poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit that has been given to us” (Rom 5:3-5). Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 83 Practice Mental/Emotional Pause Right Brain Practice intentional/emotional pause -- Press the pause button, stop your Connecting reaction, take three breaths, observe everything, put left brain judgement on Regulating hold, proceed with objectivity. Mental/Emotional Pause is called Self-protecting impulse control. The things we decide upon already happen a few seconds before we are aware of these thoughts. Adapted from Chris Hagen Roger Heuser 84 Practice Mental/Emotional Pause Physical early warning signs: less impulse control, muscle tension, tightening in Right Brain stomach, increased breathing and heart rate. Connecting Emotional early warning signs: impatient, irritated, frustrated, anger, fear, anxiety, Regulating withdrawal. S: top your reaction! Self-protecting T: ake three breaths. O: bserve everything P: roceed with objectivity Victor Frankl said, “Between stimulus and response Adapted from Chris Hagen there is a space – in that space is our power to choose our response. To stand back from ourselves and our knee jerk reactions, we can choose how we want to act and what we want to say.” Roger Heuser 85 Practice Unbiased Judgment (discernment) In conflict, there is the tug between external reality and our reconstructive reality (eg., the elder brother). The left brain is looking at: What need do I have at the moment, and what need is not getting met? What is the belief that is in conflict with the needs? The way the need is being met – or not being met – is in conflict with one’s belief. Roger Heuser 86 Practice Unbiased Judgment (discernment) Right brain – experiences external reality Left brain – self-protecting reconstructs that reality We can transform how we reconstruct reality! Needs Beliefs Safety Oneself Love Relationships Belonging Social Esteem Societal Acceptance Religious Success Political Transcendent Etc. Roger Heuser 87 Practice Unbiased Judgment (discernment) Right brain – experiences external reality Left brain – reconstructs that reality We can transform how we reconstruct reality! This calls for a prolonged intentional pause and discernment. Our PAUSE brings together both left and right brains and seeks an understanding that is “transcends” beyond what we are “reconstructing” – seeking to discern the whole (rather than selected parts). Roger Heuser 88 Practice Unbiased Judgment (discernment) Right brain – experiences external reality Left brain – reconstructs that reality We can transform how we reconstruct reality! Ask yourself: 1. What is my need/belief? 2. What is the other’s need/belief? 3. What am I asked to become aware of that I am unaware? 4. What am I asked to understand that is not apparent in my current understanding? Roger Heuser 89 Practice Unbiased Judgment (discernment) Right brain – experiences external reality Left brain – reconstructs that reality We can transform how we reconstruct reality! Ask yourself: What Beatitude/Fruit of Spirit am I called to live in this moment? No personal, social, cultural, racial, gender, pride or prejudice. Turn away from anger, desire for retaliation, retribution. Be courteous, friendly, understanding even when I disagree. Clear my mind of negative thoughts; see the good qualities in the person/situation. Provide an atmosphere of love through listening and understanding. Do what you can to lower the anxiety. Receive God’s blessing when others insult and persecute. Roger Heuser 90 Right brain – experiences external reality Practice Unbiased Judgment (discernment) Left brain – reconstructs that reality We can transform how we reconstruct reality! Ask yourself: Which God Awareness Faculty am I called to live in this moment? Unconditional: patience, humility, unbiased judgment, compassion, forgiveness… What beliefs do I want transformed? Who, what, where, and when will I practice these new beliefs? How will I evaluate my response? How will I incorporate a meditative practice? Roger Heuser 91 Discernment is not a quick fix! Discernment is waiting with God, co-waiting with the belief that something hidden will manifest itself, wherever where the Holy Spirit leads, there is never a final discernment, but each discernment leads to the next one. “Discernment of spirits is a lifelong task. I can see no other way for discernment than to be committed to a life of unceasing prayer and contemplation, a life of deep communion with the Spirit of God.” - Henri J. M. Nouwen, Discernment: Reading the Signs of Daily Life. "One cannot simply undo the past, one can always start completely new, the point at which we stand is always an open path to God, one can forget the past, the new beginning may look meager, a little more patience, understanding, compassion, a small resolve to do things better can be the start oriented toward God. Eternal hope is entering everyday life.” - Karl Rahner, Mystical Way in Everyday Life Roger Heuser 92 What Creates Our Desire for Transformation? “For it is God who is at work in you, enabling you both to will and to work for his good pleasure” (Phil 2:13, NRSV). “Be energetic in your life of salvation, reverent and sensitive before God. That energy is God’s energy, an energy deep within you, God himself willing and working at what will give him the most pleasure” (Phil 2:13, The Messenger. God, the great Energizer, is the one who is effectively at work among Christians at Philippi so as to effect change in their wills (desires) and in turn change in their conduct. Thus they will be able to achieve “the drive” - the harmony and health that is so much needed (Word Commentary). God who is working in us creates this desire and strength to take and exert our will to action. God’s loving purpose in us is to love God and neighbor as ourselves. Roger Heuser 93 Ordinary Awareness Will and action to express unconditional love TRANSFORMATION Daily practices as a means of grace… Silence/Solitude/Dialogical Prayer… Consciousness Examen, Lectio Divina, Prayer of Imagination, Centering Prayer God Awareness Spiritual Awareness Working as the source Desire/power to express of unconditional love unconditional love Roger Heuser 94 Discerning priorities, making choices (ch 7) What are you learning about your Time Mgt Matrix capacity to fulfill your role demands? Quadrant One: Quadrant Two: URGENT/ NOT URGENT/ How do you know when you’re IMPORTANT IMPORTANT caught up in the logic of task pursuit? Quadrant Three: Quadrant Four: URGENT/ NOT URGENT/ Connect your charisms with what org UNIMPORTANT UNIMPORTANT needs most to fulfill its mission. Know your golden and silver threads. Lead by example in paying attention to Know bedrock priorities and your priorities. Remember the power of communicate them to others. interpersonal relationships! Roger Heuser 95 Break Out Sessions Personal journaling for 2-3 minutes – jot down some thoughts about the following questions: WHAT? (stands out for me? What interests me?) SO WHAT? (are the implications of the key points to what you are doing?) NOW WHAT? (may you consider doing or practicing? … etc) Roger Heuser 96 If, then, there is any comfort in Christ, any consolation from love, any partnership in the Spirit, any tender affection and sympathy, 2 make my joy complete: be of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or empty conceit, but in humility regard others as better than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not to your own interests but to the interests of others. 5 Let the same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God as something to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, assuming human likeness. And being found in appearance as a human, 8 he humbled himself and became obedient to the point of death— even death on a cross (Phl 2: 1-8). - Paul , the Apostle Roger Heuser 97 Breaking the cycle… 1. Learn to recognize your own false self-patterns … will enhance your own agency. If you’ve offended or harmed by others, enter the forgiveness journey. If benign… don’t take yourself too seriously. 2. Establish a Daily Office of spiritual disciplines and retreat rhythms throughout the year -- Scripture reading/memorization (lectio divina), disciplines of solitude/silence, centering prayer, prayer of the imagination, welcoming prayer, spiritual conversations, and journaling. Contemplative practices provide a space for the Spirit to ”lower” personal defenses and allow implicit memories to surface. 3. Pray for a trustworthy community where your “self” is more fully known -- and loved. 4. Remember: All of life’s experiences – including “hitting the wall”, Dark Night, acedia, and suffering are invitations to experience God’s deeply transforming love. 5. When false self emerges, listen for Christ’s knock on your heart’s door, who is inviting you to sit at the cruciform table of love under his loving gaze -- who “wants to come into you and eat with you” (Rev 3: 20). Roger Heuser 98 I've got some new material tonight that I've never taught before, but I've just learned it in the last few weeks about how brain science really conﬁrms uh Christian spirituality practices. So we be taking a look at that and kind of take a deep dive into our interior life together tonight. But those would be my my immediate responses to that those wonderful questions. So let's dive in and I'm going to share the screen with you and um keep those questions coming. You invigorate me with the questions. So, uh let's see. any of the share me screen here. And Second. Okay. All right, so last week, we go when we looked at the uh text the context of leadership that is very reversat all in in Va we said the vula environmentally talked about leaders doing theology and we began with our discussion on leading from within by looking at the best use of self and uh then, if you recall we uh you read the the uh ﬁrst three to chapters of the congregation, the dangers of leading iike discussion and the leader spirituality, looking at the spirituality of Jesus, not only what he taught, but what he did. And then this week, uh three chapters of the call and vision admission and we're going to we're going to delve into this interplay of light and shadow and there's been some practical ways of looking at how we make discerning choices during the week. And then last week for the the PDF uh handout monograph on biblical accents, um the ﬁrst ﬁve sections, but last week, and then this week, um the three sections that you did for the reading. And then we uh we kind of summarized uh last week with looking at leaderership bed this is dynamic interplay of of uh ble leaders followers and in the organizational context that inﬂuenced the organizational toward health and fulﬁling on a common purpose with environmental forces that ining are organizations. And so you might think about uh, you know, how how accurate are you and staying in touch with the blue environment? and how are you tracking the systems of inputs, throughputs and outputs, but feedback are you getting, um, you know, for example, in the US I know, the suicide rate, we think of the environment has has gone up since 2012, since the smarterphone. But one of the testimonies of customers in your business, as well as testimonyies of people in nonproﬁts, that's feedback. That's always feedback for us. What are the stories people are telling? about the quality of your leadership or the quality of ministry in your organization? How do we improve? There's there's a Japanese uh saying several years ago, kisen, kisen, which means just daily little improvements and little improvements that can actually make a diUerence over time. and uh you read about the golden threads and the golden thread and the um the silver threads that sometimes a whole system can change which just a little bit of an adjustment, um you know, I think, you know have to think uh you a class like this. It's like, oh, we should have taken a break just a minute earlier. You just, Roger, you lost the energy by going on a little bit too long. Let' see. So it's a little golden thread that just may make a diUerence with what the how the energy is it is happening within a particular group. So all of these are are are data or feedback for us to pay attention to so that we can respond more eUectively. Now how wealth do other people you're working with? What is their calling? We a lot more about that um in the next couple of weeks on teams in conﬂict. And then how where are you of your impact on your boss or on your staU, your colleagues, uh your in-ersonal impact, your best use of self? So it um I think you did the whole in the donut exercise, which um obviouslyvious of a little daunting where you read some of these passages to say, is that has ever is that really who I am naturally because Christ is in me, or is it still a gap between where I am and where I'd like to be? And then looking at this logist of Christian virtues, many of them are fruit of the spirit. And I would just I would just like to ask the question. What would it be like if leaders and followers exempliﬁed these characteristics and I know that many of you exuded these characteristics, and therefore you already know that these can make a diUerence, and this is a uniquely Christian approach to leadership, whether you're in the business, the marketplace, or in a church ministry, these traits are really important because they're part of our our kingdom values that we live out. We live out. um so they're really important in making it a diUerence in Christian organizations. So the tonight we're gonna look at um the spiritual health and inner transformation of leaders that can inﬂuence healthy relationships and healthy organizational culture. My I'm interested in in growth. I'm I'm more I'm as interested in in health as I am in growth because I believe that healthy, healthy organisms grow. They can help but grow, but it's it's it's a challenge to be a health organization if you're in a Syria today, then if you're in Singapore or the US. So what is health mean? Again is that the profound contextual environment that can that makes a diUerence. So we can look at shadow work, uh we're going to look at true cell false self dynamics and then what does it mean to become one's true self in Christ? It is grounded in call vision and mission, and here's where I' going of bringing in some new material that I' not really shared before that I've learned about brain science and Christian spirituality. So we said this last week and I command it against I think it's really important that Christian leadership comes out of the divine image bearing of our um creator six times God said it was good. And um it also said then when he created man, it is very good, very good, good means complete as the creator intended, good means complete as the creator intended. God uses power to complete the good and invites humans to share in this likeness, this dividing likeness to bring order out of chaos. Our presence can bring order in chaotic situations. We bring diUerent diUerent purpose. We create function in beauty through uniﬁed diversity. We restore human dignity through liberring in the good news. That's that's part of who we are, but we also live under the assault from the fault and we often live divided lives. We often live um with uh stories and experiences that have have born to make our our ourselves incomplete. And so it's a lifelong journey of becoming whole in Christ. So, but so leaders are around their own journey as well as uh the people within the organization, as well as organizations are in their own journey. So um this is a poem by Thomas Merton and uh read through this, that leaves me free to be whatever I like. It can be myself or not as Agleses I am not liberty to be real or to be unreal. I may be true or false choice is mine. I may wear now one mask and now another and never if so desire appear with my own troop face to work up my own identity in God, which the Bible calls, working out our salvation, is a labor that requires sacriﬁce and anguish, risk and many tears. I do not clearly I do not know clearly beforehand what the result of this work will be. The secret of my full identity is hidden in him. He alone can make me who I am or rather who I will be when at last I fully begin to be. No Paul talks about our lives are hidden hidden with Christ. so you preferred this, Socrates, know thyself, know all of thyself, and so here are some descriptions of the chorus self. When I think of this um do I know all parts of myself? Do I know my strengths, my skel sets, my weaknesses, my vulnerabilities, am I captured to God's love and forgiveness that I who I have been created redeemed to become? how do I strenghen my core? How do I increase myself understanding and integrate all parts of myself? I think of you know, I'm teaching I'm teaching my second class of over 200 students. and uh I taught last January class for city harvest. It was over 400 and they taught and we taught this meat. I've never taught this many people. so I'm learning new things about myself, strengths and weaknesses that I have. This is not my normal way of teaching. I like to be I like to sit around the table. most of my classes are about 15 to 20 grad students. And so we have more of a dialological. So I and learning new things about myself, who would I who I am, what am my strengths, my weaknesses, excuse me. There's another part of myself, though, that is uh, you know, my self-esteem. And I think in my do I esteem and honor myself, honor parts of myself without being eago inﬂated or falsely humble? So am I relying on other people to give me feedback to to uh, for me to really believe all of it, I I now I believe this is myself because someone told me, or do I need that? um Or am I falsely humble? We had a retreat uh last Saturday at our home or um some grad students. And had some great feedback. And um, you know, the pastor was, oh yeah, well, it's not me. It's theory what, you know, kind of falsely humble. uh that's one extreme the other extreme is to say, oh, I need your feedback for me to validate when I am. And then there's the um the self worth. Do I see myself as as God sees me? yet how much externled validation do I need? Are there voices that drown out God's love for me? Is it really important questions? Because some of us deal with these voices from the past that seem to be stronger and make an impact more than even causes voice of love. Who do I who who am I uh I think I should be? What others in the past or present think I should be or what the organization thinks I should be? um the idealized self um you know, my um probably the my idealized is my um my late good friend and mentor and kind of a soul made Normchechuk. And I compared myself to him because I just have always I looked up to him as such a deer, dear friend and maving teacher and consultant him leader, and the persona persona, the socially constructive self we present to the outside world, which may or may not correspond to our coreselves, so when do I wear a mask in relation to the multiple rollsag play? um so, you know, I it's it's uh what kind is it for four 27 year in California in the morning. So I'm you know, I'm kind of playing a role here to try to be awake. to teach this class. But, you know, when you if if you had a bad day and you're leading the team, um or you're let's say you're preaching in a Sunday morning, let's say I'm I'm going to be good preaching to you on a Sunday morning and I I have a uh ﬁght with my wife on the way to church. Am I going to kind of make you out to be my therapist, a congregation and say, oh, I like to preach this morning, but I just have to be honest with you. My uh my real self is really struggling because the and I had this big ﬁght and I'm not sure if we're going to well, I't hurt. No. I've got to put on a persona and say, this is the word of the Lord. I'm going to declare the word of the Lord to you. And you're not my therapist. We get in trouble, No. If we wear our persona 24 hours a day, that's the false self so we need to be true to ourselves and realize that the persona is not is not our course at all, but not the same. soul know that I know all of thyself, who am I? beyond the multiple aspects of psychological and social being the question, who am I ultimately before God? and you know you are to be loved child of God. That's your ultimate identity. beloved child of God. so Christ being formed in us is the picture of Mother Teresa, by the way, who had her own dark night of the soul where she where God seeming seemed to be absent in her life, but she continued to serve Christ because Christ was being formed in her through her sacriﬁcial service. Sanga puts the name some pictures of that you may not recognize, but these have been leaders in evangelical churches and accostal churches um really this last one I just put up uh was a student of mine who had a very young life bastering the metic church committed suicide struggling, struggling, he his leaders struggled. So Christian leaders with extraordinary skill, intelligence, creativity, inﬂuence success, compassion, and art for ministry, uniquely expressing their divine image bearing likness on the outside, but what was going on on the inside? What was happening on the inside? So there's a lot been written about this in the literature, man and cateries as the psychiatrist who is written a lot about organizational health. And he suggests that leaders have their own kind of inner theater, inner theater of our own unique stories being played out. their character, is there is a plotline, there is success and failures and um so we we uh we we act out this inner theater with health or sometimes there's a bit of an neurosis. and what he suggests is that the stronger the personality of the leaders, the more inﬂuence will be be reﬂected throughout the organization, and that is to say in many organizations, if the leaders spend there long enough, and there's a strong personality that the organization will be begin to reﬂect the leader's interior life. The leader is interior life. So these characteristics that we're going to look at um are accentuated and stressful situation and especially in highly centralized organizations. So what what are they? I'm not going to read these uh you have a copy of these, but he suggested that these common categories of durosis dramatic personalities, suspicious, detached, depressive, compulsive, um when they're at work in the inner theater of a leader it begins to impact the entire organizational culture. Remember, stressful situations, highly the centralized and very strong leadership personalities. Now, you can begin to see, perhaps that there the subtlety of these forces operate in some measure within all of our lives. I mean all of us some of us, I think, if we were in a small group, we would say, you know what? Some of us tend to be perfectionistic. and that we uh I want things to be perfect and so we might be more of the compulsive leaders. Some of us to deal with seeing the glass half empty and we kind of look at um, you know, the the more um uh realistic signs that we say, oh, kind of worry about what's gonna happen. Maybe the heart the depressive excuse me, some of us may be more dramatic and we like we like to be up front, et cetera, whatever. So I can see some of these more prominent for me than others, my past, I'm getting freer, by the way, the older I can get. These are not nearly as strong as they used to be. if I had a if I had a punctuation error, like in a PowerPoint, I thought, oh, no, um shame wasn't that may be shame, but it's like, how did I miss that? So that kind of perfectionism So what he says is that they kind of uh present a montage described in diUerent styles of leadership. Most of us, but it would be more of a hybrid of these diUerent styles. So you know that Johhar window you know, number one is this old area what we know about each other. And two are in the hidden areas. What I know about myself that you don't know and three um the blind spots, what you know about me that I don't know. You already have you already have um opinions about me that I may not have about myself. um and then four is the unknown what areas are unknown to me and to you about ourselves. So um this is really this could be helpful to for us to say who we really are before our God, we want we want the spirit to reveal to us her blind spots. We want to make known our hidden secret to the Lord, and we want to ﬁnd out new things about ourselves so that we can have a self awareness understanding so that the Holy Spirit can heal us. Now part of that healing, if any of you hadn't been in like recovery groups, you realize that not only in the presence of God, but in the presence of others who care and love us can be really important in in in on this journey of expanding the Joari window um to to for our own healing of sharing the life. So lifelong soft aware to move our cores of self, strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities, having to aware of my public persona, what presentations of myself, am I engaging and why how far is my persona that I wear from my core self? and are their relationships where I could be myself without a persona in? These are important questions for us to ask on our own journey, but shadow work. OK, this is comes from Carl Yung, the psychologist. uh he did the major work in this. But shadows are the thing a person has no wish to be, are unknown or little known qualities of ourselves that we hope to hide from our ourselves and others in God, and so we ignore, we diminish, or we may conceal positive or negative qualities. For example, of certain aspects of self are look at that. look at that we. I didn see there's a punctuation here. Oh, I I'm not worthy to teach this class. Uh, if certain asthmics are revealed, we would appear to weak or too strong, too aggressive, seen as a know at all, to pus put on a pedestal, you can see that some of us are hesitant to reveal parts of ourselves for fear of judgment or for fear of what others have told us we shouldn't be, um and you think of no, um, men can be men can be aggressive. women should not be aggressively uponed gender stuU with this this this kind of thing. So the shadows, whether pause or negative block the lighted up true freedom is self- acceptance of one'sorcell, and God's acceptance of us. so the metaphor is is this bag. We we we carry behind us. and um everyone has been putting diUerent things into our bags since childhood and pretty much based on the signiﬁcant others view in their lives or parents and and uh they want us to be a good boy and we know that we're not always a good boy so we stuck that into a bag and we get into adolescence and and people are telling us we should be this and we should be that. We'd realize, oh, I'm not, but I need to live up for those expectations. If I step it into my bag and the church tells us that. And so we begin to carry this big bag around and drag it into oU and often people drag it into midlight where they had a crisis and they'd hit the wall and everything comes rolling out of the bag and it's can be very um can be very frightening and can it can be messy to oneself and to others and the relationship. but uh the question psychiatrist David Benner said um, you know what? transformational knowing. It always means embracing that shadow, those unacceptable parts are ourselves. that I' denied and buried in my blissful in in an ignorance, he says if only embrace my strong conﬁdent self and never able to embrace my insecure, vulnerable shamebased parts. I still live with their inﬂuence under the surface, but without any agency to consciously act accordingly. So here is some big stuUers fear be out of control, fear of not having it altogether. People think are not strong enough too strong, opinionated, fear of being imperfect, fear of disappointing others. I don't want it appear arrogant, uh fear rejection need to be right, need to be the smartest one in the room, fear of being seen as in know at all. These are all stuU that we we stuU into our bags that we don't want to admit who we are. So we know Jesus talked about this. Why do you see this speck in your neighbor's eye, but do not notice a log in your own? So the hypocritics who can't see their own logs that often are they often then project onto others under the surface. So Parker Palmer Parker Palmer is a a wonderful writer, let your life speak is one of his uh most tom books in that. He shared this about shadows in the workplace and uh well he suggests is that a leader is a person who has an unusual power to project uh uh shadow or light, shadow or light. And that's why we we labeled that shapter. The interplay of light and shadow. So the the uh sharing ones liked is a very positive experience, isn't it? Li leaders who are upbeat people, leaders who can refrain reality. um who can are resilient in suUering all of that. But some of the some of the shadows that Olivermer has identiﬁed. One is this deep insecurity about when's on identity and self-worth. Now, this is this is hard to see in extroverts. um, but it's it's masking or inner doubt through extroversion and role identity. So you do you know that some leaders who pretend to have it all together and yet under that can be very insecure? So I, you know, I've been in an academic institution for a long, long time and professors hide their insecurity through their um degrities and uh and some some faculty just are not integrated very well and leaders would may not be integrated very well when they play up to all the external all the external markers that would point toward we have it all together. So um what Palmer says is that leaders who have ridden the monsters all the way down, that is to say, who have really gone into the depths of their shadow work can be free from this, and do not need to lead out of insecurity. Another is a belief that the universe is a battleground. everything's about winning and losing, and if it's about winning losing, I amm gonna win, and you're not functional atthheism. This is the belief that ultimate responsibility read for everything rests on me. so um I can't take a day oU. What would God do if I took a day oU? The whole world might crumble if I took a day oU? uh God can't make it without me, so I have to work hard and hardbiter and harder and um I think, you know something about this sensitive important culture. um I know this I know something about this and my own life. Fear, especially the nature of the natural chaos of life. So um, you know, this, you know, don't don't um emphasize rules and procedures instead of creativity, because we don't want to lose control and then ﬁnally denial it of death and failure to so that people are afraid leaders who are afraid of any kind of negatively evaluation, afraid to take risks. And so this is the the ?

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