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According to 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone,' what is the primary focus when dealing with grief?
According to 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone,' what is the primary focus when dealing with grief?
- Following predictable stages to get over the loss
- Adhering to societal expectations of mourning quietly
- Arming oneself for survival against the brutal reality of grief (correct)
- Achieving inner peace through gentle affirmations
The book 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' suggests that grief progresses in tidy, predictable stages.
The book 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' suggests that grief progresses in tidy, predictable stages.
False (B)
According to 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone,' what is grief compared to in the context of its impact on one's life?
According to 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone,' what is grief compared to in the context of its impact on one's life?
an ambush
According to the book, the world wants you to move on, but your _____ remembers.
According to the book, the world wants you to move on, but your _____ remembers.
Match the following concepts from 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' with their descriptions:
Match the following concepts from 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' with their descriptions:
What does Cassandra Crossno offer in 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' instead of comfort?
What does Cassandra Crossno offer in 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' instead of comfort?
'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' advocates for politely healing from grief.
'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' advocates for politely healing from grief.
According to the book, what should you do with your pain instead of apologizing for it?
According to the book, what should you do with your pain instead of apologizing for it?
The book suggests that instead of surviving the shitstorm, you should _____ the fucking storm.
The book suggests that instead of surviving the shitstorm, you should _____ the fucking storm.
What does the book say about the world's expectations regarding grief?
What does the book say about the world's expectations regarding grief?
According to 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone,' your love story ends with death.
According to 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone,' your love story ends with death.
Instead of offering comfort, what does Crossno demand?
Instead of offering comfort, what does Crossno demand?
The book encourages readers to stop crawling through the wreckage and _____ as the goddamn apex predator grief created.
The book encourages readers to stop crawling through the wreckage and _____ as the goddamn apex predator grief created.
What does 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' identify as one of your inalienable rights as a griever?
What does 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone' identify as one of your inalienable rights as a griever?
The book suggests that you should passively accept the 'bullshit timelines' grief experts peddle.
The book suggests that you should passively accept the 'bullshit timelines' grief experts peddle.
What is your person's memory meant to be used for in 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone'?
What is your person's memory meant to be used for in 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone'?
The book describes itself not as a gentle whisper, but as a _____ scream echoing from the depths of unimaginable loss.
The book describes itself not as a gentle whisper, but as a _____ scream echoing from the depths of unimaginable loss.
Instead of trying to 'fix' what's broken, what does the book suggest you do?
Instead of trying to 'fix' what's broken, what does the book suggest you do?
According to 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone,' grief should be approached with a quiet and reserved demeanor.
According to 'Holy Sh*t, They're Gone,' grief should be approached with a quiet and reserved demeanor.
According to the book, what should you find in the ashes?
According to the book, what should you find in the ashes?
Flashcards
Nature of Grief
Nature of Grief
Grief is portrayed as an intense, consuming experience, likened to an ambush or demolition, rather than a neat, predictable process.
"HOLY SH*T, THEY'RE GONE"
"HOLY SH*T, THEY'RE GONE"
An arsenal for surviving the aftermath of loss, providing a battle plan and a means for revenge against the pain of grief.
Refusal to Let Grief Win
Refusal to Let Grief Win
Emphasizes taking action and defying expectations, rather than passively mourning.
Tactical Manual for Grieving
Tactical Manual for Grieving
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Rejecting Grief Stages
Rejecting Grief Stages
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Rewire Your Shattered Soul
Rewire Your Shattered Soul
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Legacy as a Fire
Legacy as a Fire
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Neuroscience of Grief
Neuroscience of Grief
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Rights as a Griever
Rights as a Griever
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Wound to Weapon
Wound to Weapon
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Study Notes
About the Book
- The book is an unconventional guide for those grappling with profound grief.
- It is not for those seeking gentle affirmations or step-by-step guides to inner peace.
- It is aimed at those whose hearts have been "ripped out" and are ready to scream.
- The book aims to shatter misconceptions about grief.
- It is a "goddamn arsenal" for surviving the aftermath of grief.
- It is a battle plan, a manifesto, and a revenge strategy, not just a book, but a "goddamn revolution".
- It's a "brass-knuckled guide" to navigate the wreckage of grief.
- The book demands self-preservation.
Grief Described
- Grief is portrayed as an ambush, a "fucking demolition," not a gentle process.
- It is a grenade lobbed into the center of one's life.
- It leaves one standing in wreckage with only the echo of the lost person's absence.
- It involves all-consuming rage, guilt, bone-deep weariness, and a desire to burn it all down.
- Grief is a demolition of your heart, your mind, your entire existence
Key Messages
- Forget conventional ideas about grief.
- Stop apologizing for pain and start weaponizing it.
- Rise as the apex predator grief has created.
- Haunt grief back.
- Live, love, and don't let the world forget the person who is gone.
- Stop surviving the shitstorm, become the storm.
- You are more than your loss and more powerful than your pain.
- The story isn't over, it lives on through choices and actions.
- Rise from the ashes and become a goddamn force to be reckoned with.
- Crossno encourages readers to embrace chaos and find strength in pain.
- Those who are ready to rage against the dying light should read this book.
Transformation vs Comfort
- The book offers transformation rather than comfort.
- It provides a way to keep fighting, even when one doesn't know what it's worth.
- It reminds you that you are not broken.
What Is At Stake
- Sanity
- Future
- The right to be more than a walking ghost
Topics Explored
- Why the Five Stages of Grief Are a Lie
- Shatter the pre-packaged bullshit and embrace the unpredictable, messy, and personal landscape of grief.
- Rewire Your Shattered Soul
- Stop trying to fix what's broken and build a magnificent, terrifying new existence from the ruins of your old one.
- Their Legacy – Your Fire
- Turn your person’s memory into an unstoppable force that reshapes the world and sets a legacy in motion.
- The Neuroscience of Your Broken Brain
- Understand the physiological chaos raging inside your skull, validate your “crazy,” and command your damaged neural pathways.
- Your Inalienable Rights as a Griever
- To rage, break and defy expectations on your pain.
Inner Rage
- This is your permission slip to scream, to rage, to tear the roof off this goddamn world
Transform Your Wound
- Your love story didn’t end with death.
- It simply changed its form.
- Learn how to carry your person's memory with you not as a burden, but as fuel—fuel for your fight, your purpose, your unwavering determination to reshape this world in their name.
Grief Grifters
- Unmask the "experts" peddling bullshit timelines, the platitude pushers trying to shame your emotions, and the clueless bystanders who’ve never known real fucking loss.
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