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What is the result of applying the strategy of Aggression + Principle = Conviction to a person doing the wrong thing?
What is the result of applying the strategy of Aggression + Principle = Conviction to a person doing the wrong thing?
What is the outcome of standing on principle?
What is the outcome of standing on principle?
What is the benefit of operating from principle?
What is the benefit of operating from principle?
What does the principle 'root for you or root against you' achieve?
What does the principle 'root for you or root against you' achieve?
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How does Frank approach Mike?
How does Frank approach Mike?
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What is the outcome of Frank's conversation with Mike?
What is the outcome of Frank's conversation with Mike?
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What does the usable insight suggest?
What does the usable insight suggest?
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What is the first action step recommended?
What is the first action step recommended?
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What is the key to the principle of 'root for you or root against you'?
What is the key to the principle of 'root for you or root against you'?
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What does Frank's tone reveal?
What does Frank's tone reveal?
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When you apply the strategy of Aggression + Principle = Conviction, it triggers resentment and defensiveness in other people.
When you apply the strategy of Aggression + Principle = Conviction, it triggers resentment and defensiveness in other people.
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Operating from principle allows you to see your antagonists in a more negative light.
Operating from principle allows you to see your antagonists in a more negative light.
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The principle of 'root for you or root against you' is used to attack the negative person's intelligence and forthrightness.
The principle of 'root for you or root against you' is used to attack the negative person's intelligence and forthrightness.
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Mike's negative behavior was due to his lack of experience and incompetence.
Mike's negative behavior was due to his lack of experience and incompetence.
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The company's growth was hindered after Mike's departure.
The company's growth was hindered after Mike's departure.
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Study Notes
Tolerance and Confrontation
- Tolerance is often viewed as a negative virtue, associated with merely enduring people or situations rather than actively addressing them.
Frank's Story
- Frank, a successful Silicon Valley entrepreneur, was unhappy in his job despite his outward success.
- He dreaded going to work due to his conflict with Mike, the CFO, who was perceived as grouchy and demanding.
- Frank's inability to confront Mike led to employee dissatisfaction, lost contracts, and a strained relationship with the board.
The Roots of Fear
- Frank's fear of confrontation stemmed from his childhood experiences with an abusive father, leading him to avoid confrontation and seek approval through achievement.
- This fear was transferred to his relationship with Mike, whom he perceived as a pseudo-father figure.
Confronting Negative People
- The key to confronting negative people is to focus on principle rather than aggression, which can lead to losing control and escalating conflicts.
- A replacement coping strategy can help individuals stand up for what they believe in without being consumed by anger or vindictiveness.
The "Root for You or Root Against You" Principle
- This principle involves finding something to honestly value in the negative person and using that as a lever to encourage change or departure.
- Frank applied this principle by highlighting Mike's strengths and experience, while also expressing his difficulties with Mike's behavior.
The Outcome
- Mike responded positively to Frank's honest feedback and acknowledged his need to change.
- The confrontation led to positive changes in Mike's behavior, and Frank was able to remain in his job and lead the company to further growth.
Tolerance and Confrontation
- Tolerance is often viewed as a negative virtue, associated with merely enduring people or situations rather than actively addressing them.
Frank's Story
- Frank, a successful Silicon Valley entrepreneur, was unhappy in his job despite his outward success.
- He dreaded going to work due to his conflict with Mike, the CFO, who was perceived as grouchy and demanding.
- Frank's inability to confront Mike led to employee dissatisfaction, lost contracts, and a strained relationship with the board.
The Roots of Fear
- Frank's fear of confrontation stemmed from his childhood experiences with an abusive father, leading him to avoid confrontation and seek approval through achievement.
- This fear was transferred to his relationship with Mike, whom he perceived as a pseudo-father figure.
Confronting Negative People
- The key to confronting negative people is to focus on principle rather than aggression, which can lead to losing control and escalating conflicts.
- A replacement coping strategy can help individuals stand up for what they believe in without being consumed by anger or vindictiveness.
The "Root for You or Root Against You" Principle
- This principle involves finding something to honestly value in the negative person and using that as a lever to encourage change or departure.
- Frank applied this principle by highlighting Mike's strengths and experience, while also expressing his difficulties with Mike's behavior.
The Outcome
- Mike responded positively to Frank's honest feedback and acknowledged his need to change.
- The confrontation led to positive changes in Mike's behavior, and Frank was able to remain in his job and lead the company to further growth.
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Description
This quiz explores the concept of tolerance and its relation to success, featuring quotes from E.M. Forster and a story about a Silicon Valley CEO.
