Cycle 13 - Video 2 - Smarter Than BPD Quiz

Study Notes

Understanding People Pleasing Behavior

People pleasing behavior is a common struggle for many individuals, often stemming from anxiety or trauma.
Anxiety-based people pleasing behavior can manifest when individuals feel anxious and worried about others being upset with them or not doing things correctly.
Trauma-based people pleasing behavior can stem from a fear of harm or abuse, leading individuals to fawn over others as a way to prevent harm.
Trauma and abuse can also manifest in quieter forms, such as emotional neglect, which can lead to people pleasing behavior as a way to gain attention or approval.
People pleasing behavior can stem from a discomfort with conflict and a desire for control over one's environment.
It is not always easy to identify the root cause of people pleasing behavior, and therapy can be messy and not always provide clear answers.
People pleasing behavior can lead to neglect of one's own basic needs, such as sleep and nutrition.
Checking in on one's own needs and taking care of oneself can help prevent slipping into people pleasing behavior.
People pleasing behavior can lead to over-apologizing, saying sorry for things that one is not actually sorry for, and apologizing for taking up space.
Engaging in fact-checking and distraction techniques can help individuals with people pleasing behavior overcome anxious or dysregulated thought spirals.
Relationships should involve give and take, and it is important to recognize that friendships and other relationships do not always require individuals to put others' needs before their own.
Placing and upholding healthy boundaries can help individuals overcome feelings of responsibility for others' emotions, which can contribute to people pleasing behavior.Struggling with Apologizing and Worrying
The speaker has a tendency to apologize excessively to avoid conflict.
The speaker wants to know if the listener struggles with the same issue.
The speaker still has tough days, especially when she hasn't slept well.
The speaker has a puppy that keeps her and her partner awake at times.
The speaker's job is demanding and can cause her to get stressed out.
When stressed, the speaker finds herself apologizing more and worrying that her friends are mad at her.
The speaker has no evidence to support her worries.
The speaker checks in with herself when she notices these behaviors.
The speaker tries to do the opposite of her usual behavior as a coping mechanism.
The speaker acknowledges that excessive apologizing and worrying may be a way to deflect conflict.
The speaker is open to hearing from the listener about their experiences with this issue.
The speaker recognizes the importance of paying attention to her own behavior and addressing it when necessary.