Conversation Starters and Flirting

Introduction

• The live stream focuses on how to start a conversation and flirt with women.
• Last week's live covered mindset, appearance, body language, and tonality.
• Tripp's course, "Hooked," is a 10-hour video course with a private Facebook group.
• The trip advice accelerator coaching program offers one-on-one coaching to help men meet women in person and online.

How to Open

• Openers should be simple; introduce yourself and start a conversation.
• One can skip the opener and just start talking.
• Astrology is a popular topic to talk about.
• Avoid overanalyzing how to open to prevent getting stuck in your head.
• In April, Tripp filmed around 25 approaches in New York City and got a bunch of numbers.

Flirting Quickly

• Flirt right away to avoid a platonic or boring conversation.
• Flirting builds attraction, applicable for approaching and dates.
• To stop being stiff, practice flirting.

Complimenting

• Do not compliment, or do so sparingly.
• Avoid complimenting a woman purely for her looks, as it is often ineffective and boring to her.
• Never criticize a woman's physical appearance, even playfully.

Playful Disqualification

• Playful disqualification is a push-pull technique where you jokingly imply she's not worthy of you.
• Challenging and polarizing statements spike emotions, an example being expressing playful disagreement on activities like kayaking.
• Playful disqualification contrasts with typical behavior of overly complimenting and agreeing with women.
• Flirting involves a dance of interest and disinterest, making the person unsure of your feelings.
• Flirting helps you appear non-needy by implying you have options.

Quick Flirts at Parties

• After introducing yourself, jokingly imply she snuck into the party without an invitation.
• Positioning yourself as a leader increases your status, which is attractive.
• Cocky funny lines include asking, "What else brought you to this thing besides the obvious—me?"
• Mindset should always be about assessing if she is good enough for you.
• Continuously remind yourself of this mindset.
• Jokingly state you are looking for someone to cause trouble with and suspect she might be the one.
• Always bring her into your world.

Other Ways of Flirting

• Misquote and misinterpret her words, accusing her of saying something outrageous.
• This creates playful banter and spikes emotions.
• Deliberately misquote her to flatter yourself jokingly, such as saying, "Did you just say you're in love with me?"
• Use a tone that cannot be misconstrued as anything other than flirting.

Balancing Act

• The balancing act of flirting includes mixing genuine questions and serious comments with the playfulness.
• Stay curious and genuinely interested in getting to know her, but too much flirting is exhausting.
• If you're bored, she's likely bored too, another area of building attraction.
• Determine if the girl is more than her looks.
• Advance the flirting by asking deeper questions.
• Do not brag or boast about yourself to impress her.
• Accuse her of flirting with you, even without clear context.
• You can literally say "hey, are you flirting with me?" in the middle of a conversation, regardless of context.
• There are other things you want to tell her, but you can only whisper them.
• All of this should be said with a smile.

T.E.D. Formula

• T.E.D. (Tension, Entertainment, Dominance) is a formula for attraction.
• Tension refers to sexual tension created through flirting.
• Entertainment involves having a good time in the moment.
• Dominance includes leading the conversation and getting her number.
• The "she's in your world" concept is key.

Social Freedom Exercises

• Social freedom exercises help remove nervousness in front of strangers.
• Examples include maintaining unbroken eye contact and dancing in public.
• The hardest exercise is telling a stranger your deepest, darkest secret, training you to remove your filter.

Rejection in women

• A theory is, rejection prevents replication (passing on genes).
• There are other theories that, ancestors lived in tribes and had fewer options.

Bullish

• Bullish, a program member who is having trouble taking action.
• Ask why this is so important to you and let that push you over the edge.

Daddy Issues

• One plays out the relationships with ones parents inside their relationships with women.
• Trauma such as getting abandoned can affect the person.
• Experiencing the loss of a father figure can be a traumatic event
• To resolve this trauma, some women may subconsciously create drama in relationships to try and prevent men from leaving, mirroring their childhood experience.
• People sometimes seek relationships that replay past traumas, hoping to resolve them.
• A woman with "daddy issues" may bring drama, jealousy, irrational behavior, and other issues into a relationship due to her experiences with men.
• If a woman starts introducing drama after an initial period of stability in the relationship (e.g., six months), it can be more difficult to leave due to emotional attachment.
• It's crucial to understand the person you are dating to avoid potential issues related to unresolved traumas.### Approaching Women
• Treat all women the same regardless of age (18-70+)
• Attraction works similarly across age groups
• Talk about whatever interests you
• It may be hard to connect with women more than 8-9 years outside your age range
• If you want kids, dating older women (if you are young) may not work

Overcoming Fear and Rejection

• Fear of approaching women is unnecessary
• Fear of rejection is linked to self-esteem and ego
• Rejection is hard for everyone

Dating Challenges

• Dating is tougher due to women having many choices
• Focus on what you can control in dating
• Avoid generalizing about modern or Western women
• Focus on improving yourself instead of blaming external factors

The Importance of Focus and Control

• If you want results, be in control of your actions
• Focus on self-improvement: "How can I do better?"

Being Discerning

• Be discerning, seek women who are a good fit for you
• Stay away from women who bring drama

Questions to Ask

• A good question for a first/second date: "How often do you see your parents?"
• This can lead to a conversation about their relationship with family

Interpreting Experiences Positively

• Interpret experiences in a way that brings a lesson
• AKA what doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Scarcity Mindset

• Men are in "default scarcity" (women don't approach them)
• Women are in "default abundance" (men pursue them)
• Men must create value
• It's fortunate men have to create value
• This is because they develop coping skills

Gym and Workplace Interactions

• Gym and workplace are not the best places to approach women
• Workplaces are like a "desert island"
• A worker may pursue someone only because they are available
• Dating coworkers can lead to complications if there's a breakup

Attractive Women

• Things come easy to attractive women until around 30-35
• After this age, they may have to learn how to get things and deal with life

Standing out on Tinder

• Have professional pictures

Sexual Incompatibility

• It means she did not like having sex with you

Social Skills

• Men are naturally in default scarcity
• Women are naturally in default abundance

Red Pill

• The red pill stuff is spot on and a lot of the information is rooted in a lot of that.
• Attraction must be discussed the way that it is and not the PC way, or it doesn't work.

Coaching

• Always be investing in yourself
• Consider coaching in every area of your life where others excel.
• There are people who know how to solve dating and relationship problems

Education

• Education is forever, always be learning.
• A lot of regular topics are useless in the real world (algebra, history).
• Could focus more on taxes, budgeting, relationships and attraction.

Friendships

• It's important to have friendships

Relationship Advice

• People need advice settling arguments, how to make friends, how to meet a woman or get over rejection.

What is Love?

• Love is respect.