Childhood Memory and Family

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What is the narrator's attitude towards their childhood memory?

nostalgic

melancholic

rebellious

detached (correct)

What is the significance of the grandmother's statement?

It creates tension between the grandmother and the narrator.

It showcases the grandmother's cruel nature.

It makes the narrator question their identity. (correct)

It reveals the narrator's biological parents are dead.

What is the symbolic significance of the child continuing to colour?

She is attempting to hold on to her childhood innocence. (correct)

She is showing defiance towards her grandmother.

She is trying to escape the reality of the situation.

She is unsure of how to react to the grandmother's statement.

What is implied about the narrator's parents?

They are alive but separated from the narrator. Signup and view all the answers

What is the narrator's primary concern when they learn they are adopted?

Existential questions of identity Signup and view all the answers

Why do comparatively few stories of adoptee experience make it to the mainstream?

Because they are not classic misery memoir territory Signup and view all the answers

What is the effect of the grandmother's sentence on the child's perception of reality?

It sucks the reality out of everything around her Signup and view all the answers

What is the narrator implying about the adopted child's sense of identity?

It is complex and influenced by multiple narratives Signup and view all the answers

What is the narrator's tone towards their adoption experience?

Matter-of-fact and observational Signup and view all the answers

What is the significance of the child not showing her face?

It symbolizes her lack of identity Signup and view all the answers

What is the narrator suggesting about the process of self-discovery for adopted children?

It is a lifelong process that requires constant effort Signup and view all the answers

What is the effect of the sentence 'You have a real mummy and daddy somewhere else' on the child?

It is a life sentence that changes her perception of reality Signup and view all the answers

What is the concept that the adoption triangle lacks?

Inalienability Signup and view all the answers

What is the consequence of the total alienability in adoption for the child?

A feeling of being unchosen Signup and view all the answers

What is the reason why adoptees are particularly affected by stories of adoptive parents returning their kids to the system?

Because they can relate to the feeling of being unchosen Signup and view all the answers

What is implied about 'normal' family life in the passage?

It is scarily circumstantial Signup and view all the answers

What is the author suggesting about the nature of identity in adoption?

It is extrinsic and can be negotiated Signup and view all the answers

What is the author's point about biological parents in the passage?

They can also abandon or be forced to give up their children Signup and view all the answers

What is the significance of the phrase 'the existential lack of givenness' in the passage?

It emphasizes the adoptee's lack of inherent connection to anyone Signup and view all the answers

What is the central theme of the passage?

The fragility of human connections in all families Signup and view all the answers

Study Notes

Childhood Memory

The narrator recalls a childhood memory of sitting at a low table, colouring as a child of four or five years old.
The memory is dim and unstable but reveals the narrator's grandmother babysitting them, with no mention of their parents.
The narrator, as a child, boasts about showing their artwork to their "mummy and daddy".

Grandmother's Revelation

The grandmother corrects the child, stating that their "mummy and daddy" are not their real parents, implying they have biological parents elsewhere.
The child doesn't react or show their face, continuing to colour, but is affected by the grandmother's words.
The grandmother's sentence "You have a real mummy and daddy somewhere else" has a profound impact on the child, altering their perception of reality.

Memory and Adoption

The writer's childhood memory of being told by her grandmother that she is adopted and doesn't belong to her caretakers is unstable and dim.
The writer's grandmother reveals that her parents are not her real parents, suggesting that her real parents are somewhere else.

Identity and Adoption

The writer realizes that adoption raises existential questions about identity and self, making her wonder "Who am I?" and "What does it mean to be me?"
Adopted children must grapple with these questions at a young age, and it becomes a lifelong struggle.
The interplay of alternative narratives is inherent to the adoptee experience.

Inalienability and Adoption

The writer's grandmother's revelation makes her search for inalienability, or a sense of permanent belonging, which she cannot find.
Adoption is predicated on the idea that everything, including identity, can be negotiated and taken away.
This existential lack of givenness is why adoptees are deeply affected by stories of adopted children being returned to the system.

Normal Family Life and Adoption

The writer argues that even biological family life is circumstantial and not inherently secure.
Biological parents can abandon, be forced to give up, or be prevented from raising their children.
Divorces, custody battles, and sibling drift can also occur in biological families.
No one, including biological families, can entirely rely on inalienability.

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A childhood memory of the author sitting at a low table colouring, where the grandmother reveals a shocking truth about the child's parents. The quiz explores this memory and its significance.