Social Etiquette and Table Manners PDF

# Social Etiquette ## What is Etiquette? Etiquette is a code of polite conduct. - Know the proper etiquette before entering into a social situation to avoid embarrassment or awkwardness. - Always be punctual. - Don't smoke, chew gum or tobacco. - Good grooming is essential. - Smile and make eye c...

# Social Etiquette ## What is Etiquette? Etiquette is a code of polite conduct. - Know the proper etiquette before entering into a social situation to avoid embarrassment or awkwardness. - Always be punctual. - Don't smoke, chew gum or tobacco. - Good grooming is essential. - Smile and make eye contact. - Give a firm handshake. - Speak slowly and clearly. - Greet them. ## Basic Rules 1. **Don't talk when someone else is talking to you.** - Raise your hand instead of calling out. - Stop talking when you hear the teacher speaking to you. - Ask questions at appropriate times. 2. **Keep your hands to yourself and your own stuff and do not deface other people's stuff, unless invited otherwise.** - Big PDAs are inappropriate in certain settings (i.e. classroom, hallway, etc.). 3. **Profanity (including minority/racial slurs of any kind) should NOT be used in public.** 4. **Don't engage in negative peer pressure (i.e. Telling someone that they should try drugs, “party hard,” etc.).** 5. **Treat others the way you would like to be treated (i.e. actively listening to someone).** 6. **Hold the door if someone is following you into a room.** 7. **Do not get involved in other people's conversations unless you are invited to or in some way affected by it.** ## Class Generated Notes 1. Don't talk over other people when they are talking. 2. Pay attention to whoever is talking (active listening). 3. Use appropriate language (no cursing/profanity, minority/racial slurs, etc.) in public settings and/or with people that will be offended by it. 4. Wear appropriate attire that is not suggestive, derogatory, and provocative to school. 5. Don't make unnecessary and irrelevant comments when the teachers are trying to help you be successful in life. 6. Try to avoid loud bodily functions. 7. Try to understand other people's opinions and be respectful when their opinions are different. 8. Answer questions honestly. 9. Use the appropriate volume when talking inside ("inside voice"). 10. Don't touch other people's things or bodies. # Table Manners ## Why are Table Manners Important? - Table manners are important because they ensure that both guests and hosts are comfortable at the table. - Table manners are mostly common sense. ## 12 Basic Rules in Table Manners 1. **Sit up straight.** - Try not to slouch or lean back in your chair. 2. **Don't speak with your mouth full of food.** - No one likes to see a ball of masticated meat in your mouth. 3. **Chew quietly, and try not to slurp.** - Making noises is not only unappetizing and distracting, but it can also interrupt the flow of conversation. 4. **Keep bites small.** - It is smart to keep bite sizes to a moderate forkful. 5. **Eat at a leisurely pace.** - It is good for the digestion. - It shows your host that you want to enjoy the food and the company. 6. **Don't wave utensils in the air, especially knives or if there is food on them.** - You might knock over glasses, pierce waiters, or launch a pea into the eye of your date. 7. **Keep your elbows off the table.** - Elbows take up table space and can be a danger in knocking plates or glasses. - Elbows on the table give you something to lean on and tend to lull you into slouching. 8. **Don't Reach.** - Not only is it impolite, but there is always the possibility of upsetting glasses or running your sleeve through someone’s mashed potatoes. 9. **Don't forget “please” and "thank you".** - These are handy words in most situations, but especially vital at the table where common courtesies are noticed by everyone present. 10. **Excuse yourself when leaving the table.** - You don't want people to think that you are tired of their company. - If you must leave the table, make your excuses somewhat obvious and appear to be pressing. 11. **Compliment the Cook.** - Even if the food is perfectly awful, say something nice. - You don't have to lie, simply find the positive side of the burnt food. - It is always pleasant to end a meal on a positive note. 12. **Wipe your mouth with your napkin.** - Ever notice that disgusting smudge on the edge of your glass? This can be avoided by first wiping your lips with your napkin. ## Lesson Objectives - To learn the table manners - To practice using lesson vocabulary ## Lesson Vocabulary | Nouns | Expressions | |---|---| | Dessert | To sit up straight | | Dinner | To eat with one's fingers | | Soup | To put one's elbows on the table | | Dinner Fork | To talk with one's mouth full | | Salad | To lick one's fingers | | Butter | | | Dinner Plate | | | Napkin | | ## Setting the Table - You should put a knife to the right of the plate. ## Fill in the Blanks Fill in the blanks with *should/shouldn't* 1. You __should__ wash your hands before eating. 2. You __should__ sit up straight. 3. You __should__ place your napkin on your lap. 4. You __shouldn't__ eat with your fingers. 5. You __shouldn't__ put your elbows on the table. 6. You __should__ ask for something to be passed to you. 7. You __shouldn't__ put your dirty knife, spoon on your table. 8. You __shouldn't__ talk with your mouth full. 9. You __shouldn't__ lick your fingers. 10. You __should__ say "Thank you" after the meal. # Definition - Etiquette simply means how to behave in various situations, it relates to a code of behavior among people within an organization group or society. - Includes knowing respecting people's customs and traditions, observing certain behavior, actions in a group & appropriate manners # Difference between Etiquette and Manners - Etiquette refers to expected social norms and behaviors in specific situations. - Manners are more general, referring to respectful and considerate behavior in all situations. # Importance of Etiquette in Daily Life - Help you to earn respect - Charm your personality - Help to smoothen out relationships - Increase your confidence - Keep you happy and motivated - Impart strength to digest failure. # Do's and Dont's | **Do's** | **Don't's**| |---|---| | Speak loudly and clearly | Don't use cell phones or phones that pick up background noise | | Ask for input by using a person's name | Don't assume everyone recognizes your voice | | Do learn to use the mute button | Don't allow the topic to wander | | Do get comfortable with the fact you will be talking in front of a group and receiving no visual cues or feedback | Don't shuffle papers, scrape chairs, pencil tap, hum or other distracting, noisy activities | | Do use the right phone in a quiet, undisturbed room | If you don’t have anything to add, don’t add anything | | Do make use of guest speakers | Don't leave the conference on MUTE and go for short breaks | # Dining Etiquette - Elbows never on the table - Speak softly to those nearest to you - Thank the waiter only once or twice - Tip well - Enquire from the host/hostess about dress code for the function invited - Men should assist ladies to be seated by pulling out the chair # Office Etiquette - First impressions are important. - Always act with honesty and dignity. - Wear appropriate office attire. - The essence of good manners and etiquette is to be respectful and courteous at all times and with everybody. - Treat your co-workers, cleaners, maintenance people, and others with respect and courtesy. - Show respect for each others workspace. Knock before entering. - Apologies if you are clearly in the wrong. If in doubt, apologize anyway.