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# The Challenging Group Member ## Introduction - It is rare to encounter a client who does not present a challenge in group therapy. - The client's challenges are the therapeutic opportunities. - Each client has unique concerns. - The goal is to equip the therapist with a strategy to address these...

# The Challenging Group Member ## Introduction - It is rare to encounter a client who does not present a challenge in group therapy. - The client's challenges are the therapeutic opportunities. - Each client has unique concerns. - The goal is to equip the therapist with a strategy to address these challenges. ## The Monopolist ### Characteristics - The monopolist is a person who feels compelled to chatter incessantly, often becoming anxious when silent. - They use various techniques to dominate conversations: - Rushing in during silences. - Responding to every statement. - Gossiping. - Presenting irrelevant online or social media stories. - Assuming the role of an interrogator. - Describing conversations in detail. - Some have a dramatic flair and present major life upheavals demanding attention. ### Impact on Group Therapy - The honeymoon phase is short-lived, as the group soon feels frustrated and angry. - This creates a tense, guarded environment where members who are not assertive may smolder quietly or make indirect attacks. - Oblique attacks on the monopolist only exacerbate the problem. - The monopolist's anxiety increases when they sense growing resentment in the group. - Unresolved tension leads to group disruption: - Absenteeism. - Dropouts. - Fighting. - Divisive subgrouping. - When the group confronts the monopolist, it is often explosive and brutal, often supported by the other members. - The monopolist may then sulk, become silent, or leave the group. - This approach is not therapeutic for either the client or the group. ### Therapist's Role - Avoid silencing the client or using authoritative measures to stop the monopolist. This does not solve the underlying dynamics. - Encourage the group to provide empathic feedback about the impact of the monopolist's behavior. - Link this feedback to the client's therapy goals, helping them to understand the confrontation as an opportunity for growth. - Recognize that: - The monopolist represents a dynamic equilibrium with a group that permits or encourages the behavior. - Other members may benefit from seeing the pattern of behavior. ## The Silent Client ### Characteristics - The silent client is less disruptive than the monopolist but equally challenging. - They may profit silently from vicarious engagement in therapy through identifying with other members. - They rarely engage in the group although they may show changes in behavior outside the group. ### Impact on Group Therapy - The silent member may become an object of projection for the group, as they may be seen as sitting in judgment. - They do not profit significantly from the group; those who self-disclose slowly may never catch up to the rest of the group and achieve minimal gains. - They reinforce their pathogenic beliefs and assumptions. ### Therapist's Role - Encourage the group to provide empathic feedback to the silent client. - Link this feedback to the clients therapy goals, helping them to see the group as an opportunity for growth. - Recognize that: - Silent members may be relieved at not having to speak. - They may avoid disclosure to protect themselves or out of fear of being attacked. - They may enjoy being a member of the victimized group. - Their silence may be a consequence of various personal factors, such as: - A history of trauma. - A past where their emotional expression was discouraged. - Fear of competition or of being attacked. - Their silence is a form of behavior with meaning in the here-and-now. - It is essential to explore the meaning of the behavior. - The silent member must be included by commenting on nonverbal behavior. - It is important to differentiate between a transient state of silence and a more enduring trait. ## The Boring Client ### Characteristics - The boring client presents as bland, shy, empty, or inhibited. - They often lack spontaneity and are massively inhibited. - They scan the faces of other members and scan the faces of other members for approval. - Their utterances are predictable and safe. - They may be: - Silent. - Stilted and hyperrational. - Timid and self-effacing. - Dependent or demanding. - They often have limited access to emotions – their thinking dominates feeling and they lack imaginative capacity. ### Impact on Group Therapy - The boring client may present as alexithymic, which impacts their ability to engage with emotions. - This makes them difficult to treat in individual therapy and they require considerable time to engage with emotions in group therapy. - The lack of emotional responsiveness makes them more susceptible to medical and psychosomatic illness. ### Therapist's Role - Recognize that the boring client re-creates their problems in the group. - Work to encourage spontaneity in the group, pushing them to take risks and share fantasies or personal stories. - Recognize that : - The boring client may be avoiding confrontation with other members. - They may be afraid of retaliation. - Their behavior stems from a need to control or avoid being influenced. - Their boringness stems from fear or an inability to express needs and boundaries. - The boring client often has a core dependent position, and they may dread rejection and abandonment. - They may confuse aggression with self-assertion. - Their behavior derives from fear of rejection or abandonment. ## The Help-Rejecting Complainer ### Characteristics - The help-rejecting complainer (HRC) presents problems and then rejects help offered. - They focus on the therapist, attempting to elicit intervention or advice while ignoring other members. - They often appear beleaguered, portraying their problems as insurmountable. - They feel more in need of aid than other members or attempt to belittle other members' complaints. - They tend to exaggerate their problems and blame others. ### Impact on Group Therapy - The HRC is frustrating for other members, making them feel helpless or disengaged. - There is a sense of impotence as the group feels powerless in their attempts to help. - The group is vulnerable to: - Cohesiveness being undermined. - Members' disengagement. - Frustration. - The group is prone to: - Overtly or indirectly rejecting the help offered. - Acting upon the advice but failing to see improvement in their situation. - Feeling exasperated and confused. ### Therapist's Role - Recognize that the HRC presents a dynamic equilibrium with a group that permits the behavior. - Use direct confrontation with the client and encourage the group to do the same. - Help the client to see their behavior as a projection of their fears and anxieties. - Recognize that: - The HRC experiences a vicious cycle of seeking help and being disappointed. - This behavior often stems from a combination of anxious and avoidant attachment styles. - The HRC often attempts to control the group and the therapist. - Treatment of the HRC requires a different tact than a silent or a boring client. - It is essential to build a strong therapeutic alliance with the client. - Countertransference management is critical. ## The Acutely Psychotic Client ### Characteristics - The acutely psychotic client is typically admitted to a group already in treatment and decompensates due to environmental stress, medication mis-use, or unrecognized mental illness. ### Impact on Group Therapy - The development of the group is disrupted, as the psychotic client demands an inordinate amount of time. - It is difficult to help other members when the group is preoccupied with the psychotic client. - There is a risk of the group developing a culture of fear and anxiety around the client. - The psychotic client can become the focus of the group as the other members seek comfort in their relative stability. ### Therapist's Role - Recognize that: - The therapist must be observant and sensitive to the client's needs. - It is important to differentiate between an episode and a more enduring trait. - The group can be a valuable resource for facilitating the client's recovery. - It is essential to avoid a "rescue" scenario. - The therapist should take a Socratic approach and encourage empathy towards the client. ## The Schizoid Client ### Characteristics - The schizoid client demonstrates: - Poor interpersonal skills. - Social awkwardness. - Social isolation. - Difficulties in reading social cues. - Challenges in processing and expressing emotions. - A wish for connection. - They may have a limited capacity for empathy. - They experience a profound sense of loneliness. ### Impact on Group Therapy - The schizoid client often misunderstands the responses of other members, due to their different emotional landscape. - They may convey their emotional isolation through what they say, or more often, don't say. - They may avoid interaction or dismiss the feelings of others. - The schizoid client may not take risks and they may avoid anything that might give them more direct exposure to emotions. - They may feel guilty and responsible for the feelings triggered by their lack of emotional responsiveness. ### Therapist's Role - Recognize that: - They have a unique view of the world. - Their problems can be addressed through therapy. - It is essential to move at a slower pace with this type of client. - The therapist should: - Focus on helping clients learn new skills. - Encourage the client to develop and express emotions through empathy and emotional support. - Help them to be present with and reflect on their internal experience. - Help the group to create a safe space for emotional exploration. - Reassure the client that it's okay to be in the group. - Be more assertive and less prone to over-reacting. - It's helpful to: - Use here-and-now techniques. - Encourage the client to identify the emotions of other members. - Encourage the client to express the feelings they avoid. - Encourage the client to move from their safety zone. - Be patient and persistent in promoting emotional engagement. ## The Characterologically Difficult Client - These clients are often referred to group therapy when individual therapy has failed or reached a plateau. - This category includes the borderline client and the narcissistic client. - These clients may have a history of: - Trauma. - Abuse. - Difficult childhoods. - Family dysfunction. - They have difficulties: - With interpersonal relationships. - With emotional regulation. - With impulse control. - With their understanding of self and others. - These individuals typically: - Split the world into black and white. - Have poor affect regulation. - Often have PTSD comorbidities. - May experience a complex PTSD, due to the combined impact of trauma and personality disorders. ## The Borderline Client ### Characteristics - The borderline client generally has a wide range of impairment and struggles to integrate with established mental constructs. - They may have brief psychotic episodes. - They experience extreme emotional and interpersonal instability. - They often: - Have a great deal of difficulty within an individual therapy setting. - Experience issues with transference and countertransference. - They often act out, experience self-harm, and exhibit drug abuse. - They are often highly sensitive to separation and may have separation anxiety. ### Impact on Group Therapy - The borderline client can add benefit and difficulty to the group. - They can enrich the emotional experience of others. - They may be the most faithful member of the group. - They are highly vulnerable to splitting. - They require a long course of treatment. - The therapist must be sensitive and empathic. - The group is often a helpful resource, as it allows for greater stability and a sense of belonging for the client. ### Therapist's Role - Recognize that: - It is important to manage expectations appropriately. - It is essential to use co-therapy. - It is important to keep the group members informed. - The therapist must be prepared for the possibility of the client splitting from the therapist or the group. - Reassurance against abandonment is critical. - Individual therapy is valuable, but group therapy is also needed. - The therapist needs to acknowledge the impact of the client's trauma on the group. ## The Narcissistic Client ### Characteristics - The narcissistic client often presents with: - Grandiosity. - A need for admiration. - A lack of empathy. - Brittle self-esteem. - Anger and outrage at any perceived slight. - They have difficulty recognizing the worth of other people. - They may be very self-absorbed and lack insight into their own behavior. - They may have difficulty acknowledging feedback that is not positive. ### Impact on Group Therapy - The narcissistic client can be a demanding and frustrating group member. - The group may be overwhelmed by the need to meet the client's needs. - The narcissistic client may: - Be resistant to being seen as "one of the group". - Feel threatened by the group's cohesiveness. - Be easily triggered and defensive. - Be reluctant to accept the reality testing offered by the group. ### Therapist's Role - Recognize that: - The narcissistic client needs guidance and support. - They may be willing to work in a group. - The client can benefit from the reality testing provided by the group. - The therapist should be careful not to dismiss or patronize the client. - The group must offer honest and caring confrontation, as opposed to retaliation. - Group therapy may be an asset to the narcissistic client, but they are often difficult to manage in a group. ## Conclusion - The major task for the group therapist is to help clients with characterologically difficult issues to gain the capacity to be present and to be more connected to the emotions and feelings of themselves and other members. - It is important to recognize the importance of: - A safe and supportive group environment. - The therapist's own countertransference. - A shared sense of ownership of the problem. - Building a strong therapeutic alliance. - Using co-therapy. - Supportive, compassionate confrontation. - Providing reality-testing, especially for borderline clients. - Being alert for the possibility of a client becoming a scapegoat. - Using group therapy with clients that are not able to benefit from individual therapy. - Keeping in mind that different clients require different approaches. - Being flexible and adaptable. - Recognizing the importance of a sensitive and supportive approach to all these clients. - Acknowledging the value of group therapy for these clients. - Understanding the limitations of group therapy for these clients. - Balancing the needs of the group with the needs of the individual. The group is a rich therapeutic resource for all these clients, as long as the therapist is sensitive and experienced. The therapist must be aware of the challenges and opportunities presented by these clients, and must be prepared to work with them in a compassionate and supportive manner.