Understanding The Self PDF

GE UNDERSTANDING 111 CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. THE SELF Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna SOCIETY AND CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. THE SELF Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  “Who am I?” This must be one of the most frequent asked questions in the...

GE UNDERSTANDING 111 CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. THE SELF Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna SOCIETY AND CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. THE SELF Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  “Who am I?” This must be one of the most frequent asked questions in the modern Western world. On the surface this is a deceptively easy question, but if there is one thing we ought to know it is our own self; who we are SOCIETY AND THE SELF  What we want to investigate is the idea of social individuality. This does not mean that each one of us is not an individual self, we clearly are: rather, this is how the self is formed in social relations with others and how it is through them and relation to others that we answer SOCIETY ANDthe question THE SELF “who am I?”  Most of the book is devoted to the debates about the self that have dominated the social and human sciences; the various ways in which sociologists, philosophers, and the social psychologists have addressed the question of the self in contemporary world. SOCIETY AND THE SELF SELF IDENTITY CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  Self identity is the way you look at yourself and your relationship to the world. Self identity makes us understand yourself. Self identity is composed of relatively permanent self-assessments, such as personality attributes, one’s occupation and hobbies, awareness of one’s physical SELF IDENTITY attributes.  The self identity is not restricted to the present. It includes past selves and future selves. Future selves represent individuals’ ideas of what they might become, what they would like to become, and what they are afraid of becoming. SELF IDENTITY  They correspond to hopes, fears, standards, goals and threats. Possible selves may function as incentives for future behavior and they also provide an evaluative and interpretative context for the current view of self. SELF IDENTITY  Each person is unique to them, and no one is perfect. In fact most people do not have a clear and conscious understanding of what they are. SELF IDENTITY  Yourself identity is surrounded by your boundary which filters both outward and inward experience you have to the world. SELF IDENTITY  As the life experiences come around you make decisions based on your boundaries, it increases your sense of self esteem and makes a stronger character of which you are in yourself identity. You are able to clearly define the limits of the extent of your control on self. SELF IDENTITY  THE CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. SELF Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  The central nucleus around which the personality develops is the self. The self is an organization within the individual which is unique and continuing. The self is a matter of experience or an object of knowledge. THE SELF  You may also describe yourself as to the physique, intelligence, social skills, attitudes and belief systems or in simple way, the self is a point between past and future, and it also includes unconscious components. THE SELF ANALYSIS OF CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. THE SELF Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  The term “self” has been used in many different ways which are given as: ANALYSIS OF THE SELF  1. Bodily Sense: The image if one’s body, of one’s muscular movements, as in sports, of one’s agility or clumsiness, etc. These form a continuing core around which the embryonic self can develop, and this is an important component of self. ANALYSIS OF THE SELF  2. Self-identity: “I remember my thoughts and actions of yesterday, and of years ago; consciously I am aware of and believe in my continuity. Subjectively, I am certain that I am a continuing unity. ANALYSIS OF THE SELF  3. Ego Enhancement: Most, of the people show pride, selfishness, narcissism, and self-love. There is an almost universal tendency for the individual to strive to become more important, to be the center of attention, ANALYSIS OF THE SELF  to be observed and respected. ANALYSIS OF THE SELF  4. Ego Extension: Each self begins to attach to itself physical possessions (my home is part of my ego), social groups (my church, labor union, my nation) a profession and other belongings. An attack on one of these is perceived as an attack on the self. ANALYSIS OF THE SELF  5. Self-image: The self as seen by itself, the person’s phenomenal or conscious self. Even this may be subdivided into one’s image of himself as he “really” is, and his ideal self-image, that which he would like to be. ANALYSIS OF THE SELF  6. Self-oriented Striving: It refers to the intensely motivated effort involved in self-expression and also includes the people who voluntarily accept pain and discomfort in pursuit of a dream. ANALYSIS OF THE SELF ASPECTS OF CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. INNER SELF Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  Turning inward is the self knowledge and it is being in touch with the world through our senses so that you have a clear picture of yourself in the world. ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  THE WAYS OF INNER SELF DEVELOPMENT ARE GIVEN AS: 1. The inputs of your senses. 2. Your thoughts- those you have experience and those you generate ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  3. Your feeling- what you feel now, and what you have felt at other times. -how sure you are with your feelings -uncertainty of feeling ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  4. Your memories- what you recall of your life and work ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  5. Your visions- products of your imagination, what you create. ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  6. Your assumptions- the concepts about yourself, others, and the world that you believe to be true ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  7. Your values- the attitudes, behavior, and convictions that you consider important and use to guide your life ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  8. Your intuition- what you sense to be true even without evidence to support you. ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  9. Belief- what you believe about the mysteries of life that are difficult to answer. ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  There is no upper limit to practice for any of them, even something as simple as listening. And as we enhance our experience of ourselves, the same process is developing who we are. ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  Remember to be aware of any discomfort you feel when you are working with your inner self. We cannot, and do not take any responsibility for what you will actually experience because people are all so different. ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF  Stop and if necessary, seek professional help. ASPECTS OF THE INNER SELF SELF DEVELOPMENT CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. STRATEGIES Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  The self development strategies are divided into eight categories, which cover all the quadrants of living: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical (actions) SELF-DEVELOPMENT  These areas are not completely discreet and separate, but overlaps each other which are given as: SELF-DEVELOPMENT SELF-DEVELOPMENT  1. Self Acceptance: It means understanding who you are and accepting your faults. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  It is only after you begin to accept yourself that you can begin to change and grow into the person you want. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  Self acceptance also means accepting the level and pace of your growth, and giving yourself permission to be you, and permission to fail. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  Self awareness forms a large part of self acceptance as you develop. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  2. Self Respect- Self Respect means taking care of yourself and treating yourself right. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  This includes not just the actions you take but also how you talk to yourself. You’re going to be talking to yourself, feeding yourself image and subconscious with messages of who you are. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  3. Self Esteem- It is the value you place yourself. Recognizing and affirming that you are good enough, worthwhile and valuable. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  4. Self Belief- It means trusting yourself and having faith in your judgment, skills, and yourself as a person. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  5. Self Love- Self love means if you are falling in love, a large proportion of that is the same with confidence. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  Confidence and happiness are usually synonymous, just like a love is a powerfully positive and blissful emotion. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  Loving yourself includes liking yourself SELF-DEVELOPMENT  6. Self Assurance- This is being aware of your purpose and being one to validate yourself rather than looking at others to validate us is a major part of self assurance. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  A difference between self assurance and self belief is a kin. Self assurance just knows that you’ll succeed at what you do; self belief knows that regardless of the outcome, you’ll be okay. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  Both are necessary and complimentary. Self belief is what keeps you going: self assurance is what gets you there. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  7. Self Determination- It is freedom and total control of your reality. With Self Determinism, you are the ultimate authority in your life, deciding what your values and beliefs are, and then acting in accordance with them. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  You make the rules of your own reality. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  8. Self Admiration- The word admiration over pride because of the negative consequence usually associated with the word. SELF-DEVELOPMENT  It’s okay to be proud of who you are, to acknowledge and celebrate the great things you’ve done. SELF-DEVELOPMENT STEPS TO DETOXIFY INNER SELF CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  1. Compose yourself Psychotherapists recommend a breathing exercise to compose oneself coming from any stressful situation STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR  “Take five deep breaths, holding each one to a count of five before releasing it. Clear your thoughts completely and repeat to yourself”. STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR  Even one deep breath helps us to change our attitudes. It is just like gaining some courage when we breathe deeply and spewing out the fear when we breathe out. STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR  2. Make a personal inventory You can ask yourself these questions and make list in a notebook: -What are the things that bother me often? STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR  3. Explore self-acceptance These are many facets in our life where we know we perform our worse. Yet, this is not a pleasant thing to face, we deny it to ourselves. So these parts of ourselves are often neglected and are not STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR  4. Throw out unnecessary things Ask we make our personal inventory and explore self acceptance, there is a lot of clutter that we carry deep inside of us STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR  These are things that are useless, old and unnecessary. They could be: -Reminiscing old relationships that turned sour -Regrets and resentments -Unnecessary tastes. STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR  5. Self-denial The last step to inner self detoxify would be setting out oneself back into the real world and practice a pinch of mortification that is, self- control in small and even trivial matters. STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR  6. Moving on Going through this, I have developed a healthier inner self and enabled me to move higher in the path to self-improvement STEPS TO DETOXIFY YOUR SELF CONCEPT CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  Self Concept is the image of us and how someone thinks about, evaluates or perceives themselves. Self-image is influenced by our interactions with important people in our lives. SELF CONCEPT  Self-concept is our perception or image of our abilities and our uniqueness. At first, one’s self- concept is very general and changeable and as we grow these self-perceptions become much more organized, detailed, and specific SELF CONCEPT  A self-concept is a collection of beliefs about one’s own nature, unique qualities, and typical behavior so we may say self-concept is our mental picture of our self. SELF CONCEPT  It is a collection of self-perception. For example, a self-concept includes such beliefs as “I am pretty” or “I am hard working.: Such belief is called self-concept. SELF CONCEPT  1. The Existential Self This is the basic part of the self- scheme of self-concept; it separate and distinct from others and the awareness of the constancy of the self SELF CONCEPT  The child realizes that they exist as a separate entity from others and they continue to exist over time and space and begins as young as two to three months old. SELF CONCEPT  2. The Categorical Self The child realizes that they exist as a separate experiencing being, after that child become aware that he or she is also an object in the world just as other objects SELF CONCEPT  including people have properties that can be experienced (big,small, red, smooth and so on). The self can also be put into categories such as as age, gender, size or skill. SELF CONCEPT GE UNDERSTANDING 111 CARD-MRI Development Institute, Inc. THE SELF Brgy. Tranca, Bay, Laguna  In the course of your existence, what has been the greatest existential crisis that you had encountered? How did you cope up with it? WRITTEN ACTIVITY 3