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The Importance of Speaking from a Clean Place

• People who suffer injustice may become perpetrators of injustice if they don't become fighters for justice.

• It is important to not let past hurt prevent the expression of one's soul.

• The In Search of More podcast is hosted by Ellie Nash and focuses on personal growth.

• The conversation revolves around the concept of speaking from different parts of oneself, such as the higher and lower self.

• Some people are more sensitive to authenticity and being authentic, while others may be on autopilot and unaware of how they are showing up in interactions.

• The format of a podcast lends itself more to being authentic and speaking from a clean place.

• The stakes of every interaction, such as a therapist with a patient or a coach with a client, can be very high for the person seeking guidance.

• A story is shared about the importance of every single person and the idea that they may be put in the world to do one favor for one person.

• It is challenging to live with the awareness of the stakes of every single thought, speech, and action.

• There is a balance between committing to speaking from a clean place and letting go once in the moment.

• Preparing for a moment, such as a session with a client, is like preparing a custom-made suit, and once the moment arrives, one takes off the suit and is present in the moment.

• Trusting that whatever happens in the moment is perfect is essential.Discussing the Stress of Shabbos and Trauma Responses

• The speaker and the host had a previous conversation that received positive feedback, which motivated the speaker to return for another conversation.

• The speaker believes that sharing ideas from personal experience is more impactful and unique.

• The host usually creates space for guests to share their ideas, but also has a format where he shares his own ideas.

• The conversation transitions to discussing the stress leading up to Shabbos and the peace that comes afterwards.

• The speaker shares that he had a hard time with the stress of Shabbos as a child and didn't like being in those high-intensity environments.

• The host suggests that the stress of Shabbos is like throwing out the baby with the bathwater and that there is a way to establish agreements to make Shabbos less stressful.

• The speaker believes that as parents, it's important to create a peaceful environment before Shabbos to make it a positive experience for children.

• The host relates this to trauma responses and how operating from a place of fear or trauma can cause stress and damage in the long run.

• The speaker and host discuss how trauma responses can also lead to either fighting for justice or perpetrating injustice.

• They agree that trauma responses can send people in either direction and that it's important to find a way to address trauma in a healthy way.

• The host shares his experience working with people in early recovery and how introducing the concept of God can be complicated due to negative associations with religion.

• The conversation ends with a discussion of how trauma can affect people in different ways, and the importance of finding a way to address trauma in a healthy way.Strategies for Maintaining Peace and Overcoming Trauma

• Trauma responses can manifest differently among siblings, even if raised in the same household.

• The internal experience of trauma can be different from the external practice of religion or tradition.

• The journey towards peace does not have to be stressful, and prioritizing peace is necessary for some individuals to avoid danger or addiction.

• Recovery from addiction can lead to a deeper sensitivity and appreciation for Jewish teachings.

• Choosing to stay in the community where one experienced trauma requires adjusting priorities and maintaining peace in the home.

• Suppressing the need to speak up can lead to tension and disengagement in relationships.

• Articulating and confronting fears can help overcome tension and protect loved ones.

• Occupying one's mind with positive thoughts and feelings can actively drive towards desired outcomes.

• The integrity of a story can be maintained while changing details to protect privacy.

• Prioritizing peace in the home can involve letting go of certain expectations and choosing not to engage in conflict.

• Being chill and spontaneous can help maintain a positive relationship with loved ones.

• Prioritizing peace and overcoming trauma is an ongoing process that requires intentional action and self-reflection.The Importance of Identifying and Erasing Limiting Beliefs

• The author discusses the process of erasing limiting beliefs that lead to undesired realities.

• He gives an example of his fear of his daughter getting hurt and him being an inefficient father.

• The process involves identifying the ideas that create stress and erasing them through forgiveness.

• Once forgiveness is achieved, there is an empty space where new ideas can be introduced.

• The author emphasizes the importance of identifying the ideas that lead to undesired behaviors.

• He mentions the Hebrew term for this process is Aveda.

• The author shares his experience of taking proactive actions to cultivate new ideas.

• He emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and taking action to make new ideas true.

• The author discusses the fear of getting hurt and how it can lead to protective measures that limit relationships.

• He shares the importance of taking risks and being the first to take action to build trust and further relationships.

• The author discusses the idea of expressing oneself despite past hurts and not allowing them to limit one's true self.

• He mentions the idea of sharing his own ideas on a separate podcast and the progression of his involvement in his current podcast.