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The Importance of Speaking from a Clean Place

People who suffer injustice may become perpetrators of injustice if they don't become fighters for justice.
It is important to not let past hurt prevent the expression of one's soul.
The In Search of More podcast is hosted by Ellie Nash and focuses on personal growth.
The conversation revolves around the concept of speaking from different parts of oneself, such as the higher and lower self.
Some people are more sensitive to authenticity and being authentic, while others may be on autopilot and unaware of how they are showing up in interactions.
The format of a podcast lends itself more to being authentic and speaking from a clean place.
The stakes of every interaction, such as a therapist with a patient or a coach with a client, can be very high for the person seeking guidance.
A story is shared about the importance of every single person and the idea that they may be put in the world to do one favor for one person.
It is challenging to live with the awareness of the stakes of every single thought, speech, and action.
There is a balance between committing to speaking from a clean place and letting go once in the moment.
Preparing for a moment, such as a session with a client, is like preparing a custom-made suit, and once the moment arrives, one takes off the suit and is present in the moment.
Trusting that whatever happens in the moment is perfect is essential.Discussing the Stress of Shabbos and Trauma Responses
The speaker and the host had a previous conversation that received positive feedback, which motivated the speaker to return for another conversation.
The speaker believes that sharing ideas from personal experience is more impactful and unique.
The host usually creates space for guests to share their ideas, but also has a format where he shares his own ideas.
The conversation transitions to discussing the stress leading up to Shabbos and the peace that comes afterwards.
The speaker shares that he had a hard time with the stress of Shabbos as a child and didn't like being in those high-intensity environments.
The host suggests that the stress of Shabbos is like throwing out the baby with the bathwater and that there is a way to establish agreements to make Shabbos less stressful.
The speaker believes that as parents, it's important to create a peaceful environment before Shabbos to make it a positive experience for children.
The host relates this to trauma responses and how operating from a place of fear or trauma can cause stress and damage in the long run.
The speaker and host discuss how trauma responses can also lead to either fighting for justice or perpetrating injustice.
They agree that trauma responses can send people in either direction and that it's important to find a way to address trauma in a healthy way.
The host shares his experience working with people in early recovery and how introducing the concept of God can be complicated due to negative associations with religion.
The conversation ends with a discussion of how trauma can affect people in different ways, and the importance of finding a way to address trauma in a healthy way.Strategies for Maintaining Peace and Overcoming Trauma
Trauma responses can manifest differently among siblings, even if raised in the same household.
The internal experience of trauma can be different from the external practice of religion or tradition.
The journey towards peace does not have to be stressful, and prioritizing peace is necessary for some individuals to avoid danger or addiction.
Recovery from addiction can lead to a deeper sensitivity and appreciation for Jewish teachings.
Choosing to stay in the community where one experienced trauma requires adjusting priorities and maintaining peace in the home.
Suppressing the need to speak up can lead to tension and disengagement in relationships.
Articulating and confronting fears can help overcome tension and protect loved ones.
Occupying one's mind with positive thoughts and feelings can actively drive towards desired outcomes.
The integrity of a story can be maintained while changing details to protect privacy.
Prioritizing peace in the home can involve letting go of certain expectations and choosing not to engage in conflict.
Being chill and spontaneous can help maintain a positive relationship with loved ones.
Prioritizing peace and overcoming trauma is an ongoing process that requires intentional action and self-reflection.The Importance of Identifying and Erasing Limiting Beliefs
The author discusses the process of erasing limiting beliefs that lead to undesired realities.
He gives an example of his fear of his daughter getting hurt and him being an inefficient father.
The process involves identifying the ideas that create stress and erasing them through forgiveness.
Once forgiveness is achieved, there is an empty space where new ideas can be introduced.
The author emphasizes the importance of identifying the ideas that lead to undesired behaviors.
He mentions the Hebrew term for this process is Aveda.
The author shares his experience of taking proactive actions to cultivate new ideas.
He emphasizes the importance of being true to oneself and taking action to make new ideas true.
The author discusses the fear of getting hurt and how it can lead to protective measures that limit relationships.
He shares the importance of taking risks and being the first to take action to build trust and further relationships.
The author discusses the idea of expressing oneself despite past hurts and not allowing them to limit one's true self.
He mentions the idea of sharing his own ideas on a separate podcast and the progression of his involvement in his current podcast.