Toxicity in online communities

• The author does not think the recipient should rejoin the server due to toxicity.
• The server's toxicity is compared to how the author's cousin's server acted, with both being half white half Asian and involving high schoolers.
• Desel's constant use of "monkey" is unsettling.
• The author is grateful for being forgiven for past terrible remarks.
• The toxicity has progressed from friendly banter to bullying.
• Boz is singled out for non-stop complaining and overall mean and selfish behavior, possibly rubbing off on the recipient.

Time Spent on the Server

• The author feels the recipient spends too much time on the server.
• This could be a misjudgment based on the author's own perspective.
• The author acknowledges being intense about getting work done due to dream roles.
• The author sees the recipient's server activity as "sitting around" playing games.
• The author feels that streaming for a few hours a day and not doing anything else is inefficient.
• The author thinks the server members "don't have lives," but acknowledges they're mostly 20/21 and in school.
• The author regrets spending time in a Discord server playing games at 18/19.

Motivation and Priorities

• The majority of the people in the server have zero drive and motivation
• For the past 4-6 months, the author feels like the server members have been the recipient's priority friends, even more so than the author (5 year best friend)
• Script notes that used to take 2-3 days now take 5-6 asks for reminders
• The recipient seems to have no issue being in the server all day.
• They watch movies but won't read scripts or watch content like "Skeleton Crew," "Creature Commandos," and "Squid Game season 2" after the author explicitly asked them too.
• The author stopped messaging the recipient in January to test if their concerns were valid, and the recipient did not reach out.
• The recipient interacts with the server without issue but doesn't engage with the author, other than one message about the "Baylan Skoll" actor.
• Watching "Train to Busan" with server members was prioritized over other plans with the author.
• The author feels the recipient being close with the server members such as, Boz, and just in general the server environment that is toxic, makes the author frustrated, confused, and worried.
• The author feels Boz, Hyjack, Livi, or Bella have felt more like best friends to the recipient these past few months

Impact on Shared Projects

• The author is considering recasting Shawn in "Second Wind" due to the recipient's lack of availability/engagement.
• The author feels like if they are not even the priority friend, how can the author even count on the recipient to make "Second Wind" a priority.
• The author is concerned about the server being public and the sensitive information shared on it.
• The author feels Emi is an exception and worth the trouble, but for the rest, the author acknowledges that they "just let shit fly" in general chat, on twitter, etc resulting in them feeling unsafe overall.
• The author is strongly considering leaving.
• The server members are labeled as toxic and not doing anything with their lives (aside from being in school).
• The author feels the recipient's effort with the author and "The Girls" has declined while their effort with the Discord and its members has increased.