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Which factor is NOT considered one of the key components of intimacy?
Which factor is NOT considered one of the key components of intimacy?
- Emotional maturity (correct)
- Interdependence
- Commitment
- Shared personal knowledge
According to the Inclusion of Other in the Self (IOS) Scale, what does the degree of overlap between two circles representing 'self' and 'other' signify?
According to the Inclusion of Other in the Self (IOS) Scale, what does the degree of overlap between two circles representing 'self' and 'other' signify?
- The financial stability of the couple
- The degree of perceived closeness (correct)
- The individual's level of self-esteem
- The level of conflict in the relationship
What is emphasized as more important than quantity in relationships needed to fulfill the need to belong?
What is emphasized as more important than quantity in relationships needed to fulfill the need to belong?
- Physical attractiveness
- Social status
- Financial resources
- Quality (correct)
What correlation was found in the Heart-Failure study regarding marital happiness and survival rates after a heart attack?
What correlation was found in the Heart-Failure study regarding marital happiness and survival rates after a heart attack?
According to Bowlby's Attachment Theory, what characterizes ambivalent/anxious attachment?
According to Bowlby's Attachment Theory, what characterizes ambivalent/anxious attachment?
According to Kim Bartholomew's categories of attachment styles in adults, which style is characterized by a desire for emotional intimacy but a fear of rejection?
According to Kim Bartholomew's categories of attachment styles in adults, which style is characterized by a desire for emotional intimacy but a fear of rejection?
According to the discussion, what is the primary function of the sociometer?
According to the discussion, what is the primary function of the sociometer?
How do people with low self-esteem typically react when facing challenges or difficulties in their relationships?
How do people with low self-esteem typically react when facing challenges or difficulties in their relationships?
Which of the following best describes the concept of parental investment in evolutionary psychology?
Which of the following best describes the concept of parental investment in evolutionary psychology?
According to the evolutionary perspective men and women differ in what way?
According to the evolutionary perspective men and women differ in what way?
In regards to attraction and relationship formation, what would the theory of instrumentality propose?
In regards to attraction and relationship formation, what would the theory of instrumentality propose?
According to the research, how does repeated contact or mere exposure typically influence our liking for someone?
According to the research, how does repeated contact or mere exposure typically influence our liking for someone?
What general conclusion is supported by research regarding physical attractiveness?
What general conclusion is supported by research regarding physical attractiveness?
What does it mean when it is suggest men prefer a woman with a waist-to-hip ratio (WHR) of 0.7?
What does it mean when it is suggest men prefer a woman with a waist-to-hip ratio (WHR) of 0.7?
What concept does the Matching Principle suggest in the context of relationship formation?
What concept does the Matching Principle suggest in the context of relationship formation?
What role does selective acceptance play in attraction?
What role does selective acceptance play in attraction?
What is 'perceived similarity' and how does it affect attraction?
What is 'perceived similarity' and how does it affect attraction?
According to the Stimulus-Value-Role Theory, at what stage do partners begin to focus on aspects such as parenting, careers, and house cleaning?
According to the Stimulus-Value-Role Theory, at what stage do partners begin to focus on aspects such as parenting, careers, and house cleaning?
In evaluating potential mates, what three themes are considered across cultures?
In evaluating potential mates, what three themes are considered across cultures?
Which bias involves seeking information that confirms a first impression rather than information that could prove it wrong?
Which bias involves seeking information that confirms a first impression rather than information that could prove it wrong?
According to the research provided, how can one participate in 'relationship-enhancing' behavior?
According to the research provided, how can one participate in 'relationship-enhancing' behavior?
Define 'attributions' in the context of relationships.
Define 'attributions' in the context of relationships.
What is 'relationship enhancing' in relation to attribution and how does it relate to happiness?
What is 'relationship enhancing' in relation to attribution and how does it relate to happiness?
What is the key idea behind the concept of reconstructive memory?
What is the key idea behind the concept of reconstructive memory?
How do Destiny Beliefs affect relationships?
How do Destiny Beliefs affect relationships?
What statement describes someone exhibiting 'self-enhancement'?
What statement describes someone exhibiting 'self-enhancement'?
What happens when you transfer old feelings to new partners, influencing our behaviour and our attitudes towards them?
What happens when you transfer old feelings to new partners, influencing our behaviour and our attitudes towards them?
What defines impression management?
What defines impression management?
What is supplication?
What is supplication?
What is a key conclusion about our perceptions and relational intimacy to others?
What is a key conclusion about our perceptions and relational intimacy to others?
According to the description, what accurately defines encode in the relation to communication with partners?
According to the description, what accurately defines encode in the relation to communication with partners?
From the material, what is Nonverbal sensitivity?
From the material, what is Nonverbal sensitivity?
According to the provided text, what helps relationships develop through systematic changes in communication?
According to the provided text, what helps relationships develop through systematic changes in communication?
What is Kitchen-Sinking in the context of communications?
What is Kitchen-Sinking in the context of communications?
What behaviors describe someone exhibiting 'contempt in the context of a relationship?
What behaviors describe someone exhibiting 'contempt in the context of a relationship?
In Interdependence Theory, what is a 'reward'?
In Interdependence Theory, what is a 'reward'?
How does having a low self-esteem affect one's CLalt?
How does having a low self-esteem affect one's CLalt?
One should do what to satisfy their marriage?
One should do what to satisfy their marriage?
Regarding couple motivation, what is 'approach motivation'?
Regarding couple motivation, what is 'approach motivation'?
According to the Relational Turbulence Model, what is a cause of turbulence in relationships, leading to emotional uncertainty?
According to the Relational Turbulence Model, what is a cause of turbulence in relationships, leading to emotional uncertainty?
How might a secure individual navigate potential turbulence in interdependent relationships?
How might a secure individual navigate potential turbulence in interdependent relationships?
Considering the 'Principle of Lesser Interest,' how does dependence typically impact power dynamics within a relationship?
Considering the 'Principle of Lesser Interest,' how does dependence typically impact power dynamics within a relationship?
In what way does the concept of 'fatal attraction' undermine the idea that 'opposites attract'?
In what way does the concept of 'fatal attraction' undermine the idea that 'opposites attract'?
Drawing upon self-perception theory, how do individuals with a negative self-concept typically respond in their relationships?
Drawing upon self-perception theory, how do individuals with a negative self-concept typically respond in their relationships?
Based on the principles of nonverbal communication, what effect does mirroring or mimicry have on interactions?
Based on the principles of nonverbal communication, what effect does mirroring or mimicry have on interactions?
What distinguishes intimate relationships from more casual associations, as discussed?
What distinguishes intimate relationships from more casual associations, as discussed?
How does satisfying the need to belong influence overall well-being?
How does satisfying the need to belong influence overall well-being?
How might evolutionary pressures have shaped the human need to belong?
How might evolutionary pressures have shaped the human need to belong?
How do attachment styles influence an individual's approach to emotional connections?
How do attachment styles influence an individual's approach to emotional connections?
Based on Kim Bartholomew's research, what differentiates the four categories of attachment styles in adults?
Based on Kim Bartholomew's research, what differentiates the four categories of attachment styles in adults?
According to the theory presented, how is self-esteem influenced by social connections?
According to the theory presented, how is self-esteem influenced by social connections?
What is an example of self-sabotaging behavior in someone with low self-esteem?
What is an example of self-sabotaging behavior in someone with low self-esteem?
How does sexual selection relate to reproductive success?
How does sexual selection relate to reproductive success?
What is a key difference in mating strategies between men and women, based on evolutionary psychology?
What is a key difference in mating strategies between men and women, based on evolutionary psychology?
From an evolutionary perspective, what is the primary concern for men regarding paternity?
From an evolutionary perspective, what is the primary concern for men regarding paternity?
How do the preferred qualities in a partner shift as people age?
How do the preferred qualities in a partner shift as people age?
What is the confirmation bias?
What is the confirmation bias?
What is meant by 'positive illusions' in relationships, and how do they function?
What is meant by 'positive illusions' in relationships, and how do they function?
How does the actor/observer effect influence relationship dynamics?
How does the actor/observer effect influence relationship dynamics?
How do destiny and growth beliefs influence commitment when couples face difficulties?
How do destiny and growth beliefs influence commitment when couples face difficulties?
How does impression management change in intimate relationships compared to interactions with strangers?
How does impression management change in intimate relationships compared to interactions with strangers?
What is the 'interpersonal gap' in communication?
What is the 'interpersonal gap' in communication?
How does nonverbal sensitivity impact relationships, according to the text?
How does nonverbal sensitivity impact relationships, according to the text?
What is the significance of 'kitchen-sinking' in relationship communication, as described in the text?
What is the significance of 'kitchen-sinking' in relationship communication, as described in the text?
According to interdependence theory, what role do the comparison level (CL) and comparison level for alternatives (CLalt) play in determining relationship satisfaction and stability?
According to interdependence theory, what role do the comparison level (CL) and comparison level for alternatives (CLalt) play in determining relationship satisfaction and stability?
According to the discussion, how is dependence on a relationship defined?
According to the discussion, how is dependence on a relationship defined?
As described in the text, what are approach and avoidance motivations in relationships, and how do they influence relationship dynamics?
As described in the text, what are approach and avoidance motivations in relationships, and how do they influence relationship dynamics?
According to the Relational Turbulence Model, how is turbulence characterized in developing interdependent relationships?
According to the Relational Turbulence Model, how is turbulence characterized in developing interdependent relationships?
In the context of communication, what distinguishes an exchange relationship from a communal relationship?
In the context of communication, what distinguishes an exchange relationship from a communal relationship?
How does the concept of equity relate to satisfaction in a relationship?
How does the concept of equity relate to satisfaction in a relationship?
What is the key feature of 'accommodation' as a response to destructive behavior in a relationship?
What is the key feature of 'accommodation' as a response to destructive behavior in a relationship?
What role does the hormone oxytocin play in the experience of love?
What role does the hormone oxytocin play in the experience of love?
According to the love scale, what are the three themes?
According to the love scale, what are the three themes?
What happens when our relational value is lower than we thought in a relationship?
What happens when our relational value is lower than we thought in a relationship?
Which of these definitions accurately describes the definition of ostracism, as described in the material?
Which of these definitions accurately describes the definition of ostracism, as described in the material?
How do the Key Differences describe someone behaving with 'Reactive Jealousy'?
How do the Key Differences describe someone behaving with 'Reactive Jealousy'?
According to the provided material, what are the results of intimate terrorism violence?
According to the provided material, what are the results of intimate terrorism violence?
According to the provided material, what statement describes the 'Churning' in the aftermath of Divorce?
According to the provided material, what statement describes the 'Churning' in the aftermath of Divorce?
What does the social phase publicize in contrast to the dyadic phase during a breakup?
What does the social phase publicize in contrast to the dyadic phase during a breakup?
The PAIR project emphasizes which key point to teaching Long-Term Relationship Education?
The PAIR project emphasizes which key point to teaching Long-Term Relationship Education?
What is the primary cause of divorce according to Parental Stress View?
What is the primary cause of divorce according to Parental Stress View?
Which of the following statements describes 'Derogations of alternatives', as the provided text describes?
Which of the following statements describes 'Derogations of alternatives', as the provided text describes?
What does insight-oriented therapy aim to achieve in couples?
What does insight-oriented therapy aim to achieve in couples?
In the context of the 'Interpersonal Process Model of Intimacy', what condition, in addition to meaningful disclosure, is necessary for genuine intimacy to develop?
In the context of the 'Interpersonal Process Model of Intimacy', what condition, in addition to meaningful disclosure, is necessary for genuine intimacy to develop?
How do 'approach' and 'avoidance' motivations relate to overall relationship satisfaction?
How do 'approach' and 'avoidance' motivations relate to overall relationship satisfaction?
Considering the research on attachment styles and their influence on jealousy, which individual is MOST likely to experience reactive jealousy?
Considering the research on attachment styles and their influence on jealousy, which individual is MOST likely to experience reactive jealousy?
According to the Vulnerability-Stress-Adaptation (VSA) model, how might pre-existing vulnerabilities affect a couple's response to external stressors such as financial difficulties?
According to the Vulnerability-Stress-Adaptation (VSA) model, how might pre-existing vulnerabilities affect a couple's response to external stressors such as financial difficulties?
In understanding relationship distress through the lens of the Enduring Dynamics Model, what would be the primary focus of investigation?
In understanding relationship distress through the lens of the Enduring Dynamics Model, what would be the primary focus of investigation?
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Intimate partners' knowledge
Intimate partners' knowledge
Extensive, personal, and confidential knowledge shared between intimate partners, not revealed to others.
Intertwined lives
Intertwined lives
Term for the interconnectedness of intimate partners, where one's actions affect the other.
Interdependence between intimacies*
Interdependence between intimacies*
Mutual dependency and influence between intimate partners, frequent, strong, diverse, and enduring.
Qualities that make close ties tolerable
Qualities that make close ties tolerable
Qualities making close ties tolerable, including caring, trust, and support.
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Sense of mutuality
Sense of mutuality
Partners recognize their close connection as "us", not just individuals.
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Inclusion of Other in the Self (IOS) Scale
Inclusion of Other in the Self (IOS) Scale
Psychological scale measuring perceived closeness or interconnectedness in relationships.
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The Need to Belong
The Need to Belong
Fundamental human need for close relationships; unmet need leads to problems.
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Quality over quantity
Quality over quantity
Prioritizing quality over quantity in relationships.
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Higher mortality rates
Higher mortality rates
Increased mortality rates among adults with insufficient intimacy.
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Evolutionary adaptation
Evolutionary adaptation
Tendency to form stable, affectionate connections for survival and reproduction.
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Secure attachment
Secure attachment
Attachment style: comfortable with intimacy, trusts others, can depend on and be depended on.
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Ambivalent/anxious attachment
Ambivalent/anxious attachment
Attachment style: fears abandonment, high insecurity, constant need for reassurance
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Avoidant attachment:
Avoidant attachment:
Attachment style: Difficulty with intimacy, self-reliant, tends to distance selves emotionally
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general categories of attachment styles in adults
general categories of attachment styles in adults
General categories of attachment styles for adults
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Self-Esteem
Self-Esteem
Evaluations of ourselves: High indicates favorable judgements, low indicates doubt.
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Sociometer
Sociometer
Subjective gauge measuring relationship quality; influenced by social connections.
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Tend to Overreact
Tend to Overreact
Tendency to overreact in people with low self-esteem.
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Natural Selection
Natural Selection
Process where traits improve survival and reproduction in a specific environment.
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Sexual Selection
Sexual Selection
Process where traits increase chances of attracting a mate, not necessarily survival.
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Intersexual Selection
Intersexual Selection
Preference of one sex (often females) for certain traits in the opposite sex.
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Intrasexual Selection
Intrasexual Selection
Competition among individuals of the same sex for access to mates.
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Adaptive Value
Adaptive Value
Degree to which a trait increases an organism's chances of surviving and reproducing.
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Parental Investment
Parental Investment
Time, energy and resources for offspring to increase their rate of survival and reproduction.
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Paternity uncertainty.
Paternity uncertainty.
He cannot be absolutely certain that the child is his.
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Intimate relationships differs from more casual associations
Intimate relationships differs from more casual associations
Intimate relationships differ from more casual associations in seven specific ways: knowledge, interdependence, caring, trust, responsiveness, mutuality, and commitment.
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People with High Self-Esteem
People with High Self-Esteem
In general, people with a higher level of self-esteem are happier in life than people with low levels.
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Androgynous
Androgynous
A third of us are androgynous and possess both instrumental and expressive traits.
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Fundamental Basis of Attraction
Fundamental Basis of Attraction
We are attracted to others whose presence is rewarding to us.
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Direct Rewards
Direct Rewards
All the evident pleasures people provide us.
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Indirect rewards
Indirect rewards
Kindness, good looks, and pleasant personalities.
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Instrumentality
Instrumentality
The extent to which someone is able to help us achieve our present goals.
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Proximity
Proximity
Relationships are more rewarding when they involve people who are near one another.
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Familiarity: Repeated Contact
Familiarity: Repeated Contact
Repeated contact with– or mere exposure to– someone usually increases our liking for him or her.
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Mere Exposure Effect
Mere Exposure Effect
A psychological phenomenon where people tend to develop a preference for things they are exposed to repeatedly.
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Physical Attractiveness
Physical Attractiveness
We tend to assume that good-looking people are more likable, better people than those who are unattractive.
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Good Looking People
Good Looking People
Tend to make more money and are promoted more often than those with average looks.
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Matching
Matching
Tend to have similar levels of physical attractiveness; that is, their looks are well matched
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Matching Principle
Matching Principle
Suggests that people tend to form relationships with others who are similar to themselves in terms of attractiveness, status, or other characteristics.
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Reciprocity
Reciprocity
Refers to the social norm where we tend to like and feel positively toward those who show that they like or appreciate us.
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Demographic Similarities
Demographic Similarities
Demographic similarities: age, sex, race, education, religion, and social class.
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Attitudes And Values
Attitudes And Values
The more agreement, the more liking. The more similar people are, the more they like each other.
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Stimulus-Value-Role (SVR) Theory
Stimulus-Value-Role (SVR) Theory
Suggests that relationships evolve through three distinct stages: Stimulus, Value, and Role.
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Social Cognition
Social Cognition
A term that refers to all the processes of perception, interpretation, belief, and memory with which we evaluate and understand ourselves and other people.
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Primacy Effect
Primacy Effect
A tendency for the first information we receive about others to carry special weight in shaping our overall impression of them.
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Responsiveness
Responsiveness
The perception that a partner recognizes, understands, and supports our needs/wishes.
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Lack of Belonging
Lack of Belonging
A variety of problems may occur if there is not a human need to belong in close relationships.
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Bowlby's Attachment Theory
Bowlby's Attachment Theory
Shows how early caregiver relationships impact emotional, relational patterns.
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Preoccupied style
Preoccupied style
Another name for ambivalent/anxious attachment which involves a constant need for reassurance.
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Sociometer theory
Sociometer theory
Internal monitor, measuring how valued and accepted we feel by those around us.
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Low Self-Esteem
Low Self-Esteem
Difficulty believing they are 'truly loved' making love feel short-term.
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Different Reproductive dilemmas
Different Reproductive dilemmas
If a man has sex with 100 women, he can perhaps have 100 children. However, if a women has sex with 100 different men, she would probably have just one child.
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Cultural sex ratios
Cultural sex ratios
Cultures with higher sex ratios have more traditional roles for men and women.
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Personality traits
Personality traits
Stable tendencies that characterize people's thoughts, feelings, and behaviour across their whole lives
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Sociometer theory
Sociometer theory
A theory arguing that if others regard us positively, self-esteem is high. But if others do not want to associate with us, self-esteem is low.
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Overconfidence
Overconfidence
We make snap judgements about people that can be incorrect.
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Confirmation bias
Confirmation bias
The tendency to pursue information confirming existing beliefs.
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Idealizing our partners
Idealizing our partners
People judge their lovers with positive illusions that portray their partners in the best possible light.
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actor/observer effects
actor/observer effects
Generating different explanations for your own behaviour than for you partner's behaviour.
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Self-serving bias
Self-serving bias
Attributing success to internal attributes and blaming failures on external.
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Reconstructive memory
Reconstructive memory
How our memories are continually revised and rewritten as new information is obtained.
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Marital Paradigm
Marital Paradigm
A collection of beliefs which are broad assumptions about whether, when, and under what circumstances we should marry.
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Destiny beliefs
Destiny beliefs
Suggests that if two people are meant to be happy, they will know it as soon as they meet; they will not encounter early doubts or difficulties.
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Self-Concept
Self-Concept
A stable set of beliefs and feelings we have about ourselves.
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Self Enhancement
Self Enhancement
The desire for postive, complimentary, feedback.
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Implicit attitudes
Implicit attitudes
Unintentional and unaware associations in our judgements that are evident when our partners come to mind.
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Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence
The ability to know what is going on better through a variety of skill.
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Self-Disclosure
Self-Disclosure
The process of revealing personal information to another person
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Paralanguage
Paralanguage
Vary amongst a person's voice
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Mind reading
Mind reading
Occurs when people assume they understand their partners' feelings and thoughts without asking.
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Yes-Butting
Yes-Butting
Agreeing at first, but negating the point that dismissing it
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Cross-complaining
Cross-complaining
Failing to acknowledge each others' concerns and respond to a complaint with one of your own
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Contempt
Contempt
Showing disrespect or disdain for someone, often through sarcasm, mockery, or insults. It conveys superiority and can be harmful to relationships.
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Belligerence
Belligerence
Aggressive, hostile, or combative behavior, often escalating conflict.
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Social Exchange
Social Exchange
Providing your partner the benefits and rewards that they want.
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Costs
Costs
Punishing and undesirable experiences
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Comparison Level (CL)
Comparison Level (CL)
The value of outcomes that we have come to expect and believe we deserve.
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Comparison level for alternatives (CLalt)
Comparison level for alternatives (CLalt)
Can we do better somewhere else?
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Loss aversion
Loss aversion
Desirable events have less of an emotional impact than undesirable events.
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Approach Motivation
Approach Motivation
The drive or desire to engage in behaviors that lead to positive outcomes or rewards.
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Avoidance Motivation
Avoidance Motivation
Focuses on avoiding negative outcomes, we want to avoid costs.
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Relational turbulence
Relational turbulence
We should expect a period of adjustment and turmoil as new partners become accustomed to their increasing interdependence.
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Equitable Relationships
Equitable Relationships
What is equitable when the ratio of your outcomes is similar to that of your partner?
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Commitment
Commitment
A desire for the relationship to continue and the willingness to work to maintain it.
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Ludus
Ludus
The opposite love of eros, that lacks committment.
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The Nature of Intimacy
- Intimate partners possess vast, personal, and private knowledge about each other that is not shared with many others.
- Intimate partners lifestyles are co-dependent; Actions of one affects the other’s actions and goals..
- Interdependence between intimates correlates to their need and influence to each other, this is frequent, strong, diverse and enduring.
- Qualities of close ties are caring, trust and responsiveness.
- Responsiveness is rewarding because it creates recognition, understanding, and support within the relationship.
- Close ties have a sense of mutuality, where the partners recognize the connection and think of themselves as "us" instead of individuals.
- Intimate partners who are committed expect the partnership to continue without an end date and will invest the necessary time, effort, and resources needed.
Inclusion of Others in the Self (IOS) Scale
- IOS is a psychological scale that calculates the closeness and interconnectedness of an individual and others, typically within a relationships.
- The purpose is to assess of how people perceive their relationship with those closest to them (romantic partners, friends and family).
- The IOS is used to research relationship closeness, intimacy, and relationship quality outcomes.
- The IOS is a series of of overlapping circles, where each diagram best represents how they perceive their relationship with the other person.
- One circle represents the self.
- The other circle represents a significant other.
- Overlapping circles indicates a better sense of inclusion and relationship status.
The Need to Belong
- There is a human need to be in close relationships, when this is not met people experience a variety of problems.
- Meeting the need to belong means people require interaction and communication from others that know and care to maintain a relationship.
- Only a few relationships is needed, quality is better than quantity.
- Being closely connected leads to happier, healthier, and longer lives.
- Holding a partner's hand reduces threat response and pain levels. Wounds also heal faster when support is provided.
- People who are alone are more likely at risk of health problems, along with weaker immune systems and psychological problems. Young adults are more susceptible of catching cold or flu, and anxiety or depression can arise.
- Sufficient intimacy causes higher mortality rates.
- Meeting the need to belong is critical for survival.
- Elderly people have a higher chance of mortality in the first few months after losing a spouse, divorce also increases the risk of early death.
- There is a strong connection and need for others and survival.
- Married men were assessed after being hospitalised for a heart attack in a study by Coyne et al.
- Men in happy marriages had a reported 70% survival rate, while those in unhappy marriages had a reported rate of 45% in the Coyne et al study.
- Throughout history people who were alone were less likely to reproduce children.
- Evolutionary adaptation ensured the need to form stable, affectionate connections were more likely live.
- "‘‘We are wired for close connection with others and this connection is vital to our survival.’’"
- "Human beings need social connections just like we need oxygen, food, and water."
Bowbly’s Attachment Styles
- Bowlby's Attachment Theory explains how relationships with caregivers shape emotional and relationship patterns throughout ones life.
- Attachment Styles reflect how people connect with others in all relationships.
Secure Attachment
- Comfortable with intimacy, trust, able to depend on and be depended on.
- Confident, seek support, and give support in relationships.
Anxious Attachment
- Fear of abandonment, high insecurity, and constant need for reassurance.
- Clingy, dependent, and anxious, will constantly question the stability of the relationship.
Avoidant Attachment
- Difficulty with intimacy, self-reliant, and tends to distance emotionally.
- Avoids closeness, suppresses feelings, and has trouble trusting or depending on others.
- Attachment styles effect emotional connections and manage relationship dynamics.
- Kim Bartholomew suggested 4 general categories of adult attachment styles.
- “It is easy for me to become emotionally close to others. I am also comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me. I do not worry about being alone or having others not accept me.” Secure Attachment Styles.
- “I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like". Preoccupied Attachment Styles/anxious.
- People avoiding intimacy with others as they fear rejection are a fearful attachment style.
- If intimacy with others is not worth it and they prefer to be self sufficient, it is a dismissing style.
- All styles are formed by two underlying themes: avoidance of intimacy and anxiety about abandonment.
Self-Esteem
- Favourable judgements of skill/traits creates high self-esteem, doubting self results in low self-esteem.
- A higher level of self-esteem people are happier than those lower
- Self-esteem is a gauge that measures the quality of our relationships with others by measuring our value/acceptance.
- Strong relationships results in high self esteem.
- Rejection/social exclusion leads to low self-esteem.
- Deeply influenced by social connections and our status within a group.
- Self esteem serves our need to belong.
- Self esteem helps track social status.
- Low self-esteem find difficultly processing people loving them and believe that live will lack.
- Often underestimate their partner's love for them with low self-esteem.
- Low self-esteem people often overreact.
- High self-esteem people seek support when facing struggles because are confident about partner's love for them.
- Low self esteem people withdraw if something goes wrong, to 'protect' themselves.
Sexual Selection, Reproductiveness, and Adaptive Value
- Natural selection is traits that improve survival and reproduction in an environment, also survival & thrive.
- Certain traits raising chance of offspring: advantageous but not beneficial for survival results in sexual selection (Darwin).
- Preference of one sex for certain traits; colorful plumage, displays of strength signals, mate suitability = intersexual selection (Females).
- Contest, dominance displays among the same sex (Males Access = Intrasexual selection).
- Evolution is about reproduction.
- Adaptive value is a trait that increases an organism's chances of reproduction within the environment.
- For example, the long neck of a giraffe has high adaptive value because it allows the giraffe to reach food in tall trees, increasing its chances of survival.
- Evolutionary psychology says that reproductive dilemmas vary with sexes.
- Men engaging with 100 women can make 100 children: men engaging with multiple women.
- A woman having sex with 100 men she only has one child maximum
- Reproductive output varies with genders with limitations being put simply.
- Parental Investment= time/energy/ and resources to one's own offspring to reproduce.
- Selective women are more successful in women over men in sexual selections
- Successful men have more sex in general, with better reproduction in men over women in sexual selections
- Women want someone smart, friendly, prestigious and emotionally stable.
- Men undergo paternity uncertainty (Cannot for sure know that the child is his.)
- Women can have certainty about whether or not a particular child is hers, in terms of evolutionary success.
- Evolutionary has short/long mating strategies-
- Men Like brief affairs more while being ready for sex sooner and with a variety of partners. -Long term they prefer younger attractive wives or look younger than themselves as they age.
- Women focus more on parental investment in males long term and appeal + charismatic dominance for short term
Conclusion
- Intimacy has a dark side but connections are needed because of a social species.
- Adult friendships have romance and differ as a casual association because of knowledge and trust.
- Having affection and intimate partners results in displays of needing to belong.
- Unfulfilled needs leads to adverse consequences
- Fewer people today are marrying and cohabit which makes the chances of divorce likely and dramatically changing.
- The cultural behaviors include economic changes and individualism which contribute to how close you are with your self.
- Higher Sex traits show traditonal roles as a sex traits as well as permissive lower behavior.
- Children who have different caregivers have children having different type of styles in avoidance for abandonment this changes with experiences
- Lay Differences vary on subtle and gradual beliefs although traits are quite small overall
- Men exhibit Instrumental gender traits for dominanace while women exhibit expressivr warm emototions traits in gender traits
Research
- The Self-Esteem in humans results from if we are thpught highly of based on The sciometer theory (self worth is a gauge for connections)
- The underestimation of partner love occurs when there is low self esteem
- In same sex partnership they tend to have greater relations/ equality and respect with less conflict.
Attraction
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Rewarding someone for presence results in more attractive behavior based on type
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Direct Reward- Getting pleasure from someone for actions e.g. better advice or gratification of attention and approval by said person.
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Indirect Rewards- kindness and pleasant personality without consciously knowing
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Eli Frinkel and Paul Eastwick suggested Instrumentality is fundemental and helps fulfill present day goals
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Proximity to those psychologically resultsin attraction for near by/ physcically close people
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Familarizity increases liking over long periods of time, but obnoxoius over time from constant repetiton.
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The idea of one looking attractive results in increased likability
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Ethic background is correlated with how attractive you are
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Good looking people, earn more money, make better impressions in court etc. as well as babies gaga'in at attractive faces than unattractive.
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Facial features are used to measure beauty
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"Baby face has Youthful features, or slight Feminine in guys
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Symmetrical"
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The waist to hip ratio is .07 with hourglass figure.
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For men with a .09 being the ideal shoulders with broad size
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One's scent counts with a good education
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Romance between men has high value for traits that match.
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If you have a low level of attracting with matching principal it can be very hard
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The equation for an appealing partner is the physical/ likeness
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Mate value is very important
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You are rewarded when the other person likes you
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Birds of a feather flock together" or same intreset is important to likeness of people
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Similarities can include age race education social class etc.
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the more you have and agree with someone, you have the more liking overall.
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The traits are agreeable conscientious and emotionally easy to be likeable
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Similarities may or may not mean we like the other perosn
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The stimulus stage of svt suggests what happen when dating can be as simple as age or looks
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The music taste can change You become the perosn i wana be, or adapt when dating some one" trait
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Personailities decline slower to have dissimilar views
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The wants of men and women are similar in the beginning although eventually its as simple as loyalty warmth attraction.
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