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What do 'roots' refer to in the context of Claude Guldner's Six R's of Marriage?

Strategies for maintaining a relationship

Shared responsibilities in the marriage

Creative expressions within the relationship

Family origin and default settings that influence interactions (correct)

According to Martin Whyte, dating experiences have a strong correlation with marital success.

False

What are the primary aspects negotiated within the 'rhythms' of a relationship?

Sharing of space, time, and emotional energy

In Guldner's Six R's, the term ______ refers to the fluctuating power levels in the relationship.

roles Signup and view all the answers

Match the following concepts with their descriptions:

Roots = Family origin and default settings Rhythms = Sharing time and emotional energy Rules = Strategies for daily maintenance of the relationship Rituals = Unique patterns of behavior in a couple's culture Signup and view all the answers

According to Martin Whyte, what is NOT a characteristic of a successful relationship?

Experience with multiple dating partners Signup and view all the answers

In relationships, it is important to discuss issues to ensure the relationship thrives.

True Signup and view all the answers

What should couples check about each other to understand their relational habits?

Each other's roots or family origins Signup and view all the answers

Which psychological task is necessary for a successful marriage?

Building togetherness Signup and view all the answers

The intrapsychic phase occurs when both partners agree to end the relationship.

False Signup and view all the answers

What are the three components of romantic love in Robert Sternberg's Love Triangle theory?

passion, intimacy, commitment Signup and view all the answers

According to Helen Fisher, romantic love can be described as a _______.

drug Signup and view all the answers

Match the love languages with their descriptions:

Words of Affirmation = Verbal acknowledgments like 'I love you' Quality Time = Spending focused time with a partner Acts of Service = Doing helpful tasks for one's partner Physical Touch = Demonstrating care through touch Signup and view all the answers

What is NOT a psychological motivation for romantic love as identified by Helen-Harris?

Emotional independence Signup and view all the answers

Helen Fisher believes that the biological urge to reproduce is unrelated to romantic love.

False Signup and view all the answers

What is the primary phase where partners confront the decision to end the relationship?

dyadic phase Signup and view all the answers

Steve Duck identified that the _______ phase involves reflecting on lessons learned from a previous relationship.

grave-dressing Signup and view all the answers

What practice is suggested to nurture a marriage according to the psychological tasks?

Using humor and laughter Signup and view all the answers

Emotional dependency can lead to problems if there is an interruption in the relationship.

True Signup and view all the answers

What term describes the feeling of being unable to think of anything but a partner due to self-esteem issues?

intrusive thinking Signup and view all the answers

The expanded conscience in a marriage includes _______.

both partners Signup and view all the answers

Match the theorist with their contribution:

Gary Chapman = Types of love languages Robert Sternberg = Love triangle model Helen Fisher = Romantic love as an addiction Helen-Harris = Psychological motivations for love Signup and view all the answers

Study Notes

Claude Guldner's Six R's of Marriage

Roots: Family background influences relationship dynamics. Learn each other's family structures to understand relationship patterns.
Rhythms: Managing time together and apart is essential. Negotiate shared space, time, and emotional energy.
Rules: Daily routines and conflict resolution strategies are key. Establish clear methods for navigating challenges.
Roles: Power dynamics shift. Learn to adjust power levels based on situations to ensure balance and equity.
Relationships: Relationships evolve. Addresses developmental stages and how changes affect couples. Plan issues that will improve and fulfill the relationship needs.
Rituals: Unique behaviours build couple culture. Establish habits that make the relationship enjoyable.

Martin Whyte's Mate Selection Theory

Dating and Marital Success: Extensive dating does not predict marital success. Focus on the individual and not quantity.
Relationship Selection: Dating is not purchasing a car; it requires knowing who you want to marry. Focus on commitment and devotion. Understand this person before marrying them.

Judith Wallerstein's Nine Psychological Tasks for Marriage

Emotional Independence from Family: Separate from family of origin. Fully invest time in the relationship.
Mutual Identification and Intimacy: Build shared identity and intimacy. Broaden awareness to encompass both partners.
Healthy Sexual Relationship: Maintain a rich and pleasurable sexual relationship. Protect it from outside pressures.
Parenthood and Children: Embrace parenthood. Cope with its impact.
Crisis Management: Address life's challenges.
Honest Communication: Create a safe space for open communication.
Humor and Lightheartedness: Use humor to manage stress.
Dependency and Nurturing: Nurture and comfort each other. Support each other's needs.
Sustaining Early Love and Idealization: Maintain the early, romantic ideal of falling in love

Steve Duck's Stages of Relationship Breakdown

Intrapyschic Phase: One partner considers ending the relationship, focusing on negatives.
Dyadic Phase: Attempts to discuss the end or reconciliation with another partner.
Social Phase: Negotiating the end of a relationship publicly.
Grave-Dressing Phase: Recover from the breakup; reflect on lessons learned and adjust.

Gary Chapman's Love Languages

Words of Affirmation: Verbal expressions of love (e.g., "I love you").
Quality Time: Dedicated time together with undivided attention.
Receiving Gifts: Showing appreciation through thoughtful gestures.
Acts of Service: Performing tasks that show care.
Physical Touch: Physical affection (e.g., hugs, holding hands).

Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love

Love Triangle: Romantic love involves the three key aspects of Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment.
Development and Change: These components evolve over time, impacting the nature and strength of romantic relationships.

Helen Fisher's Perspective on Love

Love as an Addiction: Romantic love is a fundamental human urge & universal experience.
Desire to Connect: A biological imperative to create and protect a relationship. Romantic love stems from a need to connect and a fear of loneliness
Idealization: Putting a positive spin on a partner's traits,
Dependency: Emotional reliance on the other person,
Exclusivity: Focusing on one person instead of others;
Reordering Priorities: Shifting priorities from other relationships or jobs based on romantic love's influence.
Intrusive Thoughts: Frequently thinking of the partner.

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Explore Claude Guldner's Six R's of Marriage, which emphasizes understanding family backgrounds, managing rhythms, establishing rules, adjusting roles, nurturing relationships, and creating rituals. Additionally, delve into Martin Whyte's Mate Selection Theory, highlighting the importance of quality over quantity in dating for marital success.