Marriage Prep Midterm 1 Flashcards

Questions and Answers

What is the term for the innate need and desire within each person to depend on and feel connected to others?

Amae

What does the phrase 'freedom through emotional security' mean?

Freedom for those things instead of freedom from things/rejection of dependency

Describe the concept of belonging.

Self-Worth through: Belonging & Security

What common factors of marriage success are related to personal security?

Personal security Signup and view all the answers

What are the key aspects of our true identity?

Divine heritage, divine nature, & divine destiny Signup and view all the answers

What is the difference between worth and worthiness?

Worth is infinite and cannot be enhanced or diminished, while worthiness is based on behavior. Signup and view all the answers

Identify several false foundations of self-esteem that are common today.

Confusing worth with worthiness, influence of past experiences, counterfeit sources of self-worth Signup and view all the answers

What common factors of marriage success are related to mature love?

Mature love Signup and view all the answers

What are Fowers' Four Marital Virtues?

Friendship, Fairness, Generosity, Loyalty Signup and view all the answers

What features of forgiveness are needed to benefit relationships?

Letting go of offenses and transformation of motivation Signup and view all the answers

What does empathetic listening involve?

Listening and understanding are prioritized over being articulate. Signup and view all the answers

List the 8 ways to be a better listener.

Stop talking, put the speaker at ease, pay attention to nonverbal language, listen for what is not said, know what the speaker is saying, be patient, hold your temper, empathize with the speaker. Signup and view all the answers

What is the meaning of clear-sending communication?

Say what we mean and mean what we say while respecting others. Signup and view all the answers

What does authenticity refer to in relationships?

Being genuine and not fake, deceptive, or pretending. Signup and view all the answers

What do 'Sending Errors' & 'Receiving Errors' refer to?

Love languages Signup and view all the answers

What describes I-statements?

Describe your ideas and feelings without a judgmental tone. Signup and view all the answers

Describe styles of ineffective and poor listening.

Persuasive listening looks for openings to control the conversation; directive listening attempts to channel the conversation but may not truly understand. Signup and view all the answers

What is meant by the institutional nature of marriage?

Marriage is a divine means and end. Signup and view all the answers

What are the three views of marriage?

Divine Institution Signup and view all the answers

Explain what it means to say that marriage is a divine institution.

An institution established by God with divinely decreed laws and practices. Signup and view all the answers

What are the three pillars of eternity?

Creation, Fall, Atonement. Signup and view all the answers

Describe the nature of eternal life and eternal families.

Eternal life is about lifestyle and family, emphasizing that family is central to God's plan. Signup and view all the answers

What are the three Grand Prizes of mortal life?

Receive a physical body, progress and grow spiritually, form an eternal marriage and family. Signup and view all the answers

How does discipleship influence marriage?

It helps overcome fears about getting married and provides spiritual guidance. Signup and view all the answers

How is faith a relationship principle?

Faith focuses on your relationship with your Savior. Signup and view all the answers

Describe how repentance is a relationship principle.

It involves acknowledging sins of omission and supporting each other in changing. Signup and view all the answers

What distinguishes a hireling spouse from a shepherd spouse?

A hireling does the minimum, while a shepherd invests fully in the relationship. Signup and view all the answers

What does 'Want to' signify in a relationship?

Interpersonal commitment. Signup and view all the answers

What does 'Have To' signify in a relationship?

Institutional commitment. Signup and view all the answers

How does a covenant differ from a contract?

A covenant is eternal and binding, whereas a contract is easily broken. Signup and view all the answers

What is the doctrine of cleaving?

To remain attached and devoted to one's spouse. Signup and view all the answers

What is spousal preeminence?

The principle that a spouse is to be prioritized above all others, including children. Signup and view all the answers

What does it mean to create a marital identity?

Establishing a home independent of parents. Signup and view all the answers

What is the patriarchal priesthood?

It is passed down from father to son as a family order of government. Signup and view all the answers

What are the four primary domains in the ecology of marriage?

Family of origin, personal readiness, couple processes, social context. Signup and view all the answers

Explain intergenerational transmission.

Transmitting lifestyle beliefs and behaviors from one generation to the next. Signup and view all the answers

What is a transitional character?

One who changes the entire course of their lineage. Signup and view all the answers

What are the health benefits of marriage?

Live longer, less illness, happier life, better mental health. Signup and view all the answers

What is the difference between a 'finding approach' and a 'becoming approach' to marriage?

'Finding approach' focuses on finding the right person, while 'becoming approach' focuses on becoming ready for a relationship. Signup and view all the answers

Study Notes

Institutional Nature of Marriage

Divine Means: Method or mechanism to achieve a goal within marriage.
Divine End: The ultimate purpose or objective of marriage relationships.

Views of Marriage

Recognized as a Divine Institution, Social Institution, and Couple Relationship.

Marriage as a Divine Institution

Sacred system established by God, with laws designed to fulfill divine purposes for individuals and families.

Three Pillars of Eternity

Creation, Fall, Atonement: Seen as ongoing processes relevant to family life, emphasizing personal spiritual growth.

Nature of Eternal Life and Families

Eternal life reflects our lifestyle and family life, emphasizing the importance of eternal marriages as part of heavenly existence.

Grand Prizes of Mortal Life

Obtaining a physical body, spiritual progress, and forming eternal marriages and families.

Influence of Discipleship on Relationships

Discipleship empowers individuals to overcome doubts and fears about marriage, nurturing both inspiration and capability.

Faith as a Relationship Principle

Faith is fundamentally about the relationship with the Savior rather than self-reliance.

Repentance within Relationships

Focuses on ongoing personal growth and mutual support in overcoming shortcomings as a couple.

Becoming vs. Doing

Doing: Mechanical actions in relationships; Becoming: Genuine transformation towards Christ-like qualities as partners.

Marriage as an Ordinance

Sacred acts performed with priesthood authority, establishing solemn covenants with God.

Marriage as a Covenant

A binding promise made with God that invites divine blessings.

Divine Triangle of Marriage

Illustrates the relationship dynamics between God and spouses, emphasizing commitments made to each other and God.

Parable of the Good Shepherd in Marriage

Emphasizes the roles of spouses as protectors in marriage, nurturing love while guarding against outside threats.

Shepherd vs. Hireling Spouse

Hireling: Minimal engagement, self-serving; Shepherd: Committed, selfless, prioritizes spouse's well-being.

Types of Commitment

Devotion: Motivation to maintain quality relationships.
Constraint: Factors that maintain relationships despite challenges.

Covenants vs. Contracts

Covenants are eternal, sacred commitments accountable to God, while contracts are transient and lack spiritual significance.

Cleaving Doctrine

Emphasizes loyalty and closeness between spouses, prioritizing the marital relationship above all others.

Spousal Preeminence

Highlights the significance of the spouse's position above children and other family ties.

Creating Marital Identity

Counsel suggests newly married couples establish their independence from parents, focusing solely on their relationship.

Emphasizes teamwork and equality in decision-making within marriage relationships.

Patriarchal Priesthood Structure

Family governance is led by both parents, reflecting equality and shared responsibilities.

Ecology of Marriage

Explores factors influencing marital dynamics: family of origin, personal readiness, couple processes, social context.

Risk Factors in Premarital Relationships

Premarital intimacy can lead to emotional fragmentation and counterfeit closeness.

De-Institutionalization of Marriage

Shift in perceptions of marriage from a formal institution to a focus on companionship.

Trends Leading to De-Institutionalization

Includes changes in labor division, higher divorce rates, increasing cohabitation, and shifting societal norms.

Health Benefits of Marriage

Results in longer life, lower illness rates, improved mental health, and overall happiness.

Selection vs. Causation Theories

Research supports that marital status impacts health beyond just the selection of partners.

Domains of Marital Competence

Encompasses becoming a right person, finding a right person, and committing to a right marriage.

Finding vs. Becoming Approach

Finding focuses on searching for the right partner; becoming emphasizes personal growth before and after marriage.

Intergenerational Transmission

Influences current relationship behaviors based on family background and experiences.

Transitional Character

An individual who alters their family's negative legacy, contributing positively to future generations.

Common Factors of Marriage Success

Quality of parents’ marriage and overall family environment significantly affect relationship outcomes.

Amae and Emotional Security

Reflects the deep human need for connection and love, equating emotional safety with freedom.

Concept of Belonging

Essential for self-worth and security, rooted in the desire for deep, loving connections with others.

Personal Security and Marriage Success

Attributes like self-esteem and secure attachments are crucial for a healthy marriage.

Understanding Worth vs. Worthiness

Every individual possesses innate worth that remains constant, independent of behaviors or actions.### Self-Esteem and Worthiness
Confusing self-worth with worthiness can lead to false foundations for self-esteem.
Past experiences significantly shape an individual's self-perception.
Counterfeit sources of self-worth, such as societal validation, should be identified and removed.

Marriage Success Factors

Mature love is a crucial element for successful marriages.
Emotional, cognitive, and behavioural aspects play a role in fostering mature love.

Fowers' Four Marital Virtues

Friendship: Essential virtues include caring, helpfulness, companionship; involves understanding and avoiding a parallel marriage.
Fairness: Equal partnership in family responsibilities strengthens the marriage; both partners should share parenting and household tasks.
Generosity: Involves forgiveness, seeing the best in each other, and transforming motivations within the relationship.
Loyalty: Commitment to the marriage, even through challenges, requires shared sacrifice and transformed motivations.

Features of Forgiveness

Key elements of forgiveness include letting go of past offenses and transforming motivations towards reconciliation.

Empathetic Listening

Effective communication relies more on listening and understanding than on articulateness.

Listening Skills

Stop talking to allow others to express themselves fully.
Create a relaxed environment for the speaker.
Pay attention to nonverbal cues.
Listen for unsaid thoughts and feelings.
Understand the speaker’s message completely before responding.
Show patience and avoid interruptions.
Maintain composure and hold your temper.
Empathize to connect more deeply with the speaker.

Clear-Sending Communication

Clear-sending emphasizes honesty and clarity while being respectful to others' feelings and perspectives.

Authenticity

Authenticity entails being genuine and not engaging in deception or pretense.

Love Languages

Love languages include verbal, touch, time, and service, highlighting how individuals express and receive love.
"Sending errors" and "receiving errors" can occur when love languages are misunderstood.

I-Statements

I-statements promote expressing personal feelings and thoughts without judgment.
They encourage taking responsibility for one's emotions and foster trust through openness.

Poor Listening Styles

Persuasive Listening: Focuses on finding an opportunity to dominate the conversation rather than understanding the speaker.
Directive Listening: Attempts to direct the conversation without truly comprehending the speaker’s message, often leading to miscommunication.

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Prepare for your Marriage Preparation Midterm by reviewing key concepts and definitions related to the institutional nature of marriage. These flashcards cover important views and meanings behind marriage as both a means and an end. Test your understanding and ensure you're ready for the exam!