Let Love Have the Last Word by Common

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Common's memoir emphasizes that love should be the ultimate guiding principle. How does he suggest applying this principle in decision-making?

Prioritizing personal gain and ambition above all else, as love for oneself justifies any action.
Allowing love, in its various forms, to be the primary consideration, aiming for choices that promote life and good over negativity. (correct)
Ignoring practical considerations and logical reasoning in favor of purely emotional responses.
Seeking external validation and approval from others to ensure decisions align with popular opinion.

According to Common, what role does self-love play in our ability to form healthy relationships with others?

Self-love is secondary to romantic love; prioritizing a relationship will naturally lead to self-acceptance.
Self-love is unnecessary, as external relationships should provide all the love and fulfillment one needs.
Self-love is detrimental, leading to selfishness and an inability to compromise in relationships.
Self-love is a prerequisite, as it fills a void that no external relationship can completely satisfy. (correct)

Common discusses his struggles with 'love addiction' and 'intimacy avoidance'. How do these conflicting tendencies manifest in his relationships?

He prioritizes emotional intimacy above all else.
He experiences a cycle of pursuing partners intensely but then creating emotional distance once the relationship becomes serious. (correct)
He avoids forming any close relationships, preferring solitude and independence.
He maintains stable, long-term relationships with consistent emotional engagement.

Common reflects on repeating negative patterns in his life. What question does he pose regarding this cyclical behavior?

"Why do I keep making these decisions that I know play out exactly the same way? I can't help myself." (D) Signup and view all the answers

What role does faith or spirituality – specifically, a relationship with God – play in Common's journey towards love, as expressed in the memoir excerpts?

His relationship with God serves as a central source of love, guidance, and strength, influencing his pursuit of self-love and healthier relationships. (B) Signup and view all the answers

Common aims to 'let love have the last word', balancing this with his acknowledgement of the complexity and challenges within relationships. How might this influence his approach to conflict resolution within a relationship?

Approaching disagreements with empathy and a focus on finding solutions to foster understanding and connection. (A) Signup and view all the answers

Common discusses the importance of acknowledging the imperfect nature of love. How might accepting this imperfection influence one's expectations within a romantic relationship?

It would foster a greater sense of empathy, forgiveness, and acceptance of flaws within oneself and one's partner. (C) Signup and view all the answers

If Common were advising someone struggling with repeating negative relationship patterns, what guidance might he offer based on the excerpts?

To prioritize self-reflection, self-love, and spiritual growth, while acknowledging the imperfect nature of relationships. (B) Signup and view all the answers

In the context of the book, what does 'love addiction' primarily refer to?

The pursuit of the intense initial sensations of infatuation rather than a genuine, lasting connection. (B) Signup and view all the answers

According to the book, what is the foundational step toward being able to genuinely love others?

Cultivating self-love and acceptance. (D) Signup and view all the answers

How did Common's relationship with his daughter Amoy contribute to his personal development, as depicted in the book?

It served as a catalyst for introspection, aiding him in recognizing past errors in judgment and behavior. (A) Signup and view all the answers

In what way does the book portray artistic expression, particularly hip-hop, in Common's journey?

As a therapeutic outlet and a means to express his inner self and connect with others. (D) Signup and view all the answers

Why does Common emphasize compassion and understanding toward incarcerated individuals?

To highlight the shared humanity and potential for redemption within all people, including those marginalized by society. (D) Signup and view all the answers

What does 'Let Love Have the Last Word' signify in practical terms, according to the book?

Consistently making decisions and reacting with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness, even in challenging situations. (C) Signup and view all the answers

According to the book, how can one cultivate a stronger connection with both oneself and a higher power?

By engaging in regular self-reflection, prayer, and study of spiritual texts. (C) Signup and view all the answers

How does the theme of forgiveness relate to personal growth and the concept of 'love'?

Forgiveness allows for the release of resentment, facilitating personal healing and a deeper capacity for empathy and love. (D) Signup and view all the answers

What role did Common's mother play in shaping his understanding and expression of love?

She fostered a strong sense of self-worth and instilled values of love and education. (A) Signup and view all the answers

What is the relationship between 'surrendering to God' and 'staying true to yourself' as per the book?

Surrendering to God and staying true to oneself are seen as complementary aspects of personal growth, fostering authenticity and alignment with one's values and vision. (C) Signup and view all the answers

How does Common describe the relationship between art and love in his memoir?

Art serves as a medium for self-expression and connection, extending love to the world. (D) Signup and view all the answers

What significance does Common place on presence and forgiveness in the context of love?

He sees presence and forgiveness as actions to remove barriers and foster deep connections. (D) Signup and view all the answers

In "Let Love Have the Last Word," what role does Common suggest past experiences play in current relationships?

Past experiences are crucial to acknowledge but should not dominate the ability to love in the present. (B) Signup and view all the answers

What does Common identify as the source of his ability to 'know what I should do from moment to moment'?

Trusting in himself combined with faith in God. (D) Signup and view all the answers

What is the central role of faith and spirituality in Common's concept of love, as depicted in his book?

Faith in God provides the bedrock for all aspects of love, self-acceptance, and healing. (B) Signup and view all the answers

How does Common extend his understanding of love to encompass community and social justice?

By working with incarcerated individuals and advocating for a more equitable world. (B) Signup and view all the answers

What does Common suggest is the first step towards serving the community with love?

Finding individual ways to express love of self. (D) Signup and view all the answers

What is the primary focus of 'Let Love Have the Last Word'?

The exploration and deliberate practice of diverse forms of love. (B) Signup and view all the answers

In the memoir, what is the message Common is trying to convey by including heroes in his life, such as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Muhammad Ali, and Dr. Maya Angelo?

These figures found their individual ways to serve the community, but it all starts with the love of self. (A) Signup and view all the answers

According to Common, how does love contribute to personal growth and transformation?

Love empowers individuals to confront imperfections, reconcile with the past, and strive for a better self. (A) Signup and view all the answers

What does Common indicate regarding the role of God in achieving self-love and personal fulfillment?

God is viewed as a force that gives people their full light and power. (B) Signup and view all the answers

What sentiment does Common express as his primary desire regarding his relationship with his daughter, Amoy?

Being a good father to her. (B) Signup and view all the answers

How does Common say one can develop 'the God within'?

Through acts of Love. (D) Signup and view all the answers

According to Common, what actions must take place to start 'real change'?

Thinking about people and taking action. (B) Signup and view all the answers

According to Common, what is the most important aspect to have when it comes to love?

Forgiveness (C) Signup and view all the answers

Flashcards

Love's Centrality

Love is the ultimate goal and should guide all actions and decisions.

Self-Love

Loving oneself is essential before truly loving others.

Imperfect Relationships

Relationships are complex and come with challenges and imperfections.

Love Addiction

The tendency to compulsively pursue romantic connections, often prioritizing the chase over genuine love.