Who You Are When No One's Looking Ch 7

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What do employees most desire in their bosses according to surveys and studies?

Charisma

Career advancement opportunities

Honesty (correct)

Generosity

What is often cited as essential for maintaining relationships, whether they are friendships or partnerships?

Honesty (correct)

Shared interests

Financial support

Frequent communication

Why does the author believe that a commitment to honesty is important in society?

It enhances personal happiness.

It minimizes misunderstandings.

It fosters trust and sustains relationships. (correct)

It leads to financial stability.

What was one of the critiques Jesus made about the Pharisees in the passage?

They focused on external appearances. Signup and view all the answers

What does the phrase 'tough love' refer to in the context of the chapter?

Providing support through honesty. Signup and view all the answers

What is the primary goal of tough love as described?

To confront and address harmful behavior Signup and view all the answers

Which of the following best reflects the mindset of a peacekeeper?

Choosing to ignore tensions to avoid conflict Signup and view all the answers

What does the author indicate is necessary for effective tough love?

Belief in prioritizing truth over comfort Signup and view all the answers

How does the author characterize tenderhearted individuals' perception of tough love?

Unnatural and frightening Signup and view all the answers

What can be a consequence of prioritizing peace keeping over truth telling in relationships?

A spirit of disappointment leading to resentment Signup and view all the answers

What is the first command given about communicating in relationships?

Put off falsehood Signup and view all the answers

What can be the consequence of choosing peace keeping over truth telling in a relationship?

Undermining the relationship Signup and view all the answers

What motivates individuals to suppress the truth in conversations?

Fear of discomfort Signup and view all the answers

What does tough love prioritize over personal comfort?

Other person's well-being Signup and view all the answers

What eventually happened after Lynne confronted her husband about his priorities?

He faced the truth about himself Signup and view all the answers

How does the writer describe his interaction with the kind man regarding faith?

He avoids discussing faith Signup and view all the answers

What phrase reflects the importance of speaking the truth in love according to the chapter?

Truth over tranquility Signup and view all the answers

What type of peace is contrasted with counterfeit peace in healthy relationships?

Genuine peace Signup and view all the answers

What does the author identify as a common personal struggle when it comes to sharing difficult truths?

The fear of rejection Signup and view all the answers

What is the suggested action when one truly loves another, as explained in the content?

Risks current comfort for the sake of the beloved Signup and view all the answers

Study Notes

Honesty in Relationships

Honesty is paramount in relationships, according to business magazines, management books and surveys.
Honesty is essential for strong friendships, marriages, families, businesses and faith-based organizations.
Jesus used tough love by speaking the truth, even if it was upsetting, difficult to receive, and tough to swallow.
Tough love is painful but potent.
Without tough love, tender love can degenerate into sentimentality, leading to deception and the disintegration of the relationship.

Truth Telling vs. Peace Keeping

Tenderhearted people often prioritize peace-keeping over truth-telling, which can lead to resentment, bitterness and hatred.
Peace at any price is a form of deception.
Truth-telling is essential for building strong and lasting relationships.

Well-being over Comfort

Putting the well-being of another person ahead of your own comfort level is crucial for a healthy relationship.
Speaking truth in love can be uncomfortable, but it is essential for protecting the other person's well-being.

Confrontation is Essential

Confrontation, while uncomfortable, is necessary for restoring true peace between people.
Engage in meaningful dialogue and try to work out differences.
Prepare for a heart-to-heart talk by:
- Clarifying the issue
- Cleansing your spirit
- Selecting a time and place for meeting
- Praying for guidance
Conduct the talk by:
- Beginning with a statement of commitment to the relationship
- Delivering your points clearly and respectfully
- Ending with a statement of hope for the future of the relationship### Tough Love Explained
Tough love involves direct communication about issues.
It's about stating feelings constructively, not accusing.
Using "I feel" statements encourages openness.
It avoids blaming and invites dialogue for resolving problems.

Potential Outcomes of Tough Love

It may be difficult to resolve problems immediately.
The person may react negatively initially.
However, the relationship may improve over time.
If things worsen, mediation with a trusted person can be helpful.
If all else fails, tough love may lead to permanent division.

Importance of Tough Love

It promotes healthy and honest relationships
It is essential for addressing issues and preventing further damage.
Relationships need to be nurtured and strengthened, even during disagreements.
Tough love mirrors Jesus' love for us - tender yet firm.
It encourages confronting issues while holding onto love and forgiveness.

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