40 Questions
The exercise of dividing a paper into three columns is meant to help individuals implement worldly love.
False
The third column in the exercise is for listing areas where individuals are already good.
False
The high points and low points record is a way to track individual progress in personal growth.
False
The biblical counselor recommends online resources like soundword.com for individuals to learn about relationships.
True
The first column in the exercise is for listing areas where individuals need to change.
False
The second column is for listing the benefits of implementing godly love.
False
Being tender-hearted is a characteristic of bad pastors.
False
A tender-hearted pastor is one who is unaffected by the emotions of others.
False
The exercise is only meant for individuals in romantic relationships.
False
The biblical counselor recommends recording high points and low points of a relationship on audio or video tapes.
True
The CEO type of personality makes a good shepherd.
False
Being empathetic towards a counselee is essential in building a strong relationship.
True
The phrase "tender-hearted" is literally translated from the Greek word "tender-bowled".
True
A good pastor focuses primarily on communicating biblical concepts to their counselee.
False
Being emotionally warm with a counselee is a sign of weakness.
False
Showing kindness and empathy towards a counselee can lead to facilitated responses.
True
During pre-counseling, homework is always centered around the gospel.
True
The counselor never gives the counselee a Bible during pre-counseling.
False
The counselor's homework focuses on personal growth and understanding marriage biblically.
True
The counselor's data gathering inventory forms are only for husbands.
False
The counselor provides homework on how to be a good friend in a romantic relationship.
False
The counselor's role concepts include understanding husband and wife roles.
True
The counselor's homework includes 50 questions for husbands to ask themselves, but not for wives.
False
The counselor's homework is only focused on meeting a partner, not on personal growth.
False
The biblical counselor wants to know about a person's daily life to be able to help them.
True
The biblical counselor is driven by curiosity when trying to help people.
False
A biblical counselor only helps individuals in romantic relationships.
False
Ministering the word of God involves getting into the fine details of a person's life.
True
The biblical counselor's primary goal is to communicate biblical concepts to their counselee.
False
A biblical counselor is only interested in dispensing the Bible and not in the specifics of a person's life.
False
The biblical counselor's approach is focused on understanding the big picture of a person's life.
False
The biblical counselor's role is limited to providing general advice and not specific guidance.
False
A good pastoral counselor should use sarcasm to connect with their counselees
False
Facilitated responses in counseling encourage self-exploration and discovery
True
A pastoral counselor should point out the counselee's sin immediately
False
Counselees always know everything that's going on in their lives
False
Ridicule is an effective way to build trust with a counselee
False
A good counselor should focus primarily on communicating biblical concepts to their counselee
False
Facilitated responses in counseling promote a condescending attitude
False
A pastoral counselor should be emotionally unaffected by the emotions of their counselee
False
Study Notes
Effective Pastoral Counseling
- A pastor must establish a connection with their counselee by being fully engaged and showing empathy through non-verbal means, such as maintaining eye contact and being tender-hearted.
- Tender-heartedness involves being emotionally sensitive and warm, unlike a CEO type who is hardened and cold.
- A counselor should avoid pushing aside emotional elements to focus solely on teaching biblical concepts, as this can lead to the counselee feeling unheard and unimportant.
Pre-Counseling Homework
- Give counselees gospel-centered homework to complete before the counseling session, such as studying passages about the gospel or the Romans Road.
- Provide resources like Jay Adams' books or Wayne Mack's materials on preparing for marriage and family.
- Assign tasks that encourage interaction with the Bible, such as reading specific passages, highlighting important statements, and creating a plan to implement godly love.
Data Gathering Inventory Forms
- Use forms to gather information on common areas of sin and conflict between husbands and wives, such as deep friendship inventory, role concepts, and understanding marriage biblically.
- Assign exercises like defining and creating a plan to implement godly love based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-6, such as defining terms, identifying areas of failure, and listing steps to change.
High Points and Low Points Record
- Have counselees record the high points and low points of their relationship, including good times and bad times, to help identify areas for improvement.
- Use resources like audio or video recordings, online materials, and MP3 downloads to aid in the counseling process.
Facilitated Responses
- Avoid using verbal behaviors like sarcasm, ridicule, or mockery, as these can drive counselees away and create a condescending attitude.
- Encourage self-exploration, discovery, and understanding by creating a safe and non-judgmental environment for counselees to share their thoughts and feelings.
Learn how pastoral counselors can establish a connection with their counselees through empathy and emotional sensitivity, and avoid common pitfalls in biblical counseling.
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