Edukasyon sa Pagpapakatao 7: Pagpapatawad at Pakikipagsundo

• Edukasyon sa Pagpapakatao 7 covers Kapuwa bilang katuwang sa pagtupad ng mga tungkulin.
• Aralin 2 covers Pagpapatawad at Pakikipagsundo sa kapwa.
• Instr. Joel G. Soliveres, LPT from PUP Laboratory High School is the faculty member in charge.

Objectives

• Practice humility through acts of forgiveness and reconciliation towards others.
• Identify actions that demonstrate forgiveness and reconciliation.
• Infer that forgiving and making amends with others helps in self-development and restores broken relationships within the family and community when done with humility.
• Apply personal actions of forgiveness and reconciliation towards others.

Key Vocabulary

• Mental Health is a state of well-being, enabling people to cope with life's stresses, realize abilities, learn well, and contribute to their community.
• Confession is acknowledging or accepting one's sins
• Reconciliation involves restoring unity in a relationship
• Humility is freedom from pride or arrogance, and recognizing one's limitations
• Forgiveness means an intentional decision to let go of resentment and anger

Forgiveness

• Forgiveness is a conscious decision to release feelings of resentment or revenge towards someone who has hurt you.
• It is often extended even to those who may not deserve it.
• It means not dwelling on whether the offender deserves forgiveness or whether you want to forgive them.
• It involves releasing the desire for revenge and moving forward with your life.
• Forgiveness doesn't require the offender to accept it or admit wrongdoing; it is about your freedom

Why Forgive?

• Forgiveness is self-liberating
• It empowers you to release negative emotions and move forward

Two Types of Forgiveness

• Decisional Forgiveness
• Emotional Forgiveness

Decisional Forgiveness

• Is making a decision to not hold onto offense against someone, and to restore the relationship.
• This form is easy to do when friends and loved ones commit minor offenses like forgetting a birthday or being late.

Emotional Forgiveness

• Is more challenging but can be deeper and longer-lasting.
• It involves changing negative thoughts and feelings towards the offender to neutral or positive ones.
• It does not mean forgetting hurtful actions, but allowing positive feelings to replace negative ones over time.

Reconciliation

• Reconciliation occurs when emotional forgiveness has happened and both parties agree to rebuild their relationship

• It is possible to fully forgive without forgetting the offense or fully restoring the relationship.

• Forgiveness is giving a gift of forgiveness by changing their thoughts and feelings toward others.

• Reconciliation is two people rebuilding trust and changing behaviors to restore a relationship.

Humility

• Forgiveness and reconciliation are possible when humility is present.
• It expresses humbleness and recognizing limitations.
• It means accepting everyone has weaknesses, makes mistakes, sins, and no one is perfect.
• It shows compassion towards others and acknowledging reliance on God's help and mercy.
• The truth about humility sets a person free to forgive; forgiveness opens the door to freedom from resentment

The Value of Forgiveness and Reconciliation

• Enables more positive relationships

• Builds confidence and ease with others

• Vital for community growth

• Creates unity and brotherhood

• Forgiveness and reconciliation through humility create happiness and strengthen family and community ties.

• Lack of forgiveness leads to irritability, stress, and emotional burden, affecting mental health.

• In 2022, the World Health Organization stated that social and psychological factors impact mental health.

• The absence of forgiveness can negatively affect one's health, potentially causing stress, anger, and depression.

• Other conditions such as heart disease and cancer, may arise from forgoing reconciliation

• On the other hand, forgiveness can positively impact health by decreasing stress, increasing happiness, and improving heart health

• Overall, forgiveness is essential for overall well-being.

Steps to Forgiveness: REACH Model

• Dr. Everett Worthington created the REACH model for forgiveness

REACH Model: Recall

• Objectively recall the event and acknowledge the associated pain and anger.

REACH Model: Empathize

• Understand from the offender's perspective and the events possibly faced to take ownership of the event

REACH Model: Altruistic

• Freely offer forgiveness, regardless of whether it's deserved or requested, to release the offender from your anger and pain.

REACH Model: Commitment

• Publicly commit to forgiving the offender by telling family or friends
• Write a letter of forgiveness to help uphold the decision

REACH Model: Hold On

• Hold on to forgiveness and stand firm to the decision to forgive even when the feeling is painful
• Forgiveness is not forgetting; the memories may occur again, but the decision to forgive means to continue

Steps to Reconciliation

Reconciliation: Naninindigan (Uphold)

• Is the first step where both parties uphold commitment to reconciliation.

Reconciliation: Magpasya (Decide)

• Is when the two parties decide if, how, and why they want to repair the relationship

Reconciliation: Pag-usapan (Discuss)

• Is both parties discuss the violations committed, acknowledging that they may have also been victims
• Involve honesty to express opinions so both can continue in the process

Reconciliation: Paglilinis (Cleanse)

• Both promise a "detox" by eliminating negative behaviors in dealing with each other such as being critical, and defensiveness
• Expectations need to be realistic for a new relationship

Reconciliation: Pagtatalaga ng sarili (Dedication of self)

• Requires committing to growth by acknowledging empathy
• A requirement in order to reduce the chance of negative emotions and words in the presence of positive emotions

Personal forgiveness

• Basahin ang kuwento ni Gracia Burnham

Activity

• Read Gracia Burnham's story and determine the victim's situation and how she forgave the perpetrators using the REACH model.

• Gracia Burnham, a missionary in the Philippines, was kidnapped by Muslim terrorists

• She and her husband spent over a year in the jungle, enduring hardship, water scarcity, and 17 gun battles.

• Martin, her husband, died by their rescuers the day she was rescued

• Divine intervention transformed Gracia's heart as she then learned to forgive her enemies

• Gracia shared the Word of God teachings to Abu Sayyaf members who accepted Christ.

• This story highlights that there is no wrong place or wrong time, as God is always working

• Consider how Gracia felt toward her kidnappers, the Abu Sayyaf.

• Examine which thoughts Gracia entertained explaining why Abu Sayyaf kidnapped them.

• Consider how Gracia showed her gift of forgiveness.

• Determine how Gracia announced the forgiveness to kidnappers.

• Reflect upon if Gracia exhibited forgiveness and provide what was done to exhibit this