10 Questions
What was the problem with the little boy?
He had a bad temper and would get angry very soon.
What did the boy's father give him to help control his anger?
A huge bag of nails
How did the boy's behavior change as he hammered nails to the fence?
He gradually found it very difficult to hammer the nails and decided to control his temper.
What did the boy achieve when he didn't hammer any nails to the fence on a particular day?
He did not lose his temper at all that day.
How did the boy's behavior change after several days of not losing his temper?
He did not lose his temper for the next several days and did not hammer any nails.
What did the boy's father ask him to do when he controlled his anger?
remove the nails
What did the father compare the nails to?
bad temper
What did the boy see in the fence after pulling out most of the nails?
holes in the fence
According to the father, what will remain even if the nails are removed?
scars
What did the father emphasize about the impact of words?
Words are more painful than physical abuse
Study Notes
The Little Boy's Anger Issue
- The little boy had a problem with anger management.
The Father's Solution
- The boy's father gave him a hammer and a bag of nails to help him control his anger.
The Nail-Hammer Exercise
- The boy was instructed to hammer a nail into the fence every time he lost his temper.
- As he hammered nails, his behavior didn't change, and the nails accumulated on the fence.
Progress and Improvement
- On a particular day, when the boy didn't hammer any nails, he achieved control over his anger for the first time.
- After several days of not losing his temper, the boy's behavior changed, and he became more calm.
The Father's Instructions
- When the boy controlled his anger, his father asked him to pull out one nail from the fence for each day he remained calm.
The Nails Analogy
- The father compared the nails to the hurtful words spoken in anger.
- The boy saw that the fence was still damaged even after pulling out most of the nails.
The Impact of Words
- According to the father, the wounds caused by hurtful words will remain even if forgiven, just like the holes in the fence remained after the nails were removed.
- The father emphasized that words can cause lasting damage and should be used carefully.
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