Conscious Discipline Flashcards

Conscious Discipline Overview

• The brain is pattern-seeking and survival-oriented, driving behaviors and reactions.
• Conscious Discipline promotes transformational change in individuals and environments.

Connection Ingredients

• Four essential ingredients for connection:
  • Eye contact
  • Touch
  • Presence
  • Playful situations

Impact of Connections

• Connections enhance self-control and willingness among individuals, fostering a supportive environment.

Job Description

• Adults' job: maintain a safe environment.
• Children's job: assist in maintaining a safe space.

Behavior and States

• Behavior is dictated by one's state: survival, emotional, or executive.
• Self-regulation allows for a pause between stimulus and response.

Brain States Explained

• Survival State: Governed by the brain stem, characterized by attack, defend, or surrender responses.
• Emotional State: Managed by the middle brain, includes feelings of blame, shame, guilt, and verbal attacks.
• Executive State: Associated with the pre-frontal lobe, involving investigation and wisdom.

Acronyms for States

• Survival State: Noticing, Assertiveness, Routines with pictures, Composure, Safe place (NARCS).
• Emotional State: Rituals, Encouragement, Jobs, Empathy, Choices, The school family (REJEC).
• Executive State: Solutions, Positive intent, Academic integration, Consequences, Executive skills (SPACE).

Triggers and Responses

• When triggered, responses are influenced by one's personal past.
• QTip: Quit Taking It Personally; a reminder for mindful responses.
• OOPS: Other Opportunities to Practice Self-Control; encourages finding chances to improve behavior.

Core Principles

• Conscious Discipline focuses on building a healthy family dynamic and fostering intrinsic motivation.

Techniques for State Change

• Wishing well is known as a fast track to achieving the executive state.
• STAR: Smile, Take a deep breath, And Relax; a technique for self-regulation.

Fostering Connection

• Building a "we" culture involves shifting from judging others to noticing behaviors.
• Reframe "make me" language into "I'm going to" statements to promote cooperation.

Mirror Neurons and Connection

• Mirror neurons download calmness to children through eye contact and deep breathing, facilitating emotional regulation.

Safe Place Importance

• The presence of a safe adult is crucial in implementing a safe space for children.

Behavior Modification

• Modify behavior by clearly stating desired actions rather than forbidden behaviors.

Assertiveness and Encouragement

• An assertive voice signifies a stance of knowing and confidence.
• Replace "good job" with encouragement phrases like "You did it," "Way to go," and "Good for you."

Understanding Intentions

• Control often implies a punitive or coercive intent, while structure aims to provide help.
• Feelings serve as a bridge between problems and solutions.

DNA Technique

• DNA: Describe body signals, Name the feeling, Acknowledge desire or intent; a method for emotional expression.

Effects of Disconnection

• Discouraged children tend to be disruptive, while disconnected children pose larger risks of dangerous behavior.

Turning Resistance into Cooperation

• Positive intent can transform resistance into cooperation among individuals.

Intent Types and Consequences

• Three types of intent: punitive (punish), permissive (rescue), and intent to teach (educate).
• Two ingredients essential for effective consequences are reflection and ownership.
• Three types of consequences include:
  • Natural
  • Logical
  • Problem solving

PEACE Framework

• PEACE: Problem stated, Encouragement for ownership, Affirmation of the problem, Collection of helpful situations, Evaluation of effectiveness.

Explore the key concepts of Conscious Discipline with this engaging set of flashcards. Each card highlights important terms and definitions that are essential for understanding transformational change and building connections for self-control. Perfect for educators and parents alike!