Ch. 7 Love & Intimacy Flashcards

Study Notes

Love Types Overview

Romantic Love: Idealized and perfection-based, often focused on passion and attraction.
Unrequited Love: Love directed toward someone who does not reciprocate feelings.
Companionate Love: Deep affection characterized by familiarity, often equated with conjugal love.

Love Styles

Eros (The Romantic Lover):
- Immediate attraction; focuses on physical traits.
- Tends to have an idealized version of a partner, which is unfulfillable.
- Participants often feel secure in childhood attachments.
Ludus (The Game-Playing Lover):
- Views love as a playful game; lacks serious commitment.
- Enjoys multiple simultaneous relationships without deep emotional ties.
- Typically associated with an avoidant attachment style stemming from childhood.
Storge (The Quiet, Calm Lover):
- Develops slowly and organically; emphasizes stability and comfort.
- Relationships often evolve into friendships post-breakup.
- Contrasts with erotic lovers who desire intense romance.
Mania (The Crazy Lover):
- Characterized by possessiveness and dependence; emotional highs and lows are prevalent.
- Lovers experience significant anxiety about separation and often display obsessive tendencies.
- Usually linked to an anxious/ambivalent upbringing.
Pragma (The Practical Lover):
- Pragmatic approach to love with set expectations and planning.
- Seeks long-term relationships based on specific criteria, akin to creating a “shopping list.”
- Very calculated about important milestones and decisions in love.
Agape (The Selfless Lover):
- Altruistic and selfless love that does not require reciprocity.
- Exhibits patience and absence of jealousy; typically short-lived episodes.
- Rarely found in long-term relationships; often exemplified by selfless acts.

Love Without Intimacy or Passion

Nonlove: Casual interactions lacking intimacy, passion, or commitment (NO P, NO I, NO C).
Liking: Presence of intimacy without strong passion or commitment, typical in friendships (YES I, NO P, NO C).
Infatuation: Intense passion with a lack of intimacy; often fleeting and focused on physical desire (YES P, NO I, NO C).
Empty Love: Commitment without passion or intimacy; may evolve into more meaningful relationships (YES C, NO I, NO P).
Romantic Love: Combination of passion and intimacy; often a relationship's initial phase characterized by joy (YES P, YES I, NO C).

Description

Test your knowledge of key concepts related to love and intimacy with these flashcards. Concepts like romantic love, unrequited love, and companionate love are explored in detail, providing a comprehensive understanding of emotional connections. Ideal for anyone studying psychology or relationships.