Personal Relationships - Quarter 2 Module 1

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT Mrs. Chiara A. Ramos Quarter 2 Module 1: Personal Relationships  Objectives: 1. discuss an understanding of teen- age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions 2. express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and co...

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT Mrs. Chiara A. Ramos Quarter 2 Module 1: Personal Relationships  Objectives: 1. discuss an understanding of teen- age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions 2. express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment  Personal Relationship refers to the association and close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are formed by mutual experiences. Teenagers commonly have relationships with their family, friends and significant other. 4  Family Relationships Family is defined as “two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption, and who live together as one household.” It includes siblings and parents who may with you as you grow up, and relatives such as grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins who you may not see frequently. Family bond plays a vital role in person’s well-being since it may form other kinds of relationships such as friendships and romantic relationships. Having strong family relationships is ideal although it doesn’t happen always. 5  Friendships Friends are the people who we are not related to but who we choose to interact with. They are the people who we trust, respect, care about and feel that we can confide in and want to spend time with. A friendship is a reciprocal relationship. Both people must see each other as a friend for it to exist. There are different degrees of friendship. You may find that you feel closer to some friends than others. This is perfectly normal. 6  Romantic Relationships A romantic relationship is when you feel very strongly attracted to the other person, both to their personality and, often, also physically and should be reciprocated by the other person in the relationship. A romantic relationship exists between a boyfriend and girlfriend (in a heterosexual relationship) or a boyfriend and boyfriend or girlfriend and girlfriend (in a homosexual relationship) or spouses (in a marriage) or life partners (in a civil partnership or long-term unmarried relationship). 7 Attraction, Love and Commitment  Every human being has his own way of expressing his attraction, love, and commitment due to our different life experiences. When attraction between two persons is discussed, it is often understood as based on physical appearance while this might be true to a certain extent but there is more to attraction that we already know. 9  According to Helen Fisher, attraction is primarily on physiology or certain hormones that get attracted to others and is the first stage during the changes of personality development which leads to closeness, love and commitment. But, disappointments in relationships occur usually because of the misunderstanding about the different ways of expressing their attraction, love and commitment. Thus, let us explore how we can express our attraction, love and commitment to others. 10  In the biological model of love as proposed by anthropologist Helen Fisher, love can start with any of these three feelings: lust, attraction and attachment depending on the person. Each involves different neurochemicals in your brain. 11  Three Brain Systems of Love or Stages of Falling in Love 1. Lust refers to an urge or desire that motivates us to partake in sexual activity. 2. Attraction is described as the love-struck phase. This is the stage when a person loses sleep and appetite over someone and become excited to someone while daydreaming of special person. It is part of lust because it involves focusing our attention to a particular person or desire. Many factors influence attraction. 3. Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space. It is when long-lasting commitments are exchanged. 12  Factors of Attraction a. Physical Attractiveness It is one of the primary determinants of romantic attraction. Most people prefer whom they consider physically attractive especially in the early stages of dating. b. Proximity People tend to get attracted to people who are geographically closer to them. They are more likely to develop feelings of mutual familiarity with the people who live close to us or go to school with us and increased level of comfort when there is regular contact and no prior negative feelings. 13  Factors of Attraction c. Similarity People pick partners who we have similarities with such as social class, background, religious beliefs, age and education. The more attitudes and opinions two people share, especially when they are similar, the more they will want to do the same activities, and would create a strong bond between them. d. Reciprocity People like others who like them back. People feel indebted when someone does something good for them and tend to reciprocate the action. The more we are liked by someone they equally like, the more we behave in ways that promote mutual feelings of liking. 14  ACTIVITY 1: WRITTEN WORK – Answer this using the google link provided by the teacher Characteristics of Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships Instruction: Identify healthy and unhealthy relationships 1. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person. 2. You do not try to control each other. There is equal amount of give and take. 3. You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried. 4. There is communication, sharing and trust. You feel safe to share secrets. 5. You feel that you give more attention to them than they give to you. You feel controlled. 6. You don’t communicate, share or trust. 7. You like to spend time together but also enjoy doing things apart. 8. You feel pressured to spend time together and you feel guilty when you’re both apart from each other. 9. You feel the need to be someone that you are not. 10. It’s easy to be yourself when you are with them. 11. You respect each other’s opinion. You listen and try to understand their point of view even if you don’t always agree with them. 12. You feel the need to be someone that you are not. 13. There is no fear in your relationship. 14. You feel there’s no respect for you or your opinion. You are not able to disagree. 15. You feel fear in your relationship. 15  Activity: Performance Task #1 Quarter 4 The Five Love Languages Instruction: Write your love language and the love languages of your listed family members such as parents and siblings, friends and significant other. Love Language List down 2 things on how you wanted to be loved & 2 things how you can share your love to them 1. Myself 2. Sibling 3. Mother 4. Father 5. Friend 16  1. Words of Affirmation Actions don’t always speak louder than word”. Unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Wanting to hear “I love you” or other positive compliments you’re your partner. And if you don’t hear it, then you might feel unloved. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You wanted to hear kind and encouraging words that build you up. 2. Acts of Service Doing nice things for other people and anything you do to ease the burden of the other person are “acts of service.” Whether it’s changing someone’s oil, cleaning the house, or giving a back rub, doing things to help make the other person happy is what this one is about. Helping with homework can be an expression of love to you. The words you wanted to hear is “Let me do it for you”. 3. Receiving Gifts You value giving and receiving gifts and some do not. So, if you measure your partner’s love by how many gifts you are given, then your love language is “receiving gifts.” Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of the gifts wanted on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. A missed birthday or a thoughtless gift would be disastrous. 4. Quality Time You measure the quality of love by how much time the other people want to spend with you. If you don’t get enough “together time,” then you might feel unloved. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks standby makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be hurtful. 5. Physical Touch A person whose primary language is physical touch is not very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hand and thoughtful touches on the arm can show excitement, concern, care and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety and love to you. 17  Sources: Fernandez, B. et.al., “Personal Development (Reader)”, https://buenavistanhs.weebly.com/uploads/7/2/2/8/7228051/personal_development_r eader_v13_final_apr_28_2016.pdf “Personal Relationship”, accessed last June 13, 2020, https://www.slideshare.net/PennVillanueva/personal-relationship “Module12:Attraction”, accessed last June 13, 2020, https://opentext.wsu.edu/social- psychology/chapter/module-12-attraction/ “Know! The Five Love Languages of Tweens/Teens”, accessed last June 13, 2020, https://preventionactionalliance.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/01/Know-The-Five- Love-Languages-of-Tweens-and-Teens.pdf 18