Module 7 Personal Relationships PDF

Good DAY  Adamsonian prayer Dear Lord, Teach me the things that are important: To be generous with Your gifts, Compassionate to those who have less, Just in the face of unfair circumstances, True when the world's values contradict my own, Gracious...

Good DAY  Adamsonian prayer Dear Lord, Teach me the things that are important: To be generous with Your gifts, Compassionate to those who have less, Just in the face of unfair circumstances, True when the world's values contradict my own, Gracious when things don't go my way, And magnanimous when they do.  Adamsonian prayer May nothing else matter Except Faith in Your goodness, my neighbors, and mine, Hope that things can get better, And Charity that always sets things right.  Adamsonian prayer May Your special Love for the Poor, The mark of my uniquely Vincentian education, Be the work I excel in, The standard I constantly refer to, And my courage when I meet You someday. O Mary conceived without sin, Pray for us who have recourse to thee. St. Vincent de Paul, Pray for us. BUILDING AND MAINTAINING RELATIONSHIPS Module 7: Personal Relationships  1. Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships including the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions. 2. Express your ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment. 3. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship. Lesson Objectives Relationships love attachment attraction RELATIONSHIP RELATIONSHIP THE CAPACITY TO TRUST OTHERS EXPRESS WHAT YOU THINK AND FEEL SHARES SECRETS UNDERSTANDS YOU IN A VERY SEPCIAL WAY DEVELOPING INTIMATE RELATIOINSHIP Personal relationship a strong, deep, and close bond between two people or a group of people which is often characterized by self - disclosure, commitment, and privacy  Characterized by Relationships with Influences your self-disclosure, family, friends, special thoughts, feelings, and commitment and someone and God behaviors privacy Personal Relationships Source of love and Learn how to manage Make it meaningful belongingness needs it  Attachment deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space (Ainsworth, 1973; Bowlby, 1969).  Attachment Gleeson and Fitzgerald (2014) proposed that childhood attachment styles affect adult relationship patterns. Theory of attraction by Rozenberg Quarterly According to social psychologists, attraction is a force that draws people together. According to Rozenberg Quarterly, you are attracted to someone based on 6 different antecedents or factors. ATTRACTION ANTECEDENTS / FACTORS propinquity reciprocity traits transference similarity physical attractiveness  First antecedent The unconscious redirection of one’s feelings from one person to another person. This transfer of one’s feelings happens when you are attracted to someone who reminds you of your father, mother, or of yourself. Transference  SECOND antecedent According to Quarterly, sometimes you become attracted to people who are in your neighborhood or to those people whom you are with for a long period like your best friend or childhood friend. Propinquity / mere exposure effect  third antecedent You become attracted to a person who has the same hobbies as you. This antecedent promotes intimacy, trust, empathy, and long-lasting relationships. Similarity  fourth antecedent You are attracted to someone because that person can participate in the give and take process of your future relationship. Reciprocity  fifth antecedent Most of the time you like a person because his or her skin is fair or he or she is tall, handsome, or pretty for you. Physical Attractiveness  SIXTH antecedent Refers to the attitude and character of the person. Traits and Characteristics What is the importance of relationship? Love Love Something that is mysterious Powerful feeling that allows you to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of others. A process You give a part of yourself by understanding, accepting others even if they have shortcomings  The persons ability to extend himself or herself for the purpose of nurturing ones own or another’s spiritual growth. Not just taking care about your self but also of the other person. Infatuation an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something. Infatuation or being smitten is the state of being carried away by an unreasoned passion, usually towards another person for whom one has developed strong romantic or platonic feelings. The theory of love by Robert Sternberg Three Components of Love 01 02 03 INTIMACY pASSION COMMITMENT Three Components of Love 01 INTIMACY Three Components of Love 02 PASSION Three Components of Love 03 COMMITMENT 8 TYPES OF LOVE https://www.youtube.com/wa tch?v=-Cxq7ZmnFLU EIGHT TYPES OF LOVE Is LOVE A CHOICE ? Keep in mind: Friendship or a caring relationship between two or more people, is an important part of adolescence Real friends are hard to find. They encourage you to do your best, provide support, and help you live your life to the fullest.  Being attracted to someone is normal at your age. However you need to deal with your feelings and how you express your emotions of attraction to avoid traps that might affect your academic success. Love is process of helping each other grow and develop to the best that they can be in the relationship.  Verse of the day! 1 Corinthians 13:4–8 “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.”