Families in Canada Review PDF

**Unit 3 Review** **[Attraction]** **Why do people fall in love (theories of attraction) -- proximity / similarity / attraction** - - **Clips analysis and the role of the media in developing our attitudes regarding attraction and marriage** - - - **[Theories of Mate Selection]** *...

**Unit 3 Review** **[Attraction]** **Why do people fall in love (theories of attraction) -- proximity / similarity / attraction** - - **Clips analysis and the role of the media in developing our attitudes regarding attraction and marriage** - - - **[Theories of Mate Selection]** **Evolutionary -- natural selection:** - - - **Social Homogamy -- similarity and proximity:** - - - - - **Ideal Mate Theory -- symbolic interactionism and homogamy** - - - **Attraction as Fair Exchange -- what I have to offer and what I want** - - **Applying theoretical perspectives -- why older men marry younger women** - - - **[Dating and Courtship]** 1. 2. 3. 4. - - - - - - **[Love]** **[Why People Marry]** **Exchange theory (reciprocity)** - - - **Symbolic interactionism (roles)** - - - - **Life course (rite of passage)** - - - **Functionalism (norm; adult status)** - - - - - - **Marriage** Trends **[Negotiating Satisfying Relationships]** **Companionate marriage** Companionship: The norm in Canada is the compassionate relationship. This is based on the principles of intimacy and commitment, independence and equality **Stages in a marriage** (3; honeymoon -- conflict -- compromise) versus Marriage Cycle +-----------------------+-----------------------+-----------------------+ | Stage | Description | Skills / Attitudes | +=======================+=======================+=======================+ | Honeymoon | Romantic, warm, | Learn what makes | | | responsive | partner happy | | | exploration | | | | | Respectful | | | Sexual attraction | | | | | Self-esteem | | | Idealization of | | | | partner | | +-----------------------+-----------------------+-----------------------+ | Conflict | Demand own needs to | Communication to | | | be met | express concerns and | | | | frustrations | | | Instability -- | | | | changes in behaviour | Open to building | | | | relationships | | | "Letdown" | | | | | Responsive to each | | | | others needs | +-----------------------+-----------------------+-----------------------+ | Compromise | Negotiation | Conflict resolution | | | | skills | | | More realistic | | | | expectations | | | | | | | | Stable and mature | | | | relationship | | +-----------------------+-----------------------+-----------------------+ Marriage Cycle: Adjustment of marriage, birth of a child, teenage years, children leaving home, retirement, growing old together **Normative and non-normative developmental crises in a marriage** ### **Gender Roles and Division of Labour Over Time** 1. - - 2. - - 3. - - 4. - ### **Negotiating Complementary Roles in a Companionate Marriage** 1. - - 2. - 3. - **[Conflict, Influence and Problem Solving]** **Typical problems in a relationship** - - - - - 1. - 2. - 3. - - 4. - 5. - **Resolving conflict -- systems theory Support, encourage, and comfort each other through everything. strategies for managing** 1. - - 2. - - - - **Rank in order of importance these strategies for managing conflict in relationships:** - - - - - - Marriages made to last Characteristics - - - - - - Research studies (Why Marriages Succeed or Fail and Nine Psychological Tasks Needed for a Good Marriage) **Marriages based on affection, humour, appreciation, and respect, in which partners have a positive attitude to the relationship and to their mate, and respond to destructive behaviours with "repair attempts," are more stable and enduring.** **Wallerstein identified nine psychological tasks required for a happy marriage:** **1.** Move on emotionally from family but still keep good connections **2.** Build a close bond with your partner while being independent **3.** Have a good sex life without letting family or work getting in the way **4.** Be good parents but make sure you make separate alone time with your partner **5.** Deal with hardships without the relationship falling apart **6.** Being able to express your feelings **7.** Using humour to avoid boredom. **8.** Support, encourage, and comfort each other through everything. **9.** Keeping alive the early romance of love while facing changes though by time.